A thread to discuss our biggest regrets......
Not studying harder for my A Levels!
Quote from: STREET FIGHTER on October 21, 2025, 11:44:34 AMNot studying harder for my A Levels!
Not studying at all for my GCSE's lol.. Not a regret just wasn't mentally focused which is what the problem we have when trying to push kids to college..
Biggest regret? Wow.. I suppose I could have done more with the kids, you never get that period of time back and it goes very very quickly.
BTW thats not saying I didn't do the bed time stories or the weekly swimming sessions for 11 years, cinemas on films we like rather than their mum.. Its just someone had to say no at times and that was my job lol
I suppose on kids its difficult as life is hectic and it can be difficult to be the best as life is work, bills, stress, choices and dealing with the day to day.. I'd the added anxiety having a son from another earlier relationship and trying to straddle the complexities of that, and everything else in life so looking back, advice to young me would have been do more
Not picking a uni degree with a clear career path.
Not going travelling after uni.
Reduce the level of drinking when younger.
Not doing any proper S&C when playing
Quote from: trueblue1234 on October 21, 2025, 12:23:45 PMNot picking a uni degree with a clear career path.
Not going travelling after uni.
Reduce the level of drinking when younger.
Not doing any proper S&C when playing
+1
At the end of the day we will all be working for 40+ years so taking 6 months / a year out before you get on the treadmill of a proper job makes no difference in the long term.
Quote from: trueblue1234 on October 21, 2025, 12:23:45 PMNot picking a uni degree with a clear career path.
Not going travelling after uni.
Reduce the level of drinking when younger.
Not doing any proper S&C when playing
I'd agree with a lot of that in fairness. I can vividly remember our careers advice in school being "Go and get a degree. It doesnt matter what in, just get a degree and it will stand to you." A specific career focused degree and direction would have helped me. But maybe I just hadnt a clue.
Quote from: trueblue1234 on October 21, 2025, 12:23:45 PMNot picking a uni degree with a clear career path.
Not going travelling after uni.
Reduce the level of drinking when younger.
Not doing any proper S&C when playing
I'll agree with those ones. I picked a degree with a job attached but travelling after uni didn't happen because of other things. Too much drink in uni especially after getting an injury at the football that the S&C would have solved at the time.
Quote from: lurganblue on October 22, 2025, 02:06:53 PMQuote from: trueblue1234 on October 21, 2025, 12:23:45 PMNot picking a uni degree with a clear career path.
Not going travelling after uni.
Reduce the level of drinking when younger.
Not doing any proper S&C when playing
I'd agree with a lot of that in fairness. I can vividly remember our careers advice in school being "Go and get a degree. It doesnt matter what in, just get a degree and it will stand to you." A specific career focused degree and direction would have helped me. But maybe I just hadnt a clue.
I'd agree with both quotes lol
Mind the careers teacher asking me about engineering, had never heard tell of it so zero interest. I just wanted to be a businessman so.....did business studies lol
Luckily enough not too many. Mistakes made but you get on with life, was kinda lucky did the degree I wanted, got into the world of work I wanted, pretty decent life altogether even allowing for personal challenges. Turning 50 in December and genuinely very happy with where I am in the world.
Quote from: brokencrossbar1 on October 22, 2025, 03:31:23 PMLuckily enough not too many. Mistakes made but you get on with life, was kinda lucky did the degree I wanted, got into the world of work I wanted, pretty decent life altogether even allowing for personal challenges. Turning 50 in December and genuinely very happy with where I am in the world.
We don't need this in here sorry. Please delete
Quote from: brokencrossbar1 on October 22, 2025, 03:31:23 PMLuckily enough not too many. Mistakes made but you get on with life, was kinda lucky did the degree I wanted, got into the world of work I wanted, pretty decent life altogether even allowing for personal challenges. Turning 50 in December and genuinely very happy with where I am in the world.
Yes, yes you won a few medals, well done. We're all aware. Get over it.
Buying a Renault Espace about 15 years ago. 3 Engines later I scrapped it as I'd had enough.
I think everyone has one relationship they might regret ending......though wouldn't want to admit to it :o ;D
Moving to Tyrone voluntarily.
Not going travelling after uni, though to be honest, I didn't have the money to do it. Doesn't seem to stop young ones these days and they're probably right. I never went to the festivals, lads holidays etc as I just couldn't have found the money - but always regret missing out.
Not doing a year in halls at Uni. I think it was the only Uni experience I missed out on.
Quote from: gallsman on October 22, 2025, 03:57:57 PMQuote from: brokencrossbar1 on October 22, 2025, 03:31:23 PMLuckily enough not too many. Mistakes made but you get on with life, was kinda lucky did the degree I wanted, got into the world of work I wanted, pretty decent life altogether even allowing for personal challenges. Turning 50 in December and genuinely very happy with where I am in the world.
Yes, yes you won a few medals, well done. We're all aware. Get over it.
Didn't even go down that road but at least I know it hurts you still...
Quote from: quit yo jibbajabba on October 22, 2025, 03:43:20 PMQuote from: brokencrossbar1 on October 22, 2025, 03:31:23 PMLuckily enough not too many. Mistakes made but you get on with life, was kinda lucky did the degree I wanted, got into the world of work I wanted, pretty decent life altogether even allowing for personal challenges. Turning 50 in December and genuinely very happy with where I am in the world.
We don't need this in here sorry. Please delete
Fair enough ....hmmm do regret I didn't travel....when given the choice between winning multiple all Ireland winners medals or travelling I made the Hobsons Choice and stayed at home...
So try to travel now but would have been great craic as a 20 something to have been able to do that
I don't have many major regrets.
Probably to have played more sport in my 20's - but there would have been other things I'd have missed out on.
I never got caught up in having the all consuming job and money.
I tinkered with it for a while - But that life was never going to be for me.
People and the simple things were more important.
Don't get me wrong I still have to earn money and pay the bills.
I often looked at the guy with the Big Car, Big House and Hob Nob Job and thought do I want to sacrifice my life for that?
I've done ok. I seen my children grow up and been there all week. Got involved in community projects and sports coaching.
I'm not going to work full-time up to the age of 67 - there will be a wind-down coming into my 60's. Where I hope to work less hours and with less stress/strain.
Quote from: brokencrossbar1 on October 22, 2025, 04:18:50 PMQuote from: gallsman on October 22, 2025, 03:57:57 PMQuote from: brokencrossbar1 on October 22, 2025, 03:31:23 PMLuckily enough not too many. Mistakes made but you get on with life, was kinda lucky did the degree I wanted, got into the world of work I wanted, pretty decent life altogether even allowing for personal challenges. Turning 50 in December and genuinely very happy with where I am in the world.
Yes, yes you won a few medals, well done. We're all aware. Get over it.
Didn't even go down that road but at least I know it hurts you still...
:D
Quote from: brokencrossbar1 on October 22, 2025, 04:22:57 PMQuote from: quit yo jibbajabba on October 22, 2025, 03:43:20 PMQuote from: brokencrossbar1 on October 22, 2025, 03:31:23 PMLuckily enough not too many. Mistakes made but you get on with life, was kinda lucky did the degree I wanted, got into the world of work I wanted, pretty decent life altogether even allowing for personal challenges. Turning 50 in December and genuinely very happy with where I am in the world.
We don't need this in here sorry. Please delete
Fair enough ....hmmm do regret I didn't travel....when given the choice between winning multiple all Ireland winners medals or travelling I made the Hobsons Choice and stayed at home...
So try to travel now but would have been great craic as a 20 something to have been able to do that
That's better 😜
Though I got mugged in Amsterdam back in the day so maybe not all it's cracked up to be 🤭
Anyone any tattoo stories
Quote from: Look-Up! on October 22, 2025, 06:02:33 PMAnyone any tattoo stories
Wouldn't imagine too many loyalists on here
Quote from: Look-Up! on October 22, 2025, 06:02:33 PMAnyone any tattoo stories
Not me but a nephew got a huge one of a bear near filled his back. Think he's regretted it since and maybe had some removed, don't really like to ask but it was terrible.....
Quote from: Look-Up! on October 22, 2025, 06:02:33 PMAnyone any tattoo stories
Was in college in the 90's with a lad who got a large House of Pain tattoo on his calf.
Met the now wife too early. Not enough casual sex in the younger years. The young fella was going steady through 6th year and called it off the weekend before Freshers Week last month. I could have punched the air!
Quote from: quit yo jibbajabba on October 22, 2025, 06:17:14 PMQuote from: Look-Up! on October 22, 2025, 06:02:33 PMAnyone any tattoo stories
Not me but a nephew got a huge one of a bear near filled his back. Think he's regretted it since and maybe had some removed, don't really like to ask but it was terrible.....
All tattoos are terrible. Even the ones of women with big knockers.
A cousin of mine is covered in them. Arms, back, neck, legs, hands, the lot. He's never done getting more. I says to him , you're running out of skin..you'll have to grow another leg before you get any more .
Not tacklin yer woman from Knockloughrim in 94. On a plate.
Taking my first pint.
Quote from: ONeill on October 22, 2025, 08:52:12 PMNot tacklin yer woman from Knockloughrim in 94. On a plate.
Same. Lovely girl from Ballymena, 1995 in QUB Snack Bar disco. She asked me to hold her coat at the end of the night whilst she went to the toilet. She came back and asked if I was heading back to the halls. Not quite understanding what was happening I said "no I'm waiting for the other lads". She told me about 2 months later I had blown my chance and wasn't getting another one :'(
Not going to England or Scotland for uni.
Went to Belfast as it was just what most people did and it's the easy option.
Quote from: Tony Baloney on October 22, 2025, 07:27:02 PMMet the now wife too early. Not enough casual sex in the younger years. The young fella was going steady through 6th year and called it off the weekend before Freshers Week last month. I could have punched the air!
Must have got his smarts from his mother.
Quote from: Tony Baloney on October 22, 2025, 07:27:02 PMMet the now wife too early. Not enough casual sex in the younger years. The young fella was going steady through 6th year and called it off the weekend before Freshers Week last month. I could have punched the air!
Judging by the post below you probably wouldn't have had many causal experiences anyway!
Quote from: Tony Baloney on October 22, 2025, 09:31:47 PMSame. Lovely girl from Ballymena, 1995 in QUB Snack Bar disco. She asked me to hold her coat at the end of the night whilst she went to the toilet. She came back and asked if I was heading back to the halls. Not quite understanding what was happening I said "no I'm waiting for the other lads". She told me about 2 months later I had blown my chance and wasn't getting another one :'(