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Asal Mor

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Re: Depression
« Reply #285 on: October 01, 2016, 09:22:10 AM »
Jason McAteer on the Late Late just now talking about his own battle with depression in the past.

It's strangely, for fellow sufferers like myself, reassuring to see people with "profiles" speak candidly like Jason did tonight.

I'm in the midst of the worst onslaught that I've had in months. It's tough going.
Best of luck RH man. I always advise taking exercise and avoiding alcohol/drugs(including coffee and cigarettes). Hang in there, keep fighting and you'll find a way to overcome it.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #286 on: October 01, 2016, 10:43:44 AM »
Jason McAteer on the Late Late just now talking about his own battle with depression in the past.

It's strangely, for fellow sufferers like myself, reassuring to see people with "profiles" speak candidly like Jason did tonight.

I'm in the midst of the worst onslaught that I've had in months. It's tough going.
Hang on, you have a medical, not a mental, condition.
I am talking from personal experience here; I knew I was going to suffer depression and I knew that eventually I would pull through as long as I didnít suffer a total breakdown and committed suicide or self-harm of some sort.
I think muppet posted a link to my post on this thread but I canít find it. Maybe he will oblige again as I donít have time to re-write what I said there.
However, Iím posting this to assure you and other depressives that your condition was brought on by physical factors.  The thermostat we each have in our brains to regulate hormonal levels malfunctions for some reason and depression ensues.
Physical trauma in almost all cases can be cured or at least managed; it takes time for the brain to sort things out but it will and donít feel your macho persona is somehow damaged  by confiding in your doctor or by taking prescribed anti-depressants.
I am quite happy to discuss my experience in the hope that it brings hope to others. I donít give a damn about what ill-informed individuals may say behind my back.
I find that thatís a major issues with depressives; they feel ashamed in some way that their problem will be construed by some as a sign of mental weakness or moral deficiency of some sort.
f**k the begrudgers! 
Increasingly, people in general are beginning to gain an understanding of depression and how it affects suffers. Everyone who opens up helps to dispel the ignorance and small-mindedness that afflicted the public heretofore.
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Re: Depression
« Reply #287 on: October 01, 2016, 11:03:24 AM »
Jason McAteer on the Late Late just now talking about his own battle with depression in the past.

It's strangely, for fellow sufferers like myself, reassuring to see people with "profiles" speak candidly like Jason did tonight.

I'm in the midst of the worst onslaught that I've had in months. It's tough going.
Best of luck RH man. I always advise taking exercise and avoiding alcohol/drugs(including coffee and cigarettes). Hang in there, keep fighting and you'll find a way to overcome it.
Exercise is excellent. It helps me big time. The wife can often see something in me where she knows I'm starting to get down and will say something like I think you need to go for a run. I'm not saying I get really depressed like some on here but I do get periods where I know I'm just not myself and find life a bit of a struggle for want for a better word.

I agree with Red Hand man also about it being a comfort when you see a famous/high profile person speak of going through a similar difficultly as yourself. I know when my son was born it really helped to find out a few high profile sportspeople have kids with the same condition. It sort of makes you feel normal if that makes sense like you're not the only one.  I can totally understand where Red Hand Man is coming from when he says that.

Best of luck Red Hand Man, I hope things get better for you soon.
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Re: Depression
« Reply #288 on: October 01, 2016, 11:08:55 AM »
There you go Lar.

Fair play to this young man for having the courage to speak publicly about his experiences. Hopefully this will inspire others who are suffering in silence to seek help.
I sincerely his story helps others to cope with depression and to understand that itís a medical problem and not is not brought on by a mental deficiency of any sort.
I also suffered from chronic depression and I know I was extremely lucky to pull through.
In my case, I knew in advance that I was going to get very depressed and was briefed by my GP that a bout would be the inevitable result of the brain aneurysm I had suffered the previous year and the savage bouts of epilepsy that followed on from it.
He couldnít understand how my brain had managed to cope with all the traumas to date I had gone through but warned me that it would, sooner or later, close down all but the core functions in order to a repair itself.
Well, he was right and when depression hit, I went through four months of absolute hell.
Only for the fact that I knew it was going to happen, I would not have survived.
Nobody around me had an idea of what I was going through and endless exhortations to pull myself together only made matters worse.
I lost three stones weight in the space of four months and felt I had nowhere to go and nobody to turn to. Life just didnít seem worth living anymore and I had to battle with suicidal feelings every hour of the day.
I snapped out of it fairly dramatically.
I had another epileptic seizure, at a time when I was feeling very low and once more I was knocked out for five or six hours.
I have been incredibly lucky one again to have been in company at the time it happened and when I woke up, I found I was in Beaumont A&E.
I never felt better!
Although I was black and blue all over from the restraints that were holding me down and faint with hunger and thirst, I knew the black mood had lifted.
I was told that the electrical brainstorm had reset the levels of melatonin and serotonin- somewhat similar to the electroshock therapy used to treat brain disorders. If the balance between those hormones is maladjusted, depression or elation is the likely end result.
Iíve had no problem with epilepsy or depression ever since.
Reading Alanís story, it struck me once again that people in general havenít a clue of whatís going on in a suffererís brain while in the grip of depression.
Well-meaning but fatuous attempts to buck a sufferer up have the opposite effect.
The condition is a medical one and something like a blow on the head or the stress of surgery can bring it on. Anybody can be affected.
I hope Alan makes a full recovery and is able to cope with the reservations of those who know of his illness. I am a much older man and I couldnít give a damn about what anybody has to say about my time in the horrors.
I know younger people find it harder to cope with snide remarks and double talk and unfortunately, many donít pull through.
I hope his story serves as an inspiration for others with this condition.

Here is a link to that thread: http://gaaboard.com/board/index.php?topic=23272.0
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Re: Depression
« Reply #289 on: October 01, 2016, 01:35:10 PM »
I seem to have no coping mechanism for when things go wrong.

I can trundle along for weeks feeling as though I'm approaching "normality".  Then something adverse happens, and it completely floors me.

When most people get out of work on a Friday evening, they are walking with a spring in their step.

I spent 90 minutes driving aimlessly, before finding myself at the side of some deep water.  In my heart of hearts I knew I wasn't going to kill myself there and then.  However, the fact that I sat there and thought about it, actually consciously mulled over the affect it would have in people, scared the life out of me.

Someone mentioned to abstain from alcohol.  Without a bottle of red wine last night I wouldn't have slept.

Truth be told I'm in a f**king mess.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #290 on: October 01, 2016, 01:43:26 PM »
Dunno if it counts for anything, but you wold have the goodwill of everyone here. If you haven't already done it you should read the thread from the start. Some great honest posts to go along with your own.
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Re: Depression
« Reply #291 on: October 01, 2016, 01:44:26 PM »
Thank you muppet, and everyone else.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #292 on: October 01, 2016, 02:19:13 PM »
I seem to have no coping mechanism for when things go wrong.

I can trundle along for weeks feeling as though I'm approaching "normality".  Then something adverse happens, and it completely floors me.

When most people get out of work on a Friday evening, they are walking with a spring in their step.

I spent 90 minutes driving aimlessly, before finding myself at the side of some deep water.  In my heart of hearts I knew I wasn't going to kill myself there and then.  However, the fact that I sat there and thought about it, actually consciously mulled over the affect it would have in people, scared the life out of me.

Someone mentioned to abstain from alcohol.  Without a bottle of red wine last night I wouldn't have slept.

Truth be told I'm in a f**king mess.
The depression will get better.
Could you maybe talk with a professional when you are feeling better about what stuff needs to be worked on so you don't fall back into the situation ?
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Re: Depression
« Reply #293 on: October 01, 2016, 08:44:59 PM »
Thanks for that repost Fionn of your experiences.

One part of what's written is about a commonly held belief,  about "being too cowardly to try it (suicide) with any expectation of success."
Of course, cowardice or bravery has nothing to do with serious  attempts  or non attempts to do the deed, but I suppose what matters is the perception that it has.
On the other hand there are the rebukes by the misinformed that suicide is the coward's way out.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #294 on: October 01, 2016, 10:19:10 PM »
The greatest dichotomy in this world in my opinion is the thought process of a suicidal person.

To kill yourself is running away. Cowardly some might say.

But to end it takes balls, no?

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Re: Depression
« Reply #295 on: October 01, 2016, 10:35:34 PM »
Red hand, please talk to someone. Posting on here is a positive step. I've no clue about anything really and just flicked on this page by acciden but I felt
The need to say something. Hope it all gets better for u soon. Seems to be seriously good advice on previous pages here.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #296 on: October 01, 2016, 10:37:53 PM »
The greatest dichotomy in this world in my opinion is the thought process of a suicidal person.

To kill yourself is running away. Cowardly some might say.

But to end it takes balls, no?

I don't like language like 'cowardly' and 'balls' etc in this conversation.

All I know is that if I ever did 'end it' in the past, when I couldn't figure things out, I would have missed the best days of my life, most of which I never saw coming.


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Re: Depression
« Reply #297 on: October 02, 2016, 02:57:06 AM »
The greatest dichotomy in this world in my opinion is the thought process of a suicidal person.

To kill yourself is running away. Cowardly some might say.

But to end it takes balls, no?

Get help.  As soon as you can. 

I'm speaking from my own personal experience, and that of family members, when I say it helps. If you're having as hard a time as you describe,  little else other than professional help will help you through. 

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Re: Depression
« Reply #298 on: October 02, 2016, 10:12:53 AM »
The greatest dichotomy in this world in my opinion is the thought process of a suicidal person.

To kill yourself is running away. Cowardly some might say.

But to end it takes balls, no?

I know nothing about being depressed or whether someone who commits suicide is brave or is a coward. I do however know what's left behind when someone does commit suicide. More than one life is ended in many cases. Don't look for answers here, get professional help now.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #299 on: October 02, 2016, 04:25:40 PM »
Red Hand Man, I'd advise in the short term if you wish to speak to someone to call either Lifeline or the Samaritans, the former is a freefone number from either a landline or a mobile - 0800 808 8000 and they can help you connect to your local Community Mental Health Team as well as your local GP whom should be contacted as well on their own. The latter can be called on their Omagh branch (others are available) on 028 82 244944.
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