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omaghjoe

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Re: Depression
« Reply #240 on: May 22, 2016, 01:11:12 AM »
Thanks. Not so good when that game doesn't even raise the dander in me.

Well you know what?

Go to bed now and get up tomorrow and if you werent intending to go tomorrow make a point of going to it, if it is in anyway possible. There is nothing like the first round of the championship, the smell of burgers and onions, fags, the crowds, the tension, the roar, the scores, the banter, the radio on the way home. Deadly stuff!

I dont know what way you are spiritually but Im at home with my daughter at the minute on the other side of the planet. And we will say a prayer for ye.

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« Reply #241 on: May 22, 2016, 01:51:05 AM »
I agree with what the others have said. ..get yourself to that match tomorrow.  The craic and buzz is something you forget.  The ulster championship will lift you, as will we.

Plus, at least your not from Antrim...we'd to travel near 100 mile to get walloped ....but lose (as we do more than most) or win the craic and life at these (our) games is a form of escapism that lifts all of us.

Keep the head up and good on ya for reaching out. Keep reaching out, never stop
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« Reply #242 on: May 23, 2016, 04:41:23 PM »
Thanks. Not so good when that game doesn't even raise the dander in me.
it will get a lot better even if you can't see it at 3am
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« Reply #243 on: May 23, 2016, 05:52:49 PM »
The posts here are greatly appreciated and they did help.

Going through a hard time right now. I've came through them before though.  I'll keep trying.

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« Reply #244 on: May 23, 2016, 08:40:01 PM »
Good man RHM, did you watch the game yesterday?

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« Reply #245 on: May 23, 2016, 09:13:49 PM »
Have ya tried going for a run RHM?

I guarantee you'll feel your mood changing for the better pretty quickly if you do. I try to always head out for a run if i'm feeling anxious, stressed or depressed. Download a couple of podcasts, second captains is a good one....
https://soundcloud.com/secondcaptains-it-com
.... and just run. If you get too tired, walk for a while and then run some more. When you come home an hour or two later, you'll feel better and more relaxed.

Good luck with it man.

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« Reply #246 on: May 23, 2016, 09:16:36 PM »
Have ya tried going for a run RHM?

I guarantee you'll feel your mood changing for the better pretty quickly if you do. I try to always head out for a run if i'm feeling anxious, stressed or depressed. Download a couple of podcasts, second captains is a good one....
https://soundcloud.com/secondcaptains-it-com
.... and just run. If you get too tired, walk for a while and then run some more. When you come home an hour or two later, you'll feel better and more relaxed.

Good luck with it man.
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The wife will actually tell me to go for a run when she can see me getting a bit down or stressed out.
I'm sure any type of activity will work the same be it running,swimming or cycling etc.
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Re: Depression
« Reply #247 on: May 23, 2016, 09:19:40 PM »
Thanks. Not so good when that game doesn't even raise the dander in me.

Well you know what?

Go to bed now and get up tomorrow and if you werent intending to go tomorrow make a point of going to it, if it is in anyway possible. There is nothing like the first round of the championship, the smell of burgers and onions, fags, the crowds, the tension, the roar, the scores, the banter, the radio on the way home. Deadly stuff!

I dont know what way you are spiritually but Im at home with my daughter at the minute on the other side of the planet. And we will say a prayer for ye.
They do smell nice, but I don't think you're supposed to call them that anymore.

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« Reply #248 on: May 23, 2016, 09:34:47 PM »
Good man RHM, did you watch the game yesterday?

A mate called me yesterday morning and asked me to go to the game with him.

I actually got paranoid thinking he had somehow read this thread and realised it was me.  I went anyway, and enjoyed it. Thanks to the prompts on here.

It lifted the siege for a few hours.

It's really strange.  From the outside, I have no worries. Great wife, fantastic children, not stuck for a bob or two. The way I feel has no logic what so ever.

It's actually scary.

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« Reply #249 on: May 23, 2016, 11:09:03 PM »
Good man RHM, did you watch the game yesterday?

A mate called me yesterday morning and asked me to go to the game with him.

I actually got paranoid thinking he had somehow read this thread and realised it was me.  I went anyway, and enjoyed it. Thanks to the prompts on here.

It lifted the siege for a few hours.

It's really strange.  From the outside, I have no worries. Great wife, fantastic children, not stuck for a bob or two. The way I feel has no logic what so ever.

It's actually scary.

But can be beaten

Keep  talking on here...people all over Ireland and beyond supporting you here
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« Reply #250 on: May 23, 2016, 11:12:45 PM »
Thanks Gold.

Can I just ask, does anyone have any opinion on using sleeping tablets to get off to sleep?  I seem to find it hardest when I'm lying in bed at night. Mind racing and dark thoughts. If I thought they would knock me out I think I'd go for it. Afraid of any side effects though.  Getting out of bed in the morning is tough enough as it is.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #251 on: May 23, 2016, 11:13:59 PM »
Good man RHM, did you watch the game yesterday?

A mate called me yesterday morning and asked me to go to the game with him.

I actually got paranoid thinking he had somehow read this thread and realised it was me.  I went anyway, and enjoyed it. Thanks to the prompts on here.

It lifted the siege for a few hours.

It's really strange.  From the outside, I have no worries. Great wife, fantastic children, not stuck for a bob or two. The way I feel has no logic what so ever.

It's actually scary.

If she is a great wife and you have fantastic children, the main reason for that is you, as you make up so much of their lives; Immerse yourself in them - I would agree with the running part, but spending time with them, for me, is just as fulfilling. (I don't find life easy btw).
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« Reply #252 on: May 23, 2016, 11:21:17 PM »
It's hard to describe BBB.  Even if I recognise my strong points (if that's the right phrase), it doesn't make me feel any better.

As I said before, there is no logic to how I feel. I just feel shit a lot of the time, and really really shit sometimes.

I have conversations with myself where I tell myself of all the good things I've done / have etc. It doesn't matter. The cloud is still there. It won't go away. It doesn't care what I've done or what I have, it just stays there.

I appreciate that this is hard for anyone to understand who hasn't experienced it. I'm convinced that this can happen to anyone at any time. It's just shit that it's happening to me.

f**k it, I feel pathetic spilling on an anonymous forum.  It's actually the first time I've tried to put my thoughts on paper so to speak. Doesn't make good reading.
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Re: Depression
« Reply #253 on: May 23, 2016, 11:22:28 PM »
Thanks Gold.

Can I just ask, does anyone have any opinion on using sleeping tablets to get off to sleep?  I seem to find it hardest when I'm lying in bed at night. Mind racing and dark thoughts. If I thought they would knock me out I think I'd go for it. Afraid of any side effects though.  Getting out of bed in the morning is tough enough as it is.

Have taken them a couple of times but I'd say you wouldn't want to be on them the whole time without talking to a doctor. We had a talk at work there recently about trying to improve your sleeping and they spoke about something called "mindfulness", it's basically a way of clearing your mind, have tried it a couple of times and it's not bad. Worth googling anyway.

A friend of mine suffered badly from depression a few years back and went to his GP who referred him on to someone, he said it was the best thing he ever did. Probably a hard thing to do but worth considering RHM

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Re: Depression
« Reply #254 on: May 23, 2016, 11:24:15 PM »
Yeah, I'm trying to grow a set and go to the doc. It's at that stage now. Thanks.