Randy so and sos who can't keep their hands to themselves

[ziggysego]

Unfortunately this is the world in which we live in. Young people are in such a hurry to do things, that a lot of people don't consider marriage in its fullest. I'm sure most of them think it will all be wonderful and easy, not something that needs to be worked at. If something gets too difficult, a lot of people will walk away without trying to fix it.

[Puckoon]

Im sure there are women who cant pass up the opportunity, and Im sure there are men who are just looking for a way out who lack the spine to just leave.
..
Friend of mine just got her divorce through last month. 5 years of marriage, 10 years together, 4 year old son.
I cant help but think how sad it is, but she feels like she finally can live again.

Interestingly the husband was called Randy...

[pintsofguinness]

I don't know puckoon, anyone I've ever heard off being caught with someone else still try and run back to their wife/husband.  If it was the case that they were looking a way out it would be a perfect opportunity.

[Puckoon]

Unfortunately this is the world in which we live in. Young people are in such a hurry to do things, that a lot of people don't consider marriage in its fullest. I'm sure most of them think it will all be wonderful and easy, not something that needs to be worked at. If something gets too difficult, a lot of people will walk away without trying to fix it.

See ziggy, some marital problems can be fixed, some cant. You cant fix love not being there, and you can only expect someone to flog a dead horse for so long. What really bugs me is people who arent fully sure of what marriage entails, but go ahead and get married anyways. Then they have fucked up someone elses life.

[Puckoon]

Well Pints thats true too. I guess the fact that theres a caveat for every arguement shows you how blurry the lines of motivation for affairs and divorce are.   Throw in the irish catholic stigma associated with divorce and youve got more to chew on.

[ziggysego]

Unfortunately this is the world in which we live in. Young people are in such a hurry to do things, that a lot of people don't consider marriage in its fullest. I'm sure most of them think it will all be wonderful and easy, not something that needs to be worked at. If something gets too difficult, a lot of people will walk away without trying to fix it.

See ziggy, some marital problems can be fixed, some cant. You cant fix love not being there, and you can only expect someone to flog a dead horse for so long. What really bugs me is people who arent fully sure of what marriage entails, but go ahead and get married anyways. Then they have fucked up someone elses life.

Oh I know, if it's a bad marriage that can't be fixed, then yes walk away. What I was saying was, too many people walk away at the first sign of trouble and don't try to hard to fix it.

[pintsofguinness]

People get divorced because most people are arseholes that you couldn't live with.

It's always been that way, it's just that now younger people won't stick around if they're not happy and to be fair they're right, it's a pity they were so stupid in the first place. 

[ziggysego]

Been stung in the past pints?

[pintsofguinness]

Been stung in the past pints?

No.

[pintsofguinness]

Dont forget about the hidden stats, where peple have had an affair and the spouses find out and they just stay together for children/appearances sake. A friend of mines wife has had more than one affair and he knows and the whole area knows but they are still together, dont know if its for the children or just to keep up appearances. How you could live with a woman knowing a different "hard willy" has been in her when she is your wife......She is a teacher too, they have too much f**king time on their hands !

Because some people, men and women, are complete fools!
We have these "friends" (I use the term lightly), he is as sound as they come.  She had a kid when she was only a child herself, he treats the kid like his own, he doesn't drink but when we've to sit in a pub with them she never puts her hand in her pocket and orders hiim to buy a round every now and again.  She has never lasted in a job for more than two days!  Why would she when he buys and pays for everything.  About every 6 months she breaks up with him, sleeps with every man she meets and then goes back to him.  The last night we were in the pub with them, and I said never again!, she danced, very closely, all night with this other man while the fool sat and looked at them!

[Puckoon]

Thats just sad Pints. Does your buddy have low self esteem or how come he keeps putting up with that kind of carry on?

[pintsofguinness]

Thats just sad Pints. Does your buddy have low self esteem or how come he keeps putting up with that kind of carry on?

He's not my buddy - she'd probably be the "friend" but I don't know what the story is with him or why he takes it, he woudln't strike me as being an obvious canditate for low self esteem, he probably thinks he's in love 

That night in the pub was the worst with another man having his hands all over his gf all night and him trying to laugh it off and the rest of us just wanting to die!

It's the child I feel sorry for.

[his holiness nb]

People get divorced because most people are arseholes that you couldn't live with.

You may very well be onto something there Pints!!

I must be one of the lucky ones, so far anyway.

[Orior]

At its most basic animal level, men need to have sex with as many women as possible so as to prolong their genes. Marriage kind of restricts that.

[Hardy]

Or, put another way:
Higamus hogamus, woman's monogamous.
Hogamus higamus, man is polygamous.