Pre Marriage Course

[johnneycool]

Out of curiosity, how much do these things cost?!

£125. Booked ours last night

wow....
i hope this thing is optional, wouldn't that solve everything, anyone who wants to do it or believes it will help can do it, anyone who doesn't want to do it doesn't have to.
sounds pretty outdated to me considering the majority of people getting married have already been living together for years and a fair few would have kids already....
i certainly wont be handing over that kind of money to someone else to tell me how to be a husband!! 

If you're living in sin and have children out of wedlock you're going straight to hell anyway, I'd hardly be worrying about an Accord course or getting married in a church..

Bloody Á la Carte Catholics.

[armaghniac]

While the delivery of these courses may vary in quality, getting married is pretty important and long term and a few hours thinking about it is probably wise.

[finbar o tool]

While the delivery of these courses may vary in quality, getting married is pretty important and long term and a few hours thinking about it is probably wise.

you either love someone or you dont....
£125, therapy would be cheaper! 

[No wides]

While the delivery of these courses may vary in quality, getting married is pretty important and long term and a few hours thinking about it is probably wise.

Why can't you not think about it on your own just in the presence of God, and 125 quid richer?

[Keyboard Warrior]

While the delivery of these courses may vary in quality, getting married is pretty important and long term and a few hours thinking about it is probably wise.

Why can't you not think about it on your own just in the presence of God, and 125 quid richer?

Because he acts in mysterious ways (slide your £125 in the envelope like a good lad)

[armaghniac]

While the delivery of these courses may vary in quality, getting married is pretty important and long term and a few hours thinking about it is probably wise.

Why can't you not think about it on your own just in the presence of God, and 125 quid richer?

People have been getting married for a very long time, it seems likely that some useful approaches have emerged in this period, notwithstanding your ability to outthink the entire history of marriage with your own analysis.

[No wides]

While the delivery of these courses may vary in quality, getting married is pretty important and long term and a few hours thinking about it is probably wise.

Why can't you not think about it on your own just in the presence of God, and 125 quid richer?

People have been getting married for a very long time, it seems likely that some useful approaches have emerged in this period, notwithstanding your ability to outthink the entire history of marriage with your own analysis.

What utter shite so my ability to think about marriage is inadequate but sliding 125 quid to a few holy rollers will make me better equipped, it is this condescending approach that the catholic church and followers like yourself purport that renders it all horse shite.  I have yet to see anyone attempt to answer this?

I wonder what the success rate is, how many have taken the course and are still married 

[armaghniac]

What utter shite so my ability to think about marriage is inadequate but sliding 125 quid to a few holy rollers will make me better equipped, it is this condescending approach that the catholic church and followers like yourself purport that renders it all horse shite.  I have yet to see anyone attempt to answer this?

I have no doubt that the people organising this course have a more mature understanding of Catholic marriage than you have.

[Hound]

15 years since I did mine.
I would absolutely have gotten out of it if I could. Priest said he'd recommend we do the course, but that it was up to ourselves. Herself took that as meaning we had to go!

I'm glad we did.

Ours was Accord in Dublin. I'd liken it to marriage guidance, before you need it. So preventative rather than reactive - which when you think about it is much more beneficial for a whole heap of reasons.
Nothing earth shattering, but a lot of little nuggets that you might not have thought of, or thought as important.
I don't remember any of it being religious, other than a short 5 minute good luck type speech from a priest towards the end.

Just thinking about it, a refresher course every 10 or 15 years would be no bad idea either. Some gentle reminders to lose some bad habits before a serious fallout happens!

Mine was also very memorable for an unbelieveable story from one of the participants. It was the first day of the 2 day course, and there was one girl there who was on her own (the fiance did turn up on the 2nd day). She said her fella and her father got into a big fight during the engagement party, and her fella bit off her dad's ear. Literally! They couldn't sow it back on, so now he has, in her words, "a bionic ear". Marriage was still going ahead but she was worried the dad mightn't turn up to give her away!

[No wides]

What utter shite so my ability to think about marriage is inadequate but sliding 125 quid to a few holy rollers will make me better equipped, it is this condescending approach that the catholic church and followers like yourself purport that renders it all horse shite.  I have yet to see anyone attempt to answer this?

I have no doubt that the people organising this course have a more mature understanding of Catholic marriage than you have.

And I like many on here and many I have spoken to have no doubt that it was complete horse shite.

[finbar o tool]

15 years since I did mine.
I would absolutely have gotten out of it if I could. Priest said he'd recommend we do the course, but that it was up to ourselves. Herself took that as meaning we had to go!

I'm glad we did.

Ours was Accord in Dublin. I'd liken it to marriage guidance, before you need it. So preventative rather than reactive - which when you think about it is much more beneficial for a whole heap of reasons.
Nothing earth shattering, but a lot of little nuggets that you might not have thought of, or thought as important.
I don't remember any of it being religious, other than a short 5 minute good luck type speech from a priest towards the end.

Just thinking about it, a refresher course every 10 or 15 years would be no bad idea either. Some gentle reminders to lose some bad habits before a serious fallout happens!

Mine was also very memorable for an unbelieveable story from one of the participants. It was the first day of the 2 day course, and there was one girl there who was on her own (the fiance did turn up on the 2nd day). She said her fella and her father got into a big fight during the engagement party, and her fella bit off her dad's ear. Literally! They couldn't sow it back on, so now he has, in her words, "a bionic ear". Marriage was still going ahead but she was worried the dad mightn't turn up to give her away!

cool story but i wouldnt pay money for it.....

[No wides]

But 15 years down the line you could think of it and it would really help your marriage.

[Milltown Row2]

I'm 16 years married and still getting it wrong!! Anyone who gets it right is lying!!

[Hound]

But 15 years down the line you could think of it and it would really help your marriage.

You're against it beause its something to do with the catholic church, rather than whether it is actually useful or useless.

Ignoring any religious aspect, which I would tend to anway, I found it worthwhile. That was just my opinion

And also think couples 15 years marred going on a marriage guidance course ("whether they need it or not") would also be useful - although its not something I'd bring up out of the blue!

[armaghniac]

it wouldn't do any harm to have driving test again despite driving for 20 years and the same might be said for a marriage course.