I worked with a married couple years ago, both teachers and a fantastic pair you’d ever meet, both came to London and did their teacher training in London during the late 60’s, while not married but together they fell pregnant, the fear for them was that they would be looked upon back home has dirt!
They stayed in London longer during terms (though at that time they would have stayed all year) they gave the child up for adoption..
Came home couple years later got married, had 3 more kids and put it behind them, though never forgetting the girl they gave up..
30 years went by and someone got in touch with them, the child decided to find her parents, she’d been brought up in Dublin, lived 120 miles down the road from them the whole time!
She told me that her heart was pounding and felt she was going to die when they met up in Dublin, There was tears and heartbreak, anger and regret. The fact that her parents ended up married and had a family caused resentment no doubt.
But 20 years on hey have an unbreakable bond.
This happened because of the times, the grandmother was falling ill and the daughter only had the courage near her mums death to actually tell her of the pregnancy in London and how they gave up her granddaughter.. her mum cried for days.
I remember the story so well and was absolutely gobsmacked that something like this actually happened. Horrendous how people felt that this was the best way out!
Society and religion at fault, while blame can be left fairly at the door of the Catholic Church for those convent places, society placed pressure on people to ‘do the right thing’