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macdanger2

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Re: Depression
« Reply #255 on: May 23, 2016, 11:29:57 PM »
Have a go at some of this, it's basically just breathing and thinking but you might find it useful

http://Http://www.nosleeplessnights.com/mindfulness-exercises/



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Re: Depression
« Reply #256 on: May 23, 2016, 11:31:22 PM »
Thanks for taking the time to find that. I'll give it a go tonight.

Just to say, I really do appreciate strangers taking time to post here. It's kind of humbling. Thank you.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #257 on: May 23, 2016, 11:44:24 PM »
It's hard to describe BBB.  Even if I recognise my strong points (if that's the right phrase), it doesn't make me feel any better.

As I said before, there is no logic to how I feel. I just feel shit a lot of the time, and really really shit sometimes.

I have conversations with myself where I tell myself of all the good things I've done / have etc. It doesn't matter. The cloud is still there. It won't go away. It doesn't care what I've done or what I have, it just stays there.

I appreciate that this is hard for anyone to understand who hasn't experienced it. I'm convinced that this can happen to anyone at any time. It's just shit that it's happening to me.

f**k it, I feel pathetic spilling on an anonymous forum.  It's actually the first time I've tried to put my thoughts on paper so to speak. Doesn't make good reading.

It is not pathetic - it is you trying to make sense of why you have these feelings and you are expressing them - for me it doesn't matter if it is here, or to a friend or work colleague - the next week, day, hour, minute, just to get through it.
I was listening to Talksport and the cricketer Graham Fowler was on promoting his autobiography. He didn't know he had depression - it was when his wife said to him he needed help. He thought he was fine and asked why. She said "because you haven't talked to anyone in a month".
So even if you think it is nonsense in many ways, keep talking, or typing - as one of the previous posts says, there are a lot of people on this board, your own, who are willing and wishing you well.
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Re: Depression
« Reply #258 on: May 23, 2016, 11:47:15 PM »
My wife more or less said the same to me.  Said I've stopped talking to people, really talking instead of just small chat.

Thanks BBB and thanks all.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #259 on: May 24, 2016, 12:05:20 AM »
This is definitely the right place to come to get opinions (!), advice or thoughts on the most random of things because we're all very similar with largely similar backgrounds and therefore I think the vast majority of us will either know how you feel or know someone close to us who probably does.
I know a friend of mine has suffered since school and has had hard times since, despite the good job, supportive husband and 2 kids. So you're absolutely not alone.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #260 on: May 24, 2016, 12:09:27 AM »
Oiche Mhaith, Tog go Bog e.
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« Reply #261 on: May 24, 2016, 12:55:58 AM »
Red Hand Man, really have to commend you on being brave enough to open up and share your pain on here. Depression is a disease and not a sign of weakness, you should treat it like any other disease and go see the doctor about it. Even the act of sitting down and opening up to someone will start to lift this gloom off your shoulders. Very likely you would be speaking to a GP who will have have had dozens of people through the door with the same dark thoughts and misery. They will know exactly how to deal with it and will listen to you very patiently. Pick up the phone tomorrow morning and book an appointment, and keep the momentum going from opening up on this forum.

I would echo other posters on being active. If you think about, id say your depression would likely be bad at times when you are on your own or inactive, and at its worst when you are both.

Be not solitary, be not idle. Take on a new challenge, enter a 10k or half marathon, take on an evening class, take on a new sport or pastime by joining a local club, there are lots of ways to challenge yourself into activity and social interaction.

First step though, book in to see the doctor and know that everyone on here would back you 100% on opening up about how you feel. You're not on your own and people will support you in getting better, seek help and you will get it  :)
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Re: Depression
« Reply #262 on: May 24, 2016, 04:32:13 AM »
Thanks. Not so good when that game doesn't even raise the dander in me.

Well you know what?

Go to bed now and get up tomorrow and if you werent intending to go tomorrow make a point of going to it, if it is in anyway possible. There is nothing like the first round of the championship, the smell of burgers and onions, fags, the crowds, the tension, the roar, the scores, the banter, the radio on the way home. Deadly stuff!

I dont know what way you are spiritually but Im at home with my daughter at the minute on the other side of the planet. And we will say a prayer for ye.
They do smell nice, but I don't think you're supposed to call them that anymore.

What? Even at home? Im in California but persist regardless

Imagine the looks you get when your response to a group of fellas smoking e-cigarettes in a pub is

"I hate them c***ts with their hipster fags"

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Re: Depression
« Reply #263 on: May 24, 2016, 04:44:47 AM »
Dont worry RHM its all annoymous anyway so its the perfect place if your worried about going public and theres nothing to be ashamed about anyway it can happen the best of us.

I know two girls who are the brightest, most out going and friendly people you could ever meet. Had great lives (from the outside at least) but they both had bother with the blues. Sometimes there is no apparent rhyme nor reason it can just strike you down

But the best thing you can do (i think) is talk to people about anything we are social beings/connected souls so we have to bounce our minds off each other. And sometimes that means with your peers which isnt always as easy as it sounds with a young family and job etc. So sometimes this is as good as place as any if you have nothing else.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #264 on: May 24, 2016, 05:30:16 AM »
Thanks Gold.

Can I just ask, does anyone have any opinion on using sleeping tablets to get off to sleep?  I seem to find it hardest when I'm lying in bed at night. Mind racing and dark thoughts. If I thought they would knock me out I think I'd go for it. Afraid of any side effects though.  Getting out of bed in the morning is tough enough as it is.
They help you get the rest you need when your brain is whirring and your sleep doesn't come like it does usually . You won't need them when you feel yourself again. It will take time to get back to yourself but you will do it.
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« Reply #265 on: May 26, 2016, 04:58:49 AM »
Thanks Gold.

Can I just ask, does anyone have any opinion on using sleeping tablets to get off to sleep?  I seem to find it hardest when I'm lying in bed at night. Mind racing and dark thoughts. If I thought they would knock me out I think I'd go for it. Afraid of any side effects though.  Getting out of bed in the morning is tough enough as it is.

Went through this myself a couple of times, anywhere from a few weeks to almost a year. DO NOT self medicate or self diagnose yoursel, go see your primary doctor. It took me awhile to figure that out. Regarding the sleeping, I found for myself reading at night in bed distracts me from the mind going like a hamster wheel on turbo as my mind would be more active when just lying there in bed. I read till I can't keep my eyes open and just drift off.

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Re: Depression
« Reply #266 on: September 05, 2016, 08:01:50 PM »
I was out cycling this evening and saw a flagpole in a normal looking house on the side of the road, on the flagpole was a smiley face flag. Part of a mental health campaign or old skool stalwart??

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Re: Depression
« Reply #267 on: September 05, 2016, 08:42:26 PM »
I was out cycling this evening and saw a flagpole in a normal looking house on the side of the road, on the flagpole was a smiley face flag. Part of a mental health campaign or old skool stalwart??

That was coat of arms of the Smiley family.
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Re: Depression
« Reply #268 on: September 25, 2016, 07:53:56 PM »
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Re: Depression
« Reply #269 on: September 25, 2016, 08:32:21 PM »
That sounds like a horrendous time you have been going through, I hope things have picked up for you since that post  :-\
Hang in there
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