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TwoUpTwoDown

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Re: Depression
« Reply #540 on: March 18, 2020, 01:36:59 PM »
Common conversation in changing rooms now after training

Player 1 - 'jeez Athletico are 1-0 against Liverpool'

Player 2 - Frig, they were 4/1 too'

The amount of times I hear someone mention the score of the game, followed by the price of a team in the bookies is unreal.

I can definitely relate to this. It's completely the norm in our changing room. It's everywhere and it needs to be stamped out. You don't have to dig too much to hear some horrible stories.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #541 on: May 04, 2020, 08:43:29 PM »
Today i've hit a wall. Just took the wind out of my sails. Went to be bed at Four O Clock but have had to get back up as I was just lying there going to some dark and strange places. Im not a house drinker which is a good thing cause I know if a pub was open today Id been in it all day.

Off work now six weeks generally bored on Sundays but kept a form of structure to my week days as best as possible.  But today looked at a few wee jobs then just locked the shed and said no. Didn't even go for my walk. Suppose I will try again tomorrow.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #542 on: May 04, 2020, 08:49:59 PM »
Keep the head up pbat. Maybe keep interacting on here for the night
Tomorrow is a new day. Restart again then
Put the kettle on and grab yourself a coffee

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Re: Depression
« Reply #543 on: May 04, 2020, 11:03:50 PM »
Today i've hit a wall. Just took the wind out of my sails. Went to be bed at Four O Clock but have had to get back up as I was just lying there going to some dark and strange places. Im not a house drinker which is a good thing cause I know if a pub was open today Id been in it all day.

Off work now six weeks generally bored on Sundays but kept a form of structure to my week days as best as possible.  But today looked at a few wee jobs then just locked the shed and said no. Didn't even go for my walk. Suppose I will try again tomorrow.

Keep the head up pal. I hit the wall a few days into lockdown and it was hellish. Keep at it, brighter days will come. Drop me a message if you need a chat. 👍

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Re: Depression
« Reply #544 on: May 05, 2020, 02:19:03 AM »
Look after yourself pbat, there are days like that, but they come and go, just as surely as better ones do.  Give yourself a break- music, films, reading, chat a friend or relative on the phone- whatever is a distraction for you.
I've had days exactly like you describe. You keep dwelling on the negatives, or sometimes it's nothing you can pinpoint,  just an absence of happiness.  It's a sticky mess, hard to shake off, and it feels like it's pulling you down, and it feels like your thought processes are all over the shop. 
What works for me, now it did take a while,  is to try and train your mind to sectors.  You can't just block it all out, and trying that, or trying to pretend it's not there, takes a hell of a lot of energy.  Give yourself 20 minutes every so often where you think about it: analyse it, jot down lists, what you think is wrong,  what you think are problems,  what you think are weaknesses: whatever is on your mind for that 20 minutes,  then put the brakes on, and take time to clear your mind.  Listen to music: your favourites, old memories- it doesn't have to be happy-clappy, or eye of the tiger stuff.  Chat someone- a friend,  relative, whoever.  Watch a film or a documentary.  Read something.  This is 'you' time.  Later on, go back in your mind and how you feel.  It's like a boxing match: you train,  you spar, you fight a round, you take a break.  Or you can use a football league analogy and prepare for a match.
What's important is that, over time, you are calling the shots, and you are dictating the terms of when you are engaging.  That feeling you described today, I know that.  It feels overwhelming,  stifling,  it's wearing you down in a war of attrition in your mind, and that is hugely energy-sapping.  But it doesn't have to be played under those terms.  I'm 3 years on from my last bad bout of depression.  It's not a bed of roses since, and it's not going to make a rags to riches film anytime soon, but I have only lost a very few rounds since.  And I am getting to the stage that I'm pretty confident it will never have the same hold on me again.  And that's a good feeling.  It's there for you, too, and you'll get there.
One of the most significant lines I picked up on my journey was 'How do you eat an elephant?  One bite at a time'.
You take care, and the very best of luck to you. 
There will be better days ahead.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #545 on: May 05, 2020, 03:07:35 AM »
This is great advice.   

Lists are good.  They're recommended for dealing with anxiety/panic, as I know from personal experience. I would think they'd be good for depression too. 

One bite at a time.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #546 on: May 05, 2020, 09:00:31 AM »
Today i've hit a wall. Just took the wind out of my sails. Went to be bed at Four O Clock but have had to get back up as I was just lying there going to some dark and strange places. Im not a house drinker which is a good thing cause I know if a pub was open today Id been in it all day.

Off work now six weeks generally bored on Sundays but kept a form of structure to my week days as best as possible.  But today looked at a few wee jobs then just locked the shed and said no. Didn't even go for my walk. Suppose I will try again tomorrow.

Keep the head up pbat.

As others have said structure is key - get in a routine and you know what you are doing at different stages of the day.

Whatever you do try to push yourself to get your walk done - go a different route or through some woodland if possible - always find this is better than walking the road

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Re: Depression
« Reply #547 on: May 05, 2020, 03:10:59 PM »
Today i've hit a wall. Just took the wind out of my sails. Went to be bed at Four O Clock but have had to get back up as I was just lying there going to some dark and strange places. Im not a house drinker which is a good thing cause I know if a pub was open today Id been in it all day.

Off work now six weeks generally bored on Sundays but kept a form of structure to my week days as best as possible.  But today looked at a few wee jobs then just locked the shed and said no. Didn't even go for my walk. Suppose I will try again tomorrow.

Keep it going pbat. It's a horrible place to be in but you can get yourself out of it. As others have said, structure is key and what has worked for me in the past. I'm not a list person but I almost forced the positives to be in my life. I would revisit things that were real happy memories, rewatch all ireland wins etc etc all simple steps to a healthier and more positive thought process. Exercise is key, I tip about at a bit of running and that feeling you get when you land home is unrivalled. These are lonely and dark times and we all have to make an effort with our mental health, you're not alone in anything you face and while we can  certainly think our way deeper into these things - I also think we can force our thoughts to steer us out of them. Take care