This has probably been done before but im interested in what the norm is here moneywise, always thought £100 was standard if ya were giving money, im hearing £130/£150 is expected now tho.
Dont get me wrong im not miserable , il give whatevers expected but just wondered is it same everywhere.
Depends on whos wedding it is and if you're invite to the whole thing or not.
I would usually give £100 and a wee gift so that they can remember us by. From experience, it is nice to get money, but something else as well were you can look back in a couple fo years and say that such and such gave us that for our wedding present!!
Just a friends wedding, full day. Tis no odds il give whatever money everyone else giving i dont mind , im not giving out about giving it just wondered what the norm is everywhere.
Usually just give £100 per couple. Most people just want money instead of a loada tosters and crap. Heard of ones that would ring the hotel and ask for a bottle of champ to be left in the bride and grooms room with a note from them. classy.
Quote from: tyrone girl on August 17, 2009, 09:58:29 AM
Just a friends wedding, full day. Tis no odds il give whatever money everyone else giving i dont mind , im not giving out about giving it just wondered what the norm is everywhere.
£100's grand then. I'd say the £130-£150 are just people trying to outdo the others.
An aunt of mine got an invite to an Indian wedding a few weeks back. This is what it said on the invitation (well, the general gist):
"Your presence today is gift enough but if you do wish to give us a present please make it money."ON THE INVITATION!
Quote from: SidelineKick on August 17, 2009, 10:24:35 AM
An aunt of mine got an invite to an Indian wedding a few weeks back. This is what it said on the invitation (well, the general gist):
"Your presence today is gift enough but if you do wish to give us a present please make it money."ON THE INVITATION!
I think the above is acceptable.
My invites will say:
Wedding list:
Just money FFS i already have a toaster!
Quote from: Armin Tamzarian on August 17, 2009, 10:38:05 AM
Quote from: SidelineKick on August 17, 2009, 10:24:35 AM
An aunt of mine got an invite to an Indian wedding a few weeks back. This is what it said on the invitation (well, the general gist):
"Your presence today is gift enough but if you do wish to give us a present please make it money."ON THE INVITATION!
I think the above is acceptable.
My invites will say:
Wedding list:
Just money FFS i already have a toaster!
Is it seriously? Jesus I thought it was awful cheeky.
How's it cheeky? Comment sense saying what you want. You don't have to have 5 toaster, 15 sets of cultery, etc.. Money is better.
I think thats cheeky surely, my parents got invite to cousins wedding and on the invite was some wee poem to the effect of we would like the money please!
Majority of people are gona give them money anyway, just dont like the forwardness/ cheekiness call it what u want of asking people on invites to give them money.
Would agree with SLKick and TG, bit forward/cheeky asking for ££. Most people will have enough wit to realise whether a gift or money is the appropriate option. If a couple are living together already or something then they're obviously going to already have their house kitted out.
You're basically covering the expense of your day out so that they wont be out of pocket. Id say a fair few weddings cover themselves these days anyway.
£100 is a good present but i reckon is the couple are really close and good friends of yours then i would go for the £150
We live in an age of crassness.
Think if anyone gave £120/£130 it looks as if you've calculated the cost of them being there. Go for either £100 or £150 if really close.
Whatever you can afford and are comforable with tyronegirl. This expected amount is nonsense as is calculating the cost of you being there, you didnt invite yourself! £100 is more than enough imo. If someone said they wanted money on the invitation or hinted at it I wouldnt be going to the wedding, cheeky as f**k. Wedding lists are just as cheeky.
I actually thought £100 was grand, maybe im out of sync or something, cos it was just when one the girls says to me how much are yous giving her and i said £100 why is that not standard and she says oh god no ud need to give more than that!! Said £120 - £150 or so is what is standard now, so me being me il just go with the flow id say
Quote from: tyrone girl on August 17, 2009, 11:31:57 AM
I actually thought £100 was grand, maybe im out of sync or something, cos it was just when one the girls says to me how much are yous giving her and i said £100 why is that not standard and she says oh god no ud need to give more than that!! Said £120 - £150 or so is what is standard now, so me being me il just go with the flow id say
Unless you're close to the couple getting married, £100 is enough tyrone girl.
Wedding lists arent a bad idea, I dont think its as bad as asking for cash.
The current rate of going is £107 TG. I would do it as follows:
£100 note
£5 note
£1 x 2 sellotaped to the card
heard a good one a few weeks ago - fella on a team was getting married and all the lads were invited - so they called round with presents - think there was 28 of them or something and they all bought the same 8 quid toaster out of argos for presents.... :D :D
(think thye all did give proper present then as well though)
Quote from: C_Berg_316 on August 17, 2009, 11:43:16 AM
heard a good one a few weeks ago - fella on a team was getting married and all the lads were invited - so they called round with presents - think there was 28 of them or something and they all bought the same 8 quid toaster out of argos for presents.... :D :D
(think thye all did give proper present then as well though)
:D funny we intended on doing that last year for a wedding, never developed. Would be hilarious to see that many of the same thing in the one house.
I think that if you composed a poem they'd appreciate the work you put into it rather than the money. Even just a limerick.
100 is plenty. As Pints says you shouldn't have to calculate what you think is going to cover you being at the wedding! If it was costing a hundred quid a head at the wedding I wouldn't be giving them 200 for me and the wife. That's their lookout and I shouldn't have to know, or even guess, what their wedding is costing!
What next are they gonna put a breakdown of wedding costs on the invites so you know what to give so they break even/make a profit!
We got an invite to a wedding back in May and they had enclosed account information for Trailfinders where you could give money to pay off their honeymoon.
I am shocked at people subtly asking for money on their invites, cheeky hoors and i would definitely buy a crap present to piss them off then! £100 is a more than adequate gift.
with the erosion of society it is not now seemingly as crass to ask outright for money as it once was. A few years ago you darent ask for cash as it was not the polite thing to do.
However thats changing.
AFAIK down here the going rate for money as a wedding giftis about €200-250 - I think.
though maybe thats gone down in the recession !
I went to a wedding there a week or so ago and gave £70 - feel a bit tight now :( To be fair if £100 a couple is standard then it mightn't be so bad as I didn't take my "plus one". (ate the extra dinner though). £100 for one person is a bit much surely? I'm pretty broke as I'm not going to be earning between September and March so it was sorta all I could afford.
Wedding lists are great! Who wants to be trailing round a shop looking for something that they might not want when you can just look up the web for there wedding list and buy them something from it in about 20 seconds. Most people just give money which is what people generally would like (they can buy there own toaster, wine glasses etc. with the money).
Has anyone seen as well, the invitations where they tell you what day/date to visit their house with gifts?
Quote from: TacadoirArdMhacha on August 17, 2009, 01:29:15 PM
I went to a wedding there a week or so ago and gave £70 - feel a bit tight now :( To be fair if £100 a couple is standard then it mightn't be so bad as I didn't take my "plus one". (ate the extra dinner though). £100 for one person is a bit much surely? I'm pretty broke as I'm not going to be earning between September and March so it was sorta all I could afford.
£70 without a +1 is fine, wouldn't be too worried about that!
Quote from: TacadoirArdMhacha on August 17, 2009, 01:29:15 PM
I went to a wedding there a week or so ago and gave £70 - feel a bit tight now :( To be fair if £100 a couple is standard then it mightn't be so bad as I didn't take my "plus one". (ate the extra dinner though). £100 for one person is a bit much surely? I'm pretty broke as I'm not going to be earning between September and March so it was sorta all I could afford.
£50.00 would have been more than enough imo and I'd be embarrassed to accept 50 quid of a friend who I knew wouldnt be earning.
Quote from: Will Hunting on August 17, 2009, 01:53:39 PM
Has anyone seen as well, the invitations where they tell you what day/date to visit their house with gifts?
Aye heard about them alright.
The last invitation I got with a wedding list, the cheapest thing on the list was over £100.
When i got married a few years back, I got some big presents from close friends. Since then two of them have got wed with another one in 2 weeks. Wish I had just resealed the envelopes and put them to one side now ;)
The next wedding will cost the price of a foreign holiday, its in Westport and will be a three day eventer.
Maybe I'm mad, but I think it's reasonable to expect someone coming to your wedding to at least cover the cost of the day you put on for them. Do you expect a wedding to be about a gift from the couple to you? If you don't want to pay your way then don't go. In the vast majority of cases the couple won't really care if you go or not. Don't kid yourself that they'll miss you.
Weddings these days are very expensive affairs (and some of the expense is crazy). I don't know what the going rate is in the North but I'd be giving a minimum of 200 for a wedding; 250 for some I know fairly well and 300 for a friend or someone in the family. I try to cover the cost and then give a gift to the couple on top of that. The more I like them, the bigger the gift. Although if someone drags me half way across Ireland for no reason (e.g. a couple from Galway getting married in Wexford) then I'll factor my expenses into that too.
I love weddings BTW. There's something uniquely Irish about the way the day goes.
do you like wedding crashers by any chance rmdrive?
Thats it im doing a wedding list. Putting on it BMW, Plasma TV, Holiday to Italy, and all the expensive crap of the day that well people will just opt to give money instead!
RMDrive, the more fool you.
Is it so you can say you gave that amount or do you really think its necessary to give such ridiculous amounts?
My first cousin a bit of a character, has a PHD in something or other, worked with the Travelling community for a while, went and worked in the Missions in a Bolivian Jungle that sort of stuff. When he got married the invites were hand written on recycled paper. Bottom of the invite stated that they didnt want any presents or money for their wedding. However as they were having in the local GAA hall each invite requested that the person brought something to eat. Dear Gerry "could you bring some cooked sausages, Dear Mary could you bring some Red lemonade. etc etc
:D red lemonade. Class!
Quote from: RMDrive on August 17, 2009, 02:21:54 PM
Maybe I'm mad, but I think it's reasonable to expect someone coming to your wedding to at least cover the cost of the day you put on for them. Do you expect a wedding to be about a gift from the couple to you? If you don't want to pay your way then don't go. In the vast majority of cases the couple won't really care if you go or not. Don't kid yourself that they'll miss you.
Weddings these days are very expensive affairs (and some of the expense is crazy). I don't know what the going rate is in the North but I'd be giving a minimum of 200 for a wedding; 250 for some I know fairly well and 300 for a friend or someone in the family. I try to cover the cost and then give a gift to the couple on top of that. The more I like them, the bigger the gift. Although if someone drags me half way across Ireland for no reason (e.g. a couple from Galway getting married in Wexford) then I'll factor my expenses into that too.
I love weddings BTW. There's something uniquely Irish about the way the day goes.
Hang on a minute, why should I pay for someone else's choice of food for me? Pay for someone elses choice of hotel?
You're right, most couples these days invite people they don't care if they're there or not, why? For show. Why should I pay for that? Weddings can be expensive affairs, but only if the couple want them to be, they can also be cheap affairs and it's generally the cheaper ones that are more enjoyable.
Quote from: gerrykeegan on August 17, 2009, 02:34:19 PM
My first cousin a bit of a character, has a PHD in something or other, worked with the Travelling community for a while, went and worked in the Missions in a Bolivian Jungle that sort of stuff. When he got married the invites were hand written on recycled paper. Bottom of the invite stated that they didnt want any presents or money for their wedding. However as they were having in the local GAA hall each invite requested that the person brought something to eat. Dear Gerry "could you bring some cooked sausages, Dear Mary could you bring some Red lemonade. etc etc
:) That's class.
Quote from: RMDrive on August 17, 2009, 02:21:54 PM
Maybe I'm mad, but I think it's reasonable to expect someone coming to your wedding to at least cover the cost of the day you put on for them. Do you expect a wedding to be about a gift from the couple to you? If you don't want to pay your way then don't go. In the vast majority of cases the couple won't really care if you go or not. Don't kid yourself that they'll miss you.
Weddings these days are very expensive affairs (and some of the expense is crazy). I don't know what the going rate is in the North but I'd be giving a minimum of 200 for a wedding; 250 for some I know fairly well and 300 for a friend or someone in the family. I try to cover the cost and then give a gift to the couple on top of that. The more I like them, the bigger the gift. Although if someone drags me half way across Ireland for no reason (e.g. a couple from Galway getting married in Wexford) then I'll factor my expenses into that too.
I love weddings BTW. There's something uniquely Irish about the way the day goes.
I hate that, you give a minimum of 200 pound then everyone is expected to do the same. People should pay for the cost of there meal and add a bit more (if they can afford to). I have been to 2 weddings in the last couple of months with stag parties, 2 nights in a hotel for the wedding... I was just thinking the other day, thank f&*k I have no more to go to this year as they have me broke.
I was at a wedding recently and gave the couple £50 although i only went to the evening reception if i had went to the all day event i'd have given £100...
I got married and did not make any list nor would i have had the neck to do so as you should just be happy with what you get, i can't believe i'm agreeing with Pints here but i dislike people who make lists and or ask for cash...cheeky hoors
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One of my best friends is getting married on 19 Sep. She knows that the ultimate present I could give her would be to miss the AIF if Tyrone were in it the next day (it's a three day wedding affair). Half of me is hoping we get beaten by Cork on Sunday so the decision is made for me.
Can't believe I've just written that.
How's it a three day affair rois?
Fri night function round at her parents' house, wedding on Sat and bbq in a different part of Donegal on the Sunday.
I suppose you could say that parts are optional, but it's one of my bestest.
If she thought I was considering giving her €300 she would have a fit. Have already been to Puerto Banus on the hen party.
Quote from: Rois on August 17, 2009, 03:19:00 PM
Fri night function round at her parents' house, wedding on Sat and bbq in a different part of Donegal on the Sunday.
I suppose you could say that parts are optional, but it's one of my bestest.
If she thought I was considering giving her €300 she would have a fit. Have already been to Puerto Banus on the hen party.
But this would be your county in the All Ireland Final! I think you should start a poll and let the board decide waht to do.
and you're giving her 300 euro!!!!!!!! f**king hell
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 17, 2009, 03:22:51 PM
But this would be your county in the All Ireland Final! I think you should start a poll and let the board decide waht to do.
and you're giving her 300 euro!!!!!!!! f**king hell
Ahhhh if only she felt like you Pints. Will not count my chickens though. Poll can wait till Sun night.
And no way am I giving her €300, just saying that if she thought I was (like RMDrive does), she'd tell me to wise up. She knows how big my mortgage is and has realised that the hotel for the night of the wedding is €195.
Single 50-100
Couple 150-200
If your down with the economy the Happy Couple will (or should) understand your situation. So give what you could afford.
Jaysus i wont be giving 200 quid thats for sure, we will give them 120 i think
Quote from: tyrone girl on August 17, 2009, 04:25:44 PM
Jaysus i wont be giving 200 quid thats for sure, we will give them 120 i think
TG seriously, £100 is more than enough.
Quote from: SidelineKick on August 17, 2009, 02:29:35 PM
RMDrive, the more fool you.
Is it so you can say you gave that amount or do you really think its necessary to give such ridiculous amounts?
Unfair of you to try to judge me like that. It's nothing to do with being able to "say" you gave that amount. I'm not into ostentatious gestures and if my post implied that then it was just clumsiness on my part.
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 17, 2009, 02:40:11 PM
Hang on a minute, why should I pay for someone else's choice of food for me? Pay for someone elses choice of hotel?
You're right, most couples these days invite people they don't care if they're there or not, why? For show. Why should I pay for that? Weddings can be expensive affairs, but only if the couple want them to be, they can also be cheap affairs and it's generally the cheaper ones that are more enjoyable.
IMO it's your choice not theirs. If you don't want to pay the prices (and it can sometimes be crazy) then don't go. I agree completely that some couples have lost the run of themselves and their wedding is more like a day long parade of their "taste" or "wealth". But for every wedding like that, there are 10 where the couple are simple good natured folks who are just trying to celebrate their big day with family and friends and are not trying to put on a show. To have a traditional Irish wedding these days is not cheap, no matter how straightforward you try to make it.
Quote from: Maiden1 on August 17, 2009, 02:43:36 PM
I hate that, you give a minimum of 200 pound then everyone is expected to do the same. People should pay for the cost of there meal and add a bit more (if they can afford to). I have been to 2 weddings in the last couple of months with stag parties, 2 nights in a hotel for the wedding... I was just thinking the other day, thank f&*k I have no more to go to this year as they have me broke.
But that's exactly my point. I reckon that a wedding today would probably cost about EUR80 a head when you factor in the meal, the band, the DJ, sandwiches etc. So 160 of that is simply to cover the cost. Then we throw them 40 quid on top of that which is our gift to the couple (along with our presence of course).
Had one of my best friends wedding in July- gave her £80 as i went on my tod (weddings are the best place to pull and i have a pretty good track record!!)
Also helped her with the cost and making of the invitations so i feel i did my bit.
She was telling rme though, an English woman gave them tweny quid as a present. ::)
We have to go to a wedding next month,and they have a wedding list they sent with the invitations for Arnotts with the cheapest thing on the list being €200.
I think having a wedding list is an awful ignorant thing to have and I can't stand people who have one,and I am gonna give them €100 in a card,they can f**k their wedding list,if they didn't have a wedding list I would have given them €150
RM
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IMO it's your choice not theirs. If you don't want to pay the prices (and it can sometimes be crazy) then don't go. I agree completely that some couples have lost the run of themselves and their wedding is more like a day long parade of their "taste" or "wealth". But for every wedding like that, there are 10 where the couple are simple good natured folks who are just trying to celebrate their big day with family and friends and are not trying to put on a show. To have a traditional Irish wedding these days is not cheap, no matter how straightforward you try to make it.
It's all very well saying if you dont want to pay it dont go and a lot of weddings people are invited to they've no option but to go, unless they want to offend the couple.
If a good friend or family member is getting married you cant not go to their wedding so you're expected to pay your way when they've chosen the hotel, the food, the location (if you've to pay for a night in a hotel/B&B) then you may also have had to pay to go on the stag/hen weekend, the women will spend a fortune on the stuff they spend money on also.
It's their choices, not yours. Maybe amongst their guests they've students, unemployed friends, elderly couples with nothing only their pensions or people who just simply cannot afford their choice of hotel. How is it even remotely reasonable they expect these people to pay their way? and do you think they shouldnt go if they can't?
If it was me getting married I'd invite the people I wanted to share the day with and would be horrified if they felt they had to pay their way, particularly if I knew they couldnt.
Btw RM, what exactly is a "traditional Irish wedding"?
and are you one of these people who think that if people don't go to a wedding they should send a present anyway?
QuoteShe was telling rme though, an English woman gave them tweny quid as a present.
Maybe it's all she could afford?
Whole things madness when u think of it.
Hotel rooms costing 170 euro for the night, present of say 120,though these split between us both.
Had get new dress it cost me 120, new sandals, bag , accesories etc etc , gettin me hair , make up tan nails etc will set me back another 60 odd quid and then watever amount i drink and its in the south which will be expensive as hell
Bring a carry out with you and go back up to the room each time to top up.
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 17, 2009, 05:07:24 PM
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IMO it's your choice not theirs. If you don't want to pay the prices (and it can sometimes be crazy) then don't go. I agree completely that some couples have lost the run of themselves and their wedding is more like a day long parade of their "taste" or "wealth". But for every wedding like that, there are 10 where the couple are simple good natured folks who are just trying to celebrate their big day with family and friends and are not trying to put on a show. To have a traditional Irish wedding these days is not cheap, no matter how straightforward you try to make it.
It's all very well saying if you dont want to pay it dont go and a lot of weddings people are invited to they've no option but to go, unless they want to offend the couple.
If a good friend or family member is getting married you cant not go to their wedding so you're expected to pay your way when they've chosen the hotel, the food, the location (if you've to pay for a night in a hotel/B&B) then you may also have had to pay to go on the stag/hen weekend, the women will spend a fortune on the stuff they spend money on also.
It's their choices, not yours. Maybe amongst their guests they've students, unemployed friends, elderly couples with nothing only their pensions or people who just simply cannot afford their choice of hotel. How is it even remotely reasonable they expect these people to pay their way? and do you think they shouldnt go if they can't?
If it was me getting married I'd invite the people I wanted to share the day with and would be horrified if they felt they had to pay their way, particularly if I knew they couldnt.
Btw RM, what exactly is a "traditional Irish wedding"?
and are you one of these people who think that if people don't go to a wedding they should send a present anyway?
It's a fair enough point I suppose. However I've been through it all and I always have a bit of sympathy with the couple getting married. On one hand you want to have a great day and to make it something that you will remember fondly for the rest of your lilfe (or until the next one), and on the other hand you don't want to force people to have to splash a whole load of cash.
I agree that there are some wedding that you just have to go to but I'd suggest that those are the very ones that you wouldn't mind splashing a bit of cash on. Would a couple be offended if someone (not close family or friends) didn't go to their wedding? I doubt it.
By traditional Irish wedding I meant the whole church, flowers, photos, hotel, band, sausages and sandwichs, DJ thing. Maybe it's not an accurate description of mst Irish weddings but it reflects the ones I have experienced at home and here in Mayo. It's traditional in that sense.
And no, I'm not someone who believes that you should send a present even if you don't go. That's called being daft.
feck it TG, sent them a card saying you cant make it and take yourself off to the Bahamas for a couple of weeks, would probably work out cheaper 8)
Yeh im raging i was in Craigavon yesterday and saw a hol in vegas in November £539 , was thinkin for feck sake i could be away off doin that (only an example) instead of £500 odd quid on this
Im beginning to sound like a grump :o
Im bringing loadddd of vodka with me and will keep goin to the room for top ups, to hell with paying a fortune in bar down there
Quote from: maggie on August 17, 2009, 05:01:06 PM
Had one of my best friends wedding in July- gave her £80 as i went on my tod (weddings are the best place to pull and i have a pretty good track record!!)
Also helped her with the cost and making of the invitations so i feel i did my bit.
She was telling rme though, an English woman gave them tweny quid as a present. ::)
Ok since nobody else is going to mention this! So, Maggie you just go to weddings on your 'tod' and pick up random men?
Whens your next wedding??!!
Would actually love to go to this one on my own, might have a bit of peace. But if have him there its only chance i have of not getting too drunk and making a show of myself :o
Quote from: Armin Tamzarian on August 17, 2009, 05:22:23 PM
Quote from: maggie on August 17, 2009, 05:01:06 PM
Had one of my best friends wedding in July- gave her £80 as i went on my tod (weddings are the best place to pull and i have a pretty good track record!!)
Also helped her with the cost and making of the invitations so i feel i did my bit.
She was telling rme though, an English woman gave them tweny quid as a present. ::)
Ok since nobody else is going to mention this! So, Maggie you just go to weddings on your 'tod' and pick up random men?
Whens your next wedding??!!
girls can be wedding crashers too!!
Always give £150 as couple and I think that is pretty generous to be honest.
I've got 6/7 weddings in the next few years and countless stags but if I didn't want to go but it is a massive day that I want to spend with my close friends.
Always bring a carryout myself to limit the cost as most hotels cost a fortune just booked a double room for 260 euro a night and thats wedding rate. Madness really.
Quote from: RMDrive on August 17, 2009, 05:18:48 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 17, 2009, 05:07:24 PM
RM
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IMO it's your choice not theirs. If you don't want to pay the prices (and it can sometimes be crazy) then don't go. I agree completely that some couples have lost the run of themselves and their wedding is more like a day long parade of their "taste" or "wealth". But for every wedding like that, there are 10 where the couple are simple good natured folks who are just trying to celebrate their big day with family and friends and are not trying to put on a show. To have a traditional Irish wedding these days is not cheap, no matter how straightforward you try to make it.
It's all very well saying if you dont want to pay it dont go and a lot of weddings people are invited to they've no option but to go, unless they want to offend the couple.
If a good friend or family member is getting married you cant not go to their wedding so you're expected to pay your way when they've chosen the hotel, the food, the location (if you've to pay for a night in a hotel/B&B) then you may also have had to pay to go on the stag/hen weekend, the women will spend a fortune on the stuff they spend money on also.
It's their choices, not yours. Maybe amongst their guests they've students, unemployed friends, elderly couples with nothing only their pensions or people who just simply cannot afford their choice of hotel. How is it even remotely reasonable they expect these people to pay their way? and do you think they shouldnt go if they can't?
If it was me getting married I'd invite the people I wanted to share the day with and would be horrified if they felt they had to pay their way, particularly if I knew they couldnt.
Btw RM, what exactly is a "traditional Irish wedding"?
and are you one of these people who think that if people don't go to a wedding they should send a present anyway?
It's a fair enough point I suppose. However I've been through it all and I always have a bit of sympathy with the couple getting married. On one hand you want to have a great day and to make it something that you will remember fondly for the rest of your lilfe (or until the next one), and on the other hand you don't want to force people to have to splash a whole load of cash.
I agree that there are some wedding that you just have to go to but I'd suggest that those are the very ones that you wouldn't mind splashing a bit of cash on. Would a couple be offended if someone (not close family or friends) didn't go to their wedding? I doubt it.
By traditional Irish wedding I meant the whole church, flowers, photos, hotel, band, sausages and sandwichs, DJ thing. Maybe it's not an accurate description of mst Irish weddings but it reflects the ones I have experienced at home and here in Mayo. It's traditional in that sense.
And no, I'm not someone who believes that you should send a present even if you don't go. That's called being daft.
Why's that?
Quote from: DennistheMenace on August 17, 2009, 05:25:57 PM
Always give £150 as couple and I think that is pretty generous to be honest.
I've got 6/7 weddings in the next few years and countless stags but if I didn't want to go but it is a massive day that I want to spend with my close friends.
Always bring a carryout myself to limit the cost as most hotels cost a fortune just booked a double room for 260 euro a night and thats wedding rate. Madness really.
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It's a fair enough point I suppose. However I've been through it all and I always have a bit of sympathy with the couple getting married. On one hand you want to have a great day and to make it something that you will remember fondly for the rest of your lilfe (or until the next one), and on the other hand you don't want to force people to have to splash a whole load of cash.
But you can do that without it costing a bomb.
The thing that drives the prices of weddings up the most is the hotel and the meal X however many guests you want. That can all be managed, imo no one needs over 100 at their wedding (if they even need 100). No one has that many family members they talk to or like or friends!
I'd a family member married last year, it was only immediate family and a couple of their close friends invited, it had everything a traditional wedding would have and was a great day, cost them f**k all. So it's not that people can't have reasonable weddings, it's that they won't or don't want to and that's fine if that's waht the want (madness if you ask me) but don't expect others to pay for it.
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IMO it's your choice not theirs. If you don't want to pay the prices (and it can sometimes be crazy) then don't go. I agree completely that some couples have lost the run of themselves and their wedding is more like a day long parade of their "taste" or "wealth". But for every wedding like that, there are 10 where the couple are simple good natured folks who are just trying to celebrate their big day with family and friends and are not trying to put on a show. To have a traditional Irish wedding these days is not cheap, no matter how straightforward you try to make it.
It's all very well saying if you dont want to pay it dont go and a lot of weddings people are invited to they've no option but to go, unless they want to offend the couple.
If a good friend or family member is getting married you cant not go to their wedding so you're expected to pay your way when they've chosen the hotel, the food, the location (if you've to pay for a night in a hotel/B&B) then you may also have had to pay to go on the stag/hen weekend, the women will spend a fortune on the stuff they spend money on also.
It's their choices, not yours. Maybe amongst their guests they've students, unemployed friends, elderly couples with nothing only their pensions or people who just simply cannot afford their choice of hotel. How is it even remotely reasonable they expect these people to pay their way? and do you think they shouldnt go if they can't?
If it was me getting married I'd invite the people I wanted to share the day with and would be horrified if they felt they had to pay their way, particularly if I knew they couldnt.
Btw RM, what exactly is a "traditional Irish wedding"?
and are you one of these people who think that if people don't go to a wedding they should send a present anyway?
It's a fair enough point I suppose. However I've been through it all and I always have a bit of sympathy with the couple getting married. On one hand you want to have a great day and to make it something that you will remember fondly for the rest of your lilfe (or until the next one), and on the other hand you don't want to force people to have to splash a whole load of cash.
I agree that there are some wedding that you just have to go to but I'd suggest that those are the very ones that you wouldn't mind splashing a bit of cash on. Would a couple be offended if someone (not close family or friends) didn't go to their wedding? I doubt it.
By traditional Irish wedding I meant the whole church, flowers, photos, hotel, band, sausages and sandwichs, DJ thing. Maybe it's not an accurate description of mst Irish weddings but it reflects the ones I have experienced at home and here in Mayo. It's traditional in that sense.
And no, I'm not someone who believes that you should send a present even if you don't go. That's called being daft.
Why's that?
Ah I just think that it's kind of a deal isn't it. They organise the day and you throw them a few bob? All I can say is that we've never sent a present if we didn't go to the wedding. Maybe it's the done thing and I just don't know it.
I'll have 150 family and friends (including her side) I 'have to invite''would be expecting an invitation and I would want there.
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It's a fair enough point I suppose. However I've been through it all and I always have a bit of sympathy with the couple getting married. On one hand you want to have a great day and to make it something that you will remember fondly for the rest of your lilfe (or until the next one), and on the other hand you don't want to force people to have to splash a whole load of cash.
But you can do that without it costing a bomb.
The thing that drives the prices of weddings up the most is the hotel and the meal X however many guests you want. That can all be managed, imo no one needs over 100 at their wedding (if they even need 100). No one has that many family members they talk to or like or friends!
I'd a family member married last year, it was only immediate family and a couple of their close friends invited, it had everything a traditional wedding would have and was a great day, cost them f**k all. So it's not that people can't have reasonable weddings, it's that they won't or don't want to and that's fine if that's waht the want (madness if you ask me) but don't expect others to pay for it.
Couldn't agree more,any more than 100-120 is ridiculous and usually only to showoff IMHO..
Quote from: DennistheMenace on August 17, 2009, 05:32:27 PM
I'll have 150 family and friends (including her side) I 'have to invite''would be expecting an invitation and I would want there.
SO how many would you actually want there?
Why do people invite people to their weddings they dont actually want to be there?
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IMO it's your choice not theirs. If you don't want to pay the prices (and it can sometimes be crazy) then don't go. I agree completely that some couples have lost the run of themselves and their wedding is more like a day long parade of their "taste" or "wealth". But for every wedding like that, there are 10 where the couple are simple good natured folks who are just trying to celebrate their big day with family and friends and are not trying to put on a show. To have a traditional Irish wedding these days is not cheap, no matter how straightforward you try to make it.
It's all very well saying if you dont want to pay it dont go and a lot of weddings people are invited to they've no option but to go, unless they want to offend the couple.
If a good friend or family member is getting married you cant not go to their wedding so you're expected to pay your way when they've chosen the hotel, the food, the location (if you've to pay for a night in a hotel/B&B) then you may also have had to pay to go on the stag/hen weekend, the women will spend a fortune on the stuff they spend money on also.
It's their choices, not yours. Maybe amongst their guests they've students, unemployed friends, elderly couples with nothing only their pensions or people who just simply cannot afford their choice of hotel. How is it even remotely reasonable they expect these people to pay their way? and do you think they shouldnt go if they can't?
If it was me getting married I'd invite the people I wanted to share the day with and would be horrified if they felt they had to pay their way, particularly if I knew they couldnt.
Btw RM, what exactly is a "traditional Irish wedding"?
and are you one of these people who think that if people don't go to a wedding they should send a present anyway?
It's a fair enough point I suppose. However I've been through it all and I always have a bit of sympathy with the couple getting married. On one hand you want to have a great day and to make it something that you will remember fondly for the rest of your lilfe (or until the next one), and on the other hand you don't want to force people to have to splash a whole load of cash.
I agree that there are some wedding that you just have to go to but I'd suggest that those are the very ones that you wouldn't mind splashing a bit of cash on. Would a couple be offended if someone (not close family or friends) didn't go to their wedding? I doubt it.
By traditional Irish wedding I meant the whole church, flowers, photos, hotel, band, sausages and sandwichs, DJ thing. Maybe it's not an accurate description of mst Irish weddings but it reflects the ones I have experienced at home and here in Mayo. It's traditional in that sense.
And no, I'm not someone who believes that you should send a present even if you don't go. That's called being daft.
Why's that?
Ah I just think that it's kind of a deal isn't it. They organise the day and you throw them a few bob? All I can say is that we've never sent a present if we didn't go to the wedding. Maybe it's the done thing and I just don't know it.
Naw maybe it's me that's wrong. I'd generally give something small even if I wasn't going. Usually under £50.
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It's a fair enough point I suppose. However I've been through it all and I always have a bit of sympathy with the couple getting married. On one hand you want to have a great day and to make it something that you will remember fondly for the rest of your lilfe (or until the next one), and on the other hand you don't want to force people to have to splash a whole load of cash.
But you can do that without it costing a bomb.
The thing that drives the prices of weddings up the most is the hotel and the meal X however many guests you want. That can all be managed, imo no one needs over 100 at their wedding (if they even need 100). No one has that many family members they talk to or like or friends!
I'd a family member married last year, it was only immediate family and a couple of their close friends invited, it had everything a traditional wedding would have and was a great day, cost them f**k all. So it's not that people can't have reasonable weddings, it's that they won't or don't want to and that's fine if that's waht the want (madness if you ask me) but don't expect others to pay for it.
But would a wedding with few people not put more pressure on people to cover the costs? There are certain fixed costs (band, DJ etc) and certain variable ones (meal). If follow my theory that people cover their costs then it would cost more per person as the fixed costs would not be as diluted? What would you call a reasonable wedding? £40 a head?
I agree 100% about the number of people that you should have at your wedding. There were only about 50 people at our that we really really wanted there. The rest were there because of tradition - we were at theirs, relations you never see, neighbours that your mother would kill you if you didn't ask etc. But it's hard not to invite those. Tradition is a awkward thing to deal with at times and while it might be the right thing to do, it's hard to be the one to dispense with it.
RM Drive, didnt mean to judge or offend, probably didnt ask those questions in the best possible way. I just dont see the need for such large amoutns of money. THEY are inviting you to THEIR day. You in no way should feel obliged to pay your way. Sure chances are your day will come (has came) round and it evens things out more or less.
I'm with Pints on this one, I'd hate to think any of my guests would feel like they have to pay their way.
As for the English woman giving £20, so what? I think its more for the fact that everyone else would be thinking "f**k sake I gace £50 or £100". As Pints said maybe its all she could afford. Or maybe she doesnt know them all that well. People should be less concerned with whats in the envelope and more concerned about who is there.
Its alright saying it, but I would love to be able to say "no gifts at all" on my invitations. Wedding lists are ok when theres a wide variety of things and alot of things at the smaller end of the price range.
People are too materialistic these days, greedy and concerned with what the rest of the world thinks of them. If someone wants to give a card with £20 so be it. If someone wants to give a card with nothing in it then so be it. I genuinely think many invites are simply to "bump up" the number of cards received. Sad but (IMO) true.
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Quote from: DennistheMenace on August 17, 2009, 05:32:27 PM
I'll have 150 family and friends (including her side) I 'have to invite''would be expecting an invitation and I would want there.
SO how many would you actually want there?
Why do people invite people to their weddings they dont actually want to be there?
Everyone going I want there bar maybe the drunken uncle who I was forced into inviting, family pressure etc..
I have a large family and different circles of friends and I wouldn't invite anyone I didn't want there bar the above exception.
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IMO it's your choice not theirs. If you don't want to pay the prices (and it can sometimes be crazy) then don't go. I agree completely that some couples have lost the run of themselves and their wedding is more like a day long parade of their "taste" or "wealth". But for every wedding like that, there are 10 where the couple are simple good natured folks who are just trying to celebrate their big day with family and friends and are not trying to put on a show. To have a traditional Irish wedding these days is not cheap, no matter how straightforward you try to make it.
It's all very well saying if you dont want to pay it dont go and a lot of weddings people are invited to they've no option but to go, unless they want to offend the couple.
If a good friend or family member is getting married you cant not go to their wedding so you're expected to pay your way when they've chosen the hotel, the food, the location (if you've to pay for a night in a hotel/B&B) then you may also have had to pay to go on the stag/hen weekend, the women will spend a fortune on the stuff they spend money on also.
It's their choices, not yours. Maybe amongst their guests they've students, unemployed friends, elderly couples with nothing only their pensions or people who just simply cannot afford their choice of hotel. How is it even remotely reasonable they expect these people to pay their way? and do you think they shouldnt go if they can't?
If it was me getting married I'd invite the people I wanted to share the day with and would be horrified if they felt they had to pay their way, particularly if I knew they couldnt.
Btw RM, what exactly is a "traditional Irish wedding"?
and are you one of these people who think that if people don't go to a wedding they should send a present anyway?
It's a fair enough point I suppose. However I've been through it all and I always have a bit of sympathy with the couple getting married. On one hand you want to have a great day and to make it something that you will remember fondly for the rest of your lilfe (or until the next one), and on the other hand you don't want to force people to have to splash a whole load of cash.
I agree that there are some wedding that you just have to go to but I'd suggest that those are the very ones that you wouldn't mind splashing a bit of cash on. Would a couple be offended if someone (not close family or friends) didn't go to their wedding? I doubt it.
By traditional Irish wedding I meant the whole church, flowers, photos, hotel, band, sausages and sandwichs, DJ thing. Maybe it's not an accurate description of mst Irish weddings but it reflects the ones I have experienced at home and here in Mayo. It's traditional in that sense.
And no, I'm not someone who believes that you should send a present even if you don't go. That's called being daft.
Why's that?
Ah I just think that it's kind of a deal isn't it. They organise the day and you throw them a few bob? All I can say is that we've never sent a present if we didn't go to the wedding. Maybe it's the done thing and I just don't know it.
Naw maybe it's me that's wrong. I'd generally give something small even if I wasn't going. Usually under £50.
Fair play to you. You are officially invited to an imaginary wedding I'm having next week. I'll PM you my address for the £50 ;)
RM, whats this obsession with "covering the costs"? Its not the guests fault they were invited. It shouldnt be up to them to make it cheaper for the bride and groom!
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But would a wedding with few people not put more pressure on people to cover the costs? There are certain fixed costs (band, DJ etc) and certain variable ones (meal). If follow my theory that people cover their costs then it would cost more per person as the fixed costs would not be as diluted? What would you call a reasonable wedding? £40 a head?
The wedding I was talking about, I think it only cost a couple of grand (and they wouldnt be short of a few pound either!) they hadn't a band of DJ though, we'd a meal and a piss up. We were told, on several occasions, there was to be no presents though everyone did get them little keep sakes and stuff like that.
To me a reasonable wedding is what you can afford and spare, cash wise. It's just beyond me why anyone would have a big wedding, when they dont want half the people there when the money could go in to a good holiday for themselves or in to the house or something.
The more people that go to your wedding = potential money to cover the cost, no ?
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RM Drive, didnt mean to judge or offend, probably didnt ask those questions in the best possible way. I just dont see the need for such large amoutns of money. THEY are inviting you to THEIR day. You in no way should feel obliged to pay your way. Sure chances are your day will come (has came) round and it evens things out more or less.
I'm with Pints on this one, I'd hate to think any of my guests would feel like they have to pay their way.
As for the English woman giving £20, so what? I think its more for the fact that everyone else would be thinking "f**k sake I gace £50 or £100". As Pints said maybe its all she could afford. Or maybe she doesnt know them all that well. People should be less concerned with whats in the envelope and more concerned about who is there.
Its alright saying it, but I would love to be able to say "no gifts at all" on my invitations. Wedding lists are ok when theres a wide variety of things and alot of things at the smaller end of the price range.
People are too materialistic these days, greedy and concerned with what the rest of the world thinks of them. If someone wants to give a card with £20 so be it. If someone wants to give a card with nothing in it then so be it. I genuinely think many invites are simply to "bump up" the number of cards received. Sad but (IMO) true.
No it wasn't all she could afford.
Its all very well being on your high horse saying it doesnt matter what you give/ its about the people you want being there etc etc
But at the end of the day I would want my meal/wine/evening buffet well covered for by giving enough of a present, but maybe thats just my materialistic view of the world.....
Was at a wedding last year with 250+ guests,they had a ice sculpture at the head table of a swan or some shite like that,they released doves as they walked out from the church and had a lottery scratch card at everyones seat ::)
A few months later I was drinking with the guy who got married,he told me or rather started boasting to me that they had spent €45k on the wedding!
He wasn't best pleased when I told him he was a f**king eegit....
Well fair enough it was their day and they can spend their own money as they see wish,but I think it was ridiculous waste of money.
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The more people that go to your wedding = potential money to cover the cost, no ?
Maybe so but it shouldnt be about that, if you're inviting people to help cover the costs you should take a look in the mirror.
Actually, I think I'm going to suggest to the woman to get married, we'll invite about 500 and have the reception in McDonalds.
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A few months later I was drinking with the guy who got married,he told me or rather started boasting to me that they had spent €45k on the wedding!
He wasn't best pleased when I told him he was a f**king eegit....
Ha
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Quote from: SidelineKick on August 17, 2009, 05:38:34 PM
RM Drive, didnt mean to judge or offend, probably didnt ask those questions in the best possible way. I just dont see the need for such large amoutns of money. THEY are inviting you to THEIR day. You in no way should feel obliged to pay your way. Sure chances are your day will come (has came) round and it evens things out more or less.
I'm with Pints on this one, I'd hate to think any of my guests would feel like they have to pay their way.
As for the English woman giving £20, so what? I think its more for the fact that everyone else would be thinking "f**k sake I gace £50 or £100". As Pints said maybe its all she could afford. Or maybe she doesnt know them all that well. People should be less concerned with whats in the envelope and more concerned about who is there.
Its alright saying it, but I would love to be able to say "no gifts at all" on my invitations. Wedding lists are ok when theres a wide variety of things and alot of things at the smaller end of the price range.
People are too materialistic these days, greedy and concerned with what the rest of the world thinks of them. If someone wants to give a card with £20 so be it. If someone wants to give a card with nothing in it then so be it. I genuinely think many invites are simply to "bump up" the number of cards received. Sad but (IMO) true.
No it wasn't all she could afford.
Its all very well being on your high horse saying it doesnt matter what you give/ its about the people you want being there etc etc
But at the end of the day I would want my meal/wine/evening buffet well covered for by giving enough of a present, but maybe thats just my materialistic view of the world.....
That wasnt a dig at you Maggie, just using that woman as an example. But she could have a number of reasons for not giving any more. Perhaps she feels any more is simply too much. Thats her choice. I must say it does look bad in comparison to what the rest of the envelopes would hold but that so happens to be the world we live in, unfortunately.
Quote from: SidelineKick on August 17, 2009, 05:38:34 PM
RM Drive, didnt mean to judge or offend, probably didnt ask those questions in the best possible way. I just dont see the need for such large amoutns of money. THEY are inviting you to THEIR day. You in no way should feel obliged to pay your way. Sure chances are your day will come (has came) round and it evens things out more or less.
I'm with Pints on this one, I'd hate to think any of my guests would feel like they have to pay their way.
As for the English woman giving £20, so what? I think its more for the fact that everyone else would be thinking "f**k sake I gace £50 or £100". As Pints said maybe its all she could afford. Or maybe she doesnt know them all that well. People should be less concerned with whats in the envelope and more concerned about who is there.
Its alright saying it, but I would love to be able to say "no gifts at all" on my invitations. Wedding lists are ok when theres a wide variety of things and alot of things at the smaller end of the price range.
People are too materialistic these days, greedy and concerned with what the rest of the world thinks of them. If someone wants to give a card with £20 so be it. If someone wants to give a card with nothing in it then so be it. I genuinely think many invites are simply to "bump up" the number of cards received. Sad but (IMO) true.
Ah no worries SLK, I just didn't want to appear as if I throw money at weddings with not a care in the word. I'm a miserable fecker and it breaks my heart to have to spend all that money on a wedding. 4 years ago we went to 8 weddings in one year - if we had saved the money it would have been a dream holiday for us. But it was the year after we got married ourselves and I suppose we felt oblidged to people who came to ours.
Our wedding day wasn't about the money though and I'd guess it's the same for most people. We took out a loan to cover the costs of our wedding and I honestly wouldn't have minded if we got no cash at all. But people are very generous and we were lucky enough that the presents we received went a long way to covering the cost of the hotel. I suppose that has probably influenced my approach in that I feel obliged to reciprocate that generousity.
Maybe it would be better if it was clear that all/most of the cost was to be taken by the couple themselves (Maybe a bit like the hobbits where the person celebrating their birthday has to buy all his/her guests a present!). I suppose it used to be that the brides father covered the cost. AFAIK these days that has mostly dissappeared.
I would also say the English mentality is a bit different than the Irish but that might be me being a bit presumptious.
Quote from: SidelineKick on August 17, 2009, 05:41:15 PM
RM, whats this obsession with "covering the costs"? Its not the guests fault they were invited. It shouldnt be up to them to make it cheaper for the bride and groom!
Ok I take your point and maybe I'm out on my own with this one. Put it like this ... I was delighted with every single person who attended our wedding irrespective of whether they gave a gift or not. How good your wedding day will be is a function of the people there, not of the money you spend.
But even if you have a sensible wedding (sans ice sculptures etc) it will still cost a fare few pound and I'm happy to cover my costs (there I go using it again!) towards that.
QuoteI suppose it used to be that the brides father covered the cost. AFAIK these days that has mostly dissappeared.
Thank God, horrible tradition imo.
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Quote from: SidelineKick on August 17, 2009, 05:41:15 PM
RM, whats this obsession with "covering the costs"? Its not the guests fault they were invited. It shouldnt be up to them to make it cheaper for the bride and groom!
Ok I take your point and maybe I'm out on my own with this one. Put it like this ... I was delighted with every single person who attended our wedding irrespective of whether they gave a gift or not. How good your wedding day will be is a function of the people there, not of the money you spend.
But even if you have a sensible wedding (sans ice sculptures etc) it will still cost a fare few pound and I'm happy to cover my costs (there I go using it again!) towards that.
Earlier I said the more fool you! But it seems like a selfless act and you genuinely want to contribute towards their expenses. Pehaps I might not have such an opinion until I have a wedding of my own :-\
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QuoteI suppose it used to be that the brides father covered the cost. AFAIK these days that has mostly dissappeared.
Thank God, horrible tradition imo.
Agreed..
Wouldn't have anyone pay for my wedding only myself
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QuoteI suppose it used to be that the brides father covered the cost. AFAIK these days that has mostly dissappeared.
Thank God, horrible tradition imo.
Agreed..
Wouldn't have anyone pay for my wedding only myself
I was at a cousins wedding a few years ago where the bride's parents paid for it.
Now, it was quite clear they were also in charge of the invitations and the band! there was only about 5 of us under 50! (bride and groom in their 20s). The best man was only on about his third pint when he was sent out to the car to sleep it off!!!!!!!
I just cannot express or begin to explain how boring it was, most boring day of my life by a long way!!! though I've a friend who had to go to an family wedding a few years before that and there was no drink allowed!!!!!!!! I'm not on who thinks you need drink to enjoy yourself but f**king hell....
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Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 17, 2009, 05:58:22 PM
QuoteI suppose it used to be that the brides father covered the cost. AFAIK these days that has mostly dissappeared.
Thank God, horrible tradition imo.
Agreed..
Wouldn't have anyone pay for my wedding only myself
I was at a cousins wedding a few years ago where the bride's parents paid for it.
Now, it was quite clear they were also in charge of the invitations and the band! there was only about 5 of us under 50! (bride and groom in their 20s). The best man was only on about his third pint when he was sent out to the car to sleep it off!!!!!!!
I just cannot express or begin to explain how boring it was, most boring day of my life by a long way!!! though I've a friend who had to go to an family wedding a few years before that and there was no drink allowed!!!!!!!! I'm not on who thinks you need drink to enjoy yourself but f**king hell....
To me thats a very selfish thing to do. If some people want to take a drink they should be allowed.
Quote from: DennistheMenace on August 17, 2009, 05:53:13 PM
I would also say the English mentality is a bit different than the Irish but that might be me being a bit presumptious.
I don't think there is an equivalent in any other language of "flaithiúlach" (foolishly generous or extravagant) and no equivalent mentality in any other nationality I can think of. And certainly not in the English.
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Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 17, 2009, 05:58:22 PM
QuoteI suppose it used to be that the brides father covered the cost. AFAIK these days that has mostly dissappeared.
Thank God, horrible tradition imo.
Agreed..
Wouldn't have anyone pay for my wedding only myself
I was at a cousins wedding a few years ago where the bride's parents paid for it.
Now, it was quite clear they were also in charge of the invitations and the band! there was only about 5 of us under 50! (bride and groom in their 20s). The best man was only on about his third pint when he was sent out to the car to sleep it off!!!!!!!
I just cannot express or begin to explain how boring it was, most boring day of my life by a long way!!! though I've a friend who had to go to an family wedding a few years before that and there was no drink allowed!!!!!!!! I'm not on who thinks you need drink to enjoy yourself but f**king hell....
I find all weddings boring to be honest,I hate going to them..
We had 100 at our wedding and it cost a fortune by the time we finished . the rule was only people we like, had seen in the last 6 months and no one that our parents wanted to bring. About 5 minutes after we got married the recession started, with hindsight wish I had invited 250 now as according to "Wedding by Franc" the more you invite the cheaper the day.
Pints and Laois Lad : you boys should go to a wedding together, it would be funny to watch you sitting there giving out. reminds me of the two old lads in the Muppet show Waldorf and Statler
Quote from: SidelineKick on August 17, 2009, 05:41:15 PM
RM, whats this obsession with "covering the costs"? Its not the guests fault they were invited. It shouldnt be up to them to make it cheaper for the bride and groom!
I would always try and cover the cost of my dinner and wine, that should be about 50/60 in most standard southern hotels. The norm for a couple down south is €200 and whilst herself tries to up it in certain circumstances, I have none of it. It's very rarely that i'd stay in the hotel the wedding's in, there's normally chalets or b&b's etc that can vastly reduce that cost.
What I find most annoying is the tendency to move towards these 2 and 3 day affairs, there's no need for that imo, and tbh I've yet to stay around for that.
Oh and these stags out foreign are another joke, people have to take account of just how much the whole deal can end up costing their mates.
I'd give up to £200, going as a couple - depending on how well I know the people. But it's all about what people can afford.
Having got married recently, we were given various amounts - older couples (relatives) often around €250, with single people or those who wouldn't have as much money giving less.
A general observation - people in the south give more; from a friend who got married across the water, English people give far less, or even nothing.
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 17, 2009, 05:29:35 PM
The thing that drives the prices of weddings up the most is the hotel and the meal X however many guests you want. That can all be managed, imo no one needs over 100 at their wedding (if they even need 100).
Not true actually. The more people you invite, the cheaper it gets. You have fixed costs such as the wedding dress/suit/rings/dj/band etc etc etc... and the more people you invite, the more of these costs you have "covered". I've heard of people quoting the number of guests at which they would break even, and that additional invites would basically be into money-making territory. It's not really the best approach to your wedding day!
Quote from: RMDrive on August 17, 2009, 05:38:10 PM
What would you call a reasonable wedding? £40 a head?
That would be a cheap wedding! I don't think you'd get too many good wedding meals in this country for that price to be honest.
Always assumed as well (in Ireland at least) that the more people that attended the wedding the cheaper the costs.
Quote from: Bogball XV on August 17, 2009, 09:21:42 PM
Oh and these stags out foreign are another joke, people have to take account of just how much the whole deal can end up costing their mates.
Yep, stags have got really out of hand. What's wrong with a night out? Why does it have to be a weekend now? It's all putting too much pressure on some of those who aren't earning as much as others.
At the same time, depending on how foreign we're talking, a weekend stag (or hen) in a city in the UK is generally cheaper than one in the south, even after flights.
Quote from: Bogball XV on August 17, 2009, 09:21:42 PM
Quote from: SidelineKick on August 17, 2009, 05:41:15 PM
RM, whats this obsession with "covering the costs"? Its not the guests fault they were invited. It shouldnt be up to them to make it cheaper for the bride and groom!
I would always try and cover the cost of my dinner and wine, that should be about 50/60 in most standard southern hotels. The norm for a couple down south is €200 and whilst herself tries to up it in certain circumstances, I have none of it. It's very rarely that i'd stay in the hotel the wedding's in, there's normally chalets or b&b's etc that can vastly reduce that cost.
What I find most annoying is the tendency to move towards these 2 and 3 day affairs, there's no need for that imo, and tbh I've yet to stay around for that.
Oh and these stags out foreign are another joke, people have to take account of just how much the whole deal can end up costing their mates.
Couldn't agree more. The whole "next day" thing is just an opportunity for the bride and groom to get drunk (which it's virtually impossible to do on your wedding day) and for you to be bored with pictures that a crazy aunt has somehow managed to get developed on a Sunday morning.
QuoteNot true actually. The more people you invite, the cheaper it gets. You have fixed costs such as the wedding dress/suit/rings/dj/band etc etc etc... and the more people you invite, the more of these costs you have "covered". I've heard of people quoting the number of guests at which they would break even, and that additional invites would basically be into money-making territory. It's not really the best approach to your wedding day!
Well no, the more people you invite the dearer it gets as you've got to pay for those people's meals, wine, maybe a bigger room in the hotel etc. What you mean is, the people you invite might give you money and you might end up breaking even. Now, in my eyes if you are inviting people to your wedding for that reason you really need to take a look at yourself.
Question for you boys saying you'd cover the cost of your meal, if the wedding was in the local pub or GAA hall would you give less as the meal won't be as expensive?
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 17, 2009, 09:44:12 PM
QuoteNot true actually. The more people you invite, the cheaper it gets. You have fixed costs such as the wedding dress/suit/rings/dj/band etc etc etc... and the more people you invite, the more of these costs you have "covered". I've heard of people quoting the number of guests at which they would break even, and that additional invites would basically be into money-making territory. It's not really the best approach to your wedding day!
Well no, the more people you invite the dearer it gets as you've got to pay for those people's meals, wine, maybe a bigger room in the hotel etc. What you mean is, the people you invite might give you money and you might end up breaking even. Now, in my eyes if you are inviting people to your wedding for that reason you really need to take a look at yourself.
Question for you boys saying you'd cover the cost of your meal, if the wedding was in the local pub or GAA hall would you give less as the meal won't be as expensive?
I'd say it would depend on what the meal was like but yeah, I think the present should broadly tally with the cost they are incurring.
Folks need an excuse to get out of a wedding in 2 weeks time. I dont mind buying a present, the bride to be is a lovely girl, but in her words she is "settling" and the groom is an out and out no good c*nt. Its the wifes best friend, so it needs to be a great excuse.
Quote from: Trevor Hill on August 17, 2009, 09:51:12 PM
Folks need an excuse to get out of a wedding in 2 weeks time. I dont mind buying a present, the bride to be is a lovely girl, but in her words she is "settling" and the groom is an out and out no good c*nt. Its the wifes best friend, so it needs to be a great excuse.
Swine flu.
Quote from: Trevor Hill on August 17, 2009, 09:51:12 PM
Folks need an excuse to get out of a wedding in 2 weeks time. I dont mind buying a present, the bride to be is a lovely girl, but in her words she is "settling" and the groom is an out and out no good c*nt. Its the wifes best friend, so it needs to be a great excuse.
Ha ha
You'll be going!
What many couples getting married seem to forget is that that it's the guests that honour the b&g with their presence, not the guests who should be honoured to be asked! While presents have become the accepted norm, and no doubt people who don't give presents will stand out, there is absolutely NO obligation on guests to give presents and the mention of what to give/not give on invitations is plain bad manners!
As for what to give, there are two main considerations - how close you are to the couple and what you can afford - NOT how much they're going to spend.
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 17, 2009, 09:44:12 PM
QuoteNot true actually. The more people you invite, the cheaper it gets. You have fixed costs such as the wedding dress/suit/rings/dj/band etc etc etc... and the more people you invite, the more of these costs you have "covered". I've heard of people quoting the number of guests at which they would break even, and that additional invites would basically be into money-making territory. It's not really the best approach to your wedding day!
Well no, the more people you invite the dearer it gets as you've got to pay for those people's meals, wine, maybe a bigger room in the hotel etc. What you mean is, the people you invite might give you money and you might end up breaking even. Now, in my eyes if you are inviting people to your wedding for that reason you really need to take a look at yourself.
I couldn't agree more. And it says a lot when the (supposedly) most important day of your life comes down to this.
To clarify the first part, it does get cheaper
per head when you invite more. On top of that, the more you invite, the more likely you are to cover all costs with the money you're given, and then some.
Quote from: Treasurer on August 17, 2009, 10:19:40 PM
As for what to give, there are two main considerations - how close you are to the couple and what you can afford - NOT how much they're going to spend.
Nail on head.
Quote from: Trevor Hill on August 17, 2009, 09:51:12 PM
Folks need an excuse to get out of a wedding in 2 weeks time. I dont mind buying a present, the bride to be is a lovely girl, but in her words she is "settling" and the groom is an out and out no good c*nt. Its the wifes best friend, so it needs to be a great excuse.
Tell them that your Mrs had a fling with the groom many moons ago & they'll definately not expect you to be there ;D
Was round in my friend's house there this eve, and her fiancé was writing his speech and was referring to me in it. That's worth another tenner I reckon.
Same friend was trying to limit the number of people they had to ask, but the groom's parents had a long list. So they explained to the parents that they couldn't afford it, so the parents offered to help out with those additional guests.
Now one of these additional guests is flying in by helicopter. Need to find a way to convince him to fly me to Dublin if Tyrone get to the final.
Quote from: mournerambler on August 17, 2009, 11:11:25 PM
Quote from: Trevor Hill on August 17, 2009, 09:51:12 PM
Folks need an excuse to get out of a wedding in 2 weeks time. I dont mind buying a present, the bride to be is a lovely girl, but in her words she is "settling" and the groom is an out and out no good c*nt. Its the wifes best friend, so it needs to be a great excuse.
Tell them that your Mrs had a fling with the groom many moons ago & they'll definately not expect you to be there ;D
Thats one of my issues, he has had more than one fling (though not with my missus) and he is a no good lazy scrounging ****.
Quote from: Trevor Hill on August 18, 2009, 12:26:29 AM
Quote from: mournerambler on August 17, 2009, 11:11:25 PM
Quote from: Trevor Hill on August 17, 2009, 09:51:12 PM
Folks need an excuse to get out of a wedding in 2 weeks time. I dont mind buying a present, the bride to be is a lovely girl, but in her words she is "settling" and the groom is an out and out no good c*nt. Its the wifes best friend, so it needs to be a great excuse.
Tell them that your Mrs had a fling with the groom many moons ago & they'll definately not expect you to be there ;D
Thats one of my issues, he has had more than one fling (though not with my missus) and he is a no good lazy scrounging ****.
Sounds like my sister's other half!
Jeeze rois yer man is writing a speech in plenty of time!
Why are women so gullable?
Quote from: Treasurer on August 17, 2009, 10:19:40 PM
While presents have become the accepted norm, and no doubt people who don't give presents will stand out, there is absolutely NO obligation on guests to give presents and the mention of what to give/not give on invitations is plain bad manners!
I don't agree, if you're going to spend money anyway, then why spend it on something that the recipients don't want. Wedding lists and cash gifts are there for a reason, they make sense.
Quote from: Bogball XV on August 18, 2009, 12:30:21 AM
Quote from: Treasurer on August 17, 2009, 10:19:40 PM
While presents have become the accepted norm, and no doubt people who don't give presents will stand out, there is absolutely NO obligation on guests to give presents and the mention of what to give/not give on invitations is plain bad manners!
I don't agree, if you're going to spend money anyway, then why spend it on something that the recipients don't want. Wedding lists and cash gifts are there for a reason, they make sense.
I've no problem with them wanting cash, am undecided about lists, but it's bad manners to put it on the invite. Most people will ask anyway, it's very easy let the word out that cash is the preference, but not on the invitation!
Quote from: Trevor Hill on August 18, 2009, 12:29:19 AM
Why are women so gullable?
I've no idea! I couldnt even begin to describe what an controlling, aggressive, lazy, useless little p***k this **** is.
Men can be just as stupid though.
Quote from: Treasurer on August 18, 2009, 12:33:49 AM
Quote from: Bogball XV on August 18, 2009, 12:30:21 AM
Quote from: Treasurer on August 17, 2009, 10:19:40 PM
While presents have become the accepted norm, and no doubt people who don't give presents will stand out, there is absolutely NO obligation on guests to give presents and the mention of what to give/not give on invitations is plain bad manners!
I don't agree, if you're going to spend money anyway, then why spend it on something that the recipients don't want. Wedding lists and cash gifts are there for a reason, they make sense.
I've no problem with them wanting cash, am undecided about lists, but it's bad manners to put it on the invite. Most people will ask anyway, it's very easy let the word out that cash is the preference, but not on the invitation!
fair enough
I normally give cash if I think that is the best option, we`ll be buying a present this time round. I was at a wedding a few years ago and the bride was overheard complaining about some of the donations. Her idea was to invite as many as possible so they would get a bigger return. I think her idea backfired.
Quote from: Rois on August 17, 2009, 11:40:19 PM
Was round in my friend's house there this eve, and her fiancé was writing his speech and was referring to me in it. That's worth another tenner I reckon.
Same friend was trying to limit the number of people they had to ask, but the groom's parents had a long list. So they explained to the parents that they couldn't afford it, so the parents offered to help out with those additional guests.
Now one of these additional guests is flying in by helicopter. Need to find a way to convince him to fly me to Dublin if Tyrone get to the final.
Seriously Rois if its the third day of a festival I wouldn't give going to the football a second thought. I'd be there in a shot. Thought maybe you could tell her that you're a devout Catholic and as far as you are concerned, the minute the Mass is over, the important part of the occasion is over.
Thought i'd throw my opinion into the ring here as well...
£100 is plenty as a wedding present, if your very close to them you might want to give a bit more but i doubt if the b&g would curse you if they opened the envelope with £100 in it...
At our wedding we had singles giving more than £100 (totally unexpected) & couples giving less (we knew that was all they could afford, maybe out of work or saving for their own wedding or building a house etc..) ... all presents were greatly received!!
A wedding list is a good way to go i think - we had plenty of relations asking were our wedding list was before we'd even done it!! But it's important that there is a wide variety of presents (prices) on there... in hindsight, if anything we stayed on cheaper side & as a result (not intentional) manying relations gives us both gifts & money! Plus on my side alone i've over 50 cousins, none of which were on the all day - it gives them the chance to get you a small gift that will be appreciated!
We didn't put the wedding list in the invitation, word get round quickly enough, nor would we ever have asked for money!!! I think people going to weddings should know if the couple has been living together for a while money would be the best option...
Hmmm, as someone who just got married some interesting comments, our expectations as regards presents was simple, we were just delighted people made the effort to travel and if they gave us something great, presents we did receive were, 3 guests looked after driving the bridal party to and from the church, one guest baked the wedding cake, another guest did the hair, another the make-up etc. We didn't get flowers for the church (saved about 1500 euro) nor booklets and spent 50 quid on invitations and I designed a web-site for RSVP. Also I didn't hire out suits I bought the grooms men their suits, 3 for 250 down in Kildare in village reduced from 300 each, plus I treated myself to a nice canali suit in Louis Copelands which I will get plenty of wear out of.
But Irish people are generous to a fault and we received on average 150 euro per couple, some people didn't give us anything but we've no problem with that, it was important to us that the guests had a great time, fortunately the bride works for a multi-national drinks company and we were able to get wine at cost and other drinks. We also felt it was important that we got a good band, so foregone your traditionally wedding band and got a rock band instead and although we asked our parents did they want to invite anyone they said no it was your wedding so it was only immediate family and friends and there was about 120 people at it. The overall cost was just over 25K, we didn't borrow a cent but I worked nearly every 2nd week on-call and took as much OT as I could and we had it all paid for a week before the date.
We had a fantastic time and we think so did everyone else it was so good I might even do it again.
Congratulations, Dinny.
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We didn't get flowers for the church (saved about 1500 euro)
Jesus!
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The overall cost was just over 25K
:o :o :o
Every wedding list i've seen seems to include a brabantia bin - priced between £60 - £80, what the fcuk is that about?
Quote from: Estimator on August 18, 2009, 09:46:51 AM
Every wedding list i've seen seems to include a brabantia bin ... what the fcuk is that about?
Quote from: Hardy on August 18, 2009, 09:45:40 AM
Congratulations, Dinny.
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We didn't get flowers for the church (saved about 1500 euro)
Jesus!
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The overall cost was just over 25K
:o :o :o
Congrats Dinny.
I got married in 1995; we hadn't a bean. We got married in the Registry Office, we had a dinner for immediate family and close friends in a Greek restaurant (20 covers), and threw a big party for 200 in the Teachers' Club on Parnell Square that night. Total cost was IR£700, of which IR£150 was for planning notices in the Evening Herald (which was obligatory for Registry Office weddings at the time). I really enjoyed the day.
Quote from: Trevor Hill on August 18, 2009, 12:55:45 AM
I normally give cash if I think that is the best option, we`ll be buying a present this time round. I was at a wedding a few years ago and the bride was overheard complaining about some of the donations. Her idea was to invite as many as possible so they would get a bigger return. I think her idea backfired.
Thats the old classic. Knew a lad who invited over 500 a few years back, it was like a cattle mart and at end of night, you where still meeting people you hadn't seen all day. It was a pure money making venture and his old fella was boasting before the wedding about how many publicans they had coming!!
Well done Dinny. Your day seemed perfect and was sometime similar to our own day. It helps when parents let you have a free hand at it and aren't imposing people on you. Band very important and ours really helped made the day.
Also say, it was probably the dryest day I ever had considering the amount of drink flying round. I was getting handed bottles of bud all day and was taking a couple of swigs and leaving them at tables. Worked out great, plenty of mixing and dancing.
Quote from: Estimator on August 18, 2009, 09:46:51 AM
Every wedding list i've seen seems to include a brabantia bin - priced between £60 - £80, what the fcuk is that about?
It's an expensive bin that will break on you about 2 months after your wife makes you buy one. If you ever see a wedidng list with the "Homebase cheapo pedal bin" on it, then that's the one to go for if you want to give a present that will last a while.
Brabantia Bins (http://www.brabantia.com/Flash/#/page/6/26687/en/)
Thanks. Bin wondering what it was.
Quote from: Hardy on August 18, 2009, 10:17:02 AM
Thanks. Bin wondering what it was.
Fook sake hardy, dont start that rubbish..........
Billy,
Thanks, We had thought of that, well I did but I'm glad I went down the road we did as my parents have never had a wedding at home (USA and England) and the wife's family the same (Scotland and Cyprus) but we've been living together 10 years and could afford it although if I hadn't been getting married there is no way we'd have 25K if you know what I mean.
Hardy,
Thanks as well, yea the price of flowers for the church shocked me as well but some people spend over 2k on that alone, or 600 euro on a cake, 500 on invitations etc but I married a chartered accountant and she was very conscious of cost so much she is now getting ready to sell her dress.
The cost broke down very roughly
Music, reception, alcohol 12K
Accommodation 2k (We were there for a week before hand)
Honeymoon and wedding rings 5k
Dresses, suits, priest, church, weeding fees, photographer 6K
Even the price of a photographer would break your heart, average 1500 to 2000 euro, ours was a lot less but you have to negotiate on everything, we reckon we cut the costs by 20% because we haggled on everything, if they wouldn't budge on price we just went somewhere else, in fact the bride located her dress 15% cheaper in Galway and got the local lady she was dealing with to reduce her price to that or else she'd just buy it in Galway.
It can be a rip-off but at 25K I think we did very well for the day we had but I would think that :)
Quote from: RMDrive on August 18, 2009, 10:10:56 AM
Quote from: Estimator on August 18, 2009, 09:46:51 AM
Every wedding list i've seen seems to include a brabantia bin - priced between £60 - £80, what the fcuk is that about?
It's an expensive bin that will break on you about 2 months after your wife makes you buy one. If you ever see a wedidng list with the "Homebase cheapo pedal bin" on it, then that's the one to go for if you want to give a present that will last a while.
I assume, at the price, it goes around picking up the rubbish itself and puts the bag out for collection?
Quote from: full back on August 18, 2009, 10:20:44 AM
Quote from: Hardy on August 18, 2009, 10:17:02 AM
Thanks. Bin wondering what it was.
Fook sake hardy, dont start that rubbish..........
Waste of time talking to him...
QuoteWell done Dinny. Your day seemed perfect and was sometime similar to our own day. It helps when parents let you have a free hand at it and aren't imposing people on you. Band very important and ours really helped made the day.
Also say, it was probably the dryest day I ever had considering the amount of drink flying round. I was getting handed bottles of bud all day and was taking a couple of swigs and leaving them at tables. Worked out great, plenty of mixing and dancing.
Cheers BB,
The band were my project and they were brilliant, they had a free reign and finished up with a packed floor screaming 'one more tune'.
Agree with you about the drink, you're just riding the wave of goodwill that you just don't get a chance, wouldn't change a thing expect maybe the rain, it pissed rain all day...
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 18, 2009, 10:23:17 AM
Quote from: RMDrive on August 18, 2009, 10:10:56 AM
Quote from: Estimator on August 18, 2009, 09:46:51 AM
Every wedding list i've seen seems to include a brabantia bin - priced between £60 - £80, what the fcuk is that about?
It's an expensive bin that will break on you about 2 months after your wife makes you buy one. If you ever see a wedidng list with the "Homebase cheapo pedal bin" on it, then that's the one to go for if you want to give a present that will last a while.
I assume, at the price, it goes around picking up the rubbish itself and puts the bag out for collection?
Oh I've a Brabantia bin in my kitchen, self-funded too, but it's very very good and much better than the cheapo one I had before.
Oh yes, and you need to buy the special bin bags too.
As long as all enjoyed it Dinny. I was just amazed that even the slimmed-down version cost so much. What must it cost if you're paying for horses and carriages and even pigeons?
Quote from: Estimator on August 18, 2009, 10:25:08 AM
Quote from: full back on August 18, 2009, 10:20:44 AM
Quote from: Hardy on August 18, 2009, 10:17:02 AM
Thanks. Bin wondering what it was.
Fook sake hardy, dont start that rubbish..........
Waste of time talking to him...
I refuse to comment.
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Even the price of a photographer would break your heart, average 1500 to 2000 euro, ours was a lot less but you have to negotiate on everything,]
I let the wife book our photographer and she came back and said its €1100, i said f**k thats expensive but we had saved and it was in the Budget. I didnt realise that that was just for him to come and take the pictures he wants another €2000 for the album, i told him to f**k off. Still havent got any wedding photos developed 16 months later. Its the only thing about the day that pisses me off, I paid some **** €1100 just to shout smile and say cheese at me for the day.
Gerry,
800 Euro and we get every photo (he was there from 9am to 1am the next morning) no album though, we are just going to do our own but those wedding albums are a complete and utter rip-off.
Quote from: Rois on August 18, 2009, 10:29:23 AM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 18, 2009, 10:23:17 AM
Quote from: RMDrive on August 18, 2009, 10:10:56 AM
Quote from: Estimator on August 18, 2009, 09:46:51 AM
Every wedding list i've seen seems to include a brabantia bin - priced between £60 - £80, what the fcuk is that about?
It's an expensive bin that will break on you about 2 months after your wife makes you buy one. If you ever see a wedidng list with the "Homebase cheapo pedal bin" on it, then that's the one to go for if you want to give a present that will last a while.
I assume, at the price, it goes around picking up the rubbish itself and puts the bag out for collection?
Oh I've a Brabantia bin in my kitchen, self-funded too, but it's very very good and much better than the cheapo one I had before.
Oh yes, and you need to buy the special bin bags too.
rois listen to yourself, a bin is "very very good"?? It's a bin! What's much better about it?
I bet the special bin bags are cheaper than normal ones too?
The bin is stronger (other one cracked), doesn't smell and the push-up lid hasn't broken after a good few months.
Quote from: Dinny Breen on August 18, 2009, 10:36:31 AM
Gerry,
800 Euro and we get every photo (he was there from 9am to 1am the next morning) no album though, we are just going to do our own but those wedding albums are a complete and utter rip-off.
He will not hand over any of the photos. I have no documentation either or I would sue the f**ker. Its one of those subjects that we hate to discuss as it heads towards a row very quickly. At some point in a calmer moment I will ring him offer him something for the photos and do an album myself.
done a photography course a couple of years ago there and the boy taking it was chatting about wedding photography and goes "any photographer who does a wedding for under 5000 is not making a profit" !!
Was at a Wedding once were they had a video booth with touch screen to leave messages for the bride and groom, innovative idea imo.
Quote from: DennistheMenace on August 18, 2009, 12:23:27 PM
Was at a Wedding once were they had a video booth with touch screen to leave messages for the bride and groom, innovative idea imo.
Wedding I was at there had some fella with a video camera so ya could leave messages for the bride and groom. Of course we got drunk and forget to leave the message before he left. :-[
Quote from: Rois on August 18, 2009, 10:44:41 AM
The bin is stronger (other one cracked), doesn't smell and the push-up lid hasn't broken after a good few months.
The lady is right. They're a great bin - we've had ours about 3 years now. Holds loads, doesn't smell and looks good. Their bin-liners are slightly more expensive but worth it as they're much stronger than cheapo liners which is important in a ~60 litre bin.
Other bins are "only cheap on the day" as the mother-in-law would say!
Did it a few months ago - in Sydney, outside wedding with a civil ceremony, hired a large boat to do a cruise on Sydney harbour, provide drinks, that lasted about hour and a half and dropped us off at reception in a private room in a restaurant overlooking the opera house and harbour bridge. Reception included 3 course meal and free bar of selected drinks, but bear in mind we only had the place for 6 hours.
Had friends bake the cake, do the wifes hair and make up, hired a limo for the wife and one bridesmaid. Best man wore his own suit, I got one made, no groomsmen. Music was provided by an iPod
Total number of guests - 52. Great day and cheap as chips, approx EUR 5.5k
PS: Billy, went to quite a few weddings in the Teachers club, great spot
Quote from: stephenite on August 18, 2009, 01:07:10 PM
Did it a few months ago - in Sydney, outside wedding with a civil ceremony, hired a large boat to do a cruise on Sydney harbour, provide drinks, that lasted about hour and a half and dropped us off at reception in a private room in a restaurant overlooking the opera house and harbour bridge. Reception included 3 course meal and free bar of selected drinks, but bear in mind we only had the place for 6 hours.
Had friends bake the cake, do the wifes hair and make up, hired a limo for the wife and one bridesmaid. Best man wore his own suit, I got one made, no groomsmen. Music was provided by an iPod
Total number of guests - 52. Great day and cheap as chips, approx EUR 5.5k
PS: Billy, went to quite a few weddings in the Teachers club, great spot
How much did Emma Bunton give as a wedding present?
Quote from: Tony Baloney on August 18, 2009, 01:09:25 PM
Quote from: stephenite on August 18, 2009, 01:07:10 PM
Did it a few months ago - in Sydney, outside wedding with a civil ceremony, hired a large boat to do a cruise on Sydney harbour, provide drinks, that lasted about hour and a half and dropped us off at reception in a private room in a restaurant overlooking the opera house and harbour bridge. Reception included 3 course meal and free bar of selected drinks, but bear in mind we only had the place for 6 hours.
Had friends bake the cake, do the wifes hair and make up, hired a limo for the wife and one bridesmaid. Best man wore his own suit, I got one made, no groomsmen. Music was provided by an iPod
Total number of guests - 52. Great day and cheap as chips, approx EUR 5.5k
PS: Billy, went to quite a few weddings in the Teachers club, great spot
How much did Emma Bunton give as a wedding present?
Nothing - sent a lovely fax though.
Quote from: Tony Baloney on August 18, 2009, 12:54:24 PM
Quote from: Rois on August 18, 2009, 10:44:41 AM
The bin is stronger (other one cracked), doesn't smell and the push-up lid hasn't broken after a good few months.
The lady is right. They're a great bin - we've had ours about 3 years now. Holds loads, doesn't smell and looks good. Their bin-liners are slightly more expensive but worth it as they're much stronger than cheapo liners which is important in a ~60 litre bin.
Other bins are "only cheap on the day" as the mother-in-law would say!
The lid broke on our one after a few weeks so it's now in the corner of the garage being used to hold the rubbish there. In fairness they are supposed to be a good bin but the cheapo one has worked fine for the last 2 years and even when it does break (the pedal is starting to be a bit dodgy) I'll buy another one and still not have spent as much as the brabantia.
Quote from: RMDrive on August 18, 2009, 01:12:18 PM
Quote from: Tony Baloney on August 18, 2009, 12:54:24 PM
Quote from: Rois on August 18, 2009, 10:44:41 AM
The bin is stronger (other one cracked), doesn't smell and the push-up lid hasn't broken after a good few months.
The lady is right. They're a great bin - we've had ours about 3 years now. Holds loads, doesn't smell and looks good. Their bin-liners are slightly more expensive but worth it as they're much stronger than cheapo liners which is important in a ~60 litre bin.
Other bins are "only cheap on the day" as the mother-in-law would say!
The lid broke on our one after a few weeks so it's now in the corner of the garage being used to hold the rubbish there. In fairness they are supposed to be a good bin but the cheapo one has worked fine for the last 2 years and even when it does break (the pedal is starting to be a bit dodgy) I'll buy another one and still not have spent as much as the brabantia.
You should give less in your wedding present and spend the savings on a decent bin ;D
Quote from: stephenite on August 18, 2009, 01:10:38 PM
Quote from: Tony Baloney on August 18, 2009, 01:09:25 PM
Quote from: stephenite on August 18, 2009, 01:07:10 PM
Did it a few months ago - in Sydney, outside wedding with a civil ceremony, hired a large boat to do a cruise on Sydney harbour, provide drinks, that lasted about hour and a half and dropped us off at reception in a private room in a restaurant overlooking the opera house and harbour bridge. Reception included 3 course meal and free bar of selected drinks, but bear in mind we only had the place for 6 hours.
Had friends bake the cake, do the wifes hair and make up, hired a limo for the wife and one bridesmaid. Best man wore his own suit, I got one made, no groomsmen. Music was provided by an iPod
Total number of guests - 52. Great day and cheap as chips, approx EUR 5.5k
PS: Billy, went to quite a few weddings in the Teachers club, great spot
How much did Emma Bunton give as a wedding present?
Nothing - sent a lovely fax though.
Do people still fax in 2009?
Quote from: gerrykeegan on August 18, 2009, 10:46:15 AM
Quote from: Dinny Breen on August 18, 2009, 10:36:31 AM
Gerry,
800 Euro and we get every photo (he was there from 9am to 1am the next morning) no album though, we are just going to do our own but those wedding albums are a complete and utter rip-off.
He will not hand over any of the photos. I have no documentation either or I would sue the f**ker. Its one of those subjects that we hate to discuss as it heads towards a row very quickly. At some point in a calmer moment I will ring him offer him something for the photos and do an album myself.
Gerry, the sister-in-law ended up in a similar predicament. They got a fella on the cheap who was just starting out in the area - he had been a photographer elsewhere and had seen his portfolio before commiting. However he was bloody useless and his photos were no better than you could take yourself. I knew on the wedding day he was useless as he never took control of things.
Anyway they told him they weren't paying for the photos and were going to set a solicitor on him - when he heard this he gave them the photos for nothing and they picked the best out and got some photoshop work done to make them presentable.
Quote from: Tony Baloney on August 18, 2009, 01:16:26 PM
Quote from: RMDrive on August 18, 2009, 01:12:18 PM
Quote from: Tony Baloney on August 18, 2009, 12:54:24 PM
Quote from: Rois on August 18, 2009, 10:44:41 AM
The bin is stronger (other one cracked), doesn't smell and the push-up lid hasn't broken after a good few months.
The lady is right. They're a great bin - we've had ours about 3 years now. Holds loads, doesn't smell and looks good. Their bin-liners are slightly more expensive but worth it as they're much stronger than cheapo liners which is important in a ~60 litre bin.
Other bins are "only cheap on the day" as the mother-in-law would say!
The lid broke on our one after a few weeks so it's now in the corner of the garage being used to hold the rubbish there. In fairness they are supposed to be a good bin but the cheapo one has worked fine for the last 2 years and even when it does break (the pedal is starting to be a bit dodgy) I'll buy another one and still not have spent as much as the brabantia.
You should give less in your wedding present and spend the savings on a decent bin ;D
LOL Very true. My next gift to a B&G will be a picture of my new Brabantia bin!
Quote from: gerrykeegan on August 18, 2009, 10:30:05 AM
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Even the price of a photographer would break your heart, average 1500 to 2000 euro, ours was a lot less but you have to negotiate on everything,]
I let the wife book our photographer and she came back and said its €1100, i said f**k thats expensive but we had saved and it was in the Budget. I didnt realise that that was just for him to come and take the pictures he wants another €2000 for the album, i told him to f**k off. Still havent got any wedding photos developed 16 months later. Its the only thing about the day that pisses me off, I paid some **** €1100 just to shout smile and say cheese at me for the day.
Feck off with your 1500-2000 for a photographer.
We are getting this lad here for €800 and then a further €400 for the album,you are being ripped off with €2000 for a album
www.visionary.ie
My bin is nice, holds plenty, lid is working on it, hasnt broke, doesnt smell and it cost about a tenner.
getting away from bins and back to presents ;) few years ago 2 mates were getting married and after a few beers meself and 5 others decided that for thier present we would do up the garden of thier recently purchased house whilst they were on a 6 week honeymoon.
The garden was in a state but after 4 weekends of middling tough labour, a loch a loads of muck away, mixer going flat out for a weekend and a chop saw going flat out for another they had the garden of thier dreams and we( the 6 lads & the wimmen) got away with €110 each towards the pressie, a wee bit of labour for the fellas and lots of cooking for the hard working men by the weemin ;D ;D
The evening they came home we hid up the back of the garden and thier reaction was worth the time and money
To make matters evenn better the bride was heard saying at the wedding that she was going to enjoy the honeymoon but when she got back the groom was gonna get serious grief re the garden, so three birds with one stone, present sorted, for handy money and a fellow man virtually grief free for a short while anyway ;D
Quote from: The Subbie on August 18, 2009, 06:32:24 PM
getting away from bins and back to presents ;) few years ago 2 mates were getting married and after a few beers meself and 5 others decided that for thier present we would do up the garden of thier recently purchased house whilst they were on a 6 week honeymoon.
The garden was in a state but after 4 weekends of middling tough labour, a loch a loads of muck away, mixer going flat out for a weekend and a chop saw going flat out for another they had the garden of thier dreams and we( the 6 lads & the wimmen) got away with €110 each towards the pressie, a wee bit of labour for the fellas and lots of cooking for the hard working men by the weemin ;D ;D
The evening they came home we hid up the back of the garden and thier reaction was worth the time and money
To make matters evenn better the bride was heard saying at the wedding that she was going to enjoy the honeymoon but when she got back the groom was gonna get serious grief re the garden, so three birds with one stone, present sorted, for handy money and a fellow man virtually grief free for a short while anyway ;D
That's a brilliant present. I've a half acre here that looks like the Somme if you ever find yourself free when I'm away!
ok not a wedding present as such.. but how much would ye give yer parents for their 39th Wedding Anniversary.. don't wanna be too scabby but am broke!! :-\
Going to a wedding on my own (missus CTK can't go - she's working.) What would be a reasonable present ? €150?
Emmigrating is a great way to avoid the wedding rat race.
We'd 170 at my Irish wedding, and that was only my side of the deal.
Next time around will be a quieter affair!
anyone rate the band the Wedding Present?
Brassneck.
Quote from: Tony Baloney on August 18, 2009, 09:33:04 PM
Quote from: The Subbie on August 18, 2009, 06:32:24 PM
getting away from bins and back to presents ;) few years ago 2 mates were getting married and after a few beers meself and 5 others decided that for thier present we would do up the garden of thier recently purchased house whilst they were on a 6 week honeymoon.
The garden was in a state but after 4 weekends of middling tough labour, a loch a loads of muck away, mixer going flat out for a weekend and a chop saw going flat out for another they had the garden of thier dreams and we( the 6 lads & the wimmen) got away with €110 each towards the pressie, a wee bit of labour for the fellas and lots of cooking for the hard working men by the weemin ;D ;D
The evening they came home we hid up the back of the garden and thier reaction was worth the time and money
To make matters evenn better the bride was heard saying at the wedding that she was going to enjoy the honeymoon but when she got back the groom was gonna get serious grief re the garden, so three birds with one stone, present sorted, for handy money and a fellow man virtually grief free for a short while anyway ;D
That's a brilliant present. I've a half acre here that looks like the Somme if you ever find yourself free when I'm away!
Well give me and 11 other " expert gardeners" an invite to your wedding and we'll see what we can do !!!!!!!!!!!
Quote from: comethekingdom on August 18, 2009, 10:13:15 PM
Going to a wedding on my own (missus CTK can't go - she's working.) What would be a reasonable present ? €150?
you could get away with €100, depends how well you know them etc.
how many of you have been married in the last 3/4 years?? £100 for a wedding present :o is miserable as heck. £50 per head does not cover a decent feed, wine, entertainment, etc. Its 2009, recession and all, £100 gets you f~*k all in this day and age. £150 should be bare minimum for any self-respecting couple, anything less is pants. I realise you need to make extra effort, buy shirt + tie, new dress/shoes/make-up etc but life is such and most weddings are a great days craic. I know you will end up spending more at the bar (or running up to the room/boot of the car to fill up) but the money going in to organising and having the day itself (never mind reception) is plentiful for the couple concerned.
If you go out on a Saturday night with £100 in your pocket, you won't get a 4/5 course meal, a few drinks at reception, a lump of cake, a band and disco, some cocktail sausages and some lovely bridesmaids to look at!!
you'll not get much change out of 5/6 rounds in the local with a few lads/lasses... or if you bring your missus out for a nice meal and a few drinks thats the £100/€115 gone in 3 hours a good wedding is all day - reality check folks
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 10:55:12 AM
how many of you have been married in the last 3/4 years?? £100 for a wedding present :o is miserable as heck. £50 per head does not cover a decent feed, wine, entertainment, etc. Its 2009, recession and all, £100 gets you f~*k all in this day and age. £150 should be bare minimum for any self-respecting couple, anything less is pants. I realise you need to make extra effort, buy shirt + tie, new dress/shoes/make-up etc but life is such and most weddings are a great days craic. I know you will end up spending more at the bar (or running up to the room/boot of the car to fill up) but the money going in to organising and having the day itself (never mind reception) is plentiful for the couple concerned.
If you go out on a Saturday night with £100 in your pocket, you won't get a 4/5 course meal, a few drinks at reception, a lump of cake, a band and disco, some cocktail sausages and some lovely bridesmaids to look at!!
you'll not get much change out of 5/6 rounds in the local with a few lads/lasses... or if you bring your missus out for a nice meal and a few drinks thats the £100/€115 gone in 3 hours a good wedding is all day - reality check folks
Again, you're invited to the wedding, everything is chosen for you. Why are you paying for someone else's choice? What next? Bills in the invitations?
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 10:55:12 AM
how many of you have been married in the last 3/4 years?? £100 for a wedding present :o is miserable as heck. £50 per head does not cover a decent feed, wine, entertainment, etc. Its 2009, recession and all, £100 gets you f~*k all in this day and age. £150 should be bare minimum for any self-respecting couple, anything less is pants. I realise you need to make extra effort, buy shirt + tie, new dress/shoes/make-up etc but life is such and most weddings are a great days craic. I know you will end up spending more at the bar (or running up to the room/boot of the car to fill up) but the money going in to organising and having the day itself (never mind reception) is plentiful for the couple concerned.
If you go out on a Saturday night with £100 in your pocket, you won't get a 4/5 course meal, a few drinks at reception, a lump of cake, a band and disco, some cocktail sausages and some lovely bridesmaids to look at!!
you'll not get much change out of 5/6 rounds in the local with a few lads/lasses... or if you bring your missus out for a nice meal and a few drinks thats the £100/€115 gone in 3 hours a good wedding is all day - reality check folks
That's a load of balls sammy. I fully agree with Pints on this issue.
people know about weddings months in advance, weeks at the very least, if things are tight, then stick £10/£20 away each week for it and when it eventually arrives then you should have enough to cover it. If there are too many weddings in a short space of time, then just go to the ones most important to you... ::)
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:21:06 AM
people know about weddings months in advance, weeks at the very least, if things are tight, then stick £10/£20 away each week for it and when it eventually arrives then you should have enough to cover it. If there are too many weddings in a short space of time, then just go to the ones most important to you... ::)
Why the f**k should you be sticking away 10 or 20 quid for weeks because someone else wants a top of the range wedding?
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:23:16 AM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:21:06 AM
people know about weddings months in advance, weeks at the very least, if things are tight, then stick £10/£20 away each week for it and when it eventually arrives then you should have enough to cover it. If there are too many weddings in a short space of time, then just go to the ones most important to you... ::)
Why the f**k should you be sticking away 10 or 20 quid for weeks because someone else wants a top of the range wedding?
God help anyone that would invite you to a wedding.
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:21:06 AM
people know about weddings months in advance, weeks at the very least, if things are tight, then stick £10/£20 away each week for it and when it eventually arrives then you should have enough to cover it. If there are too many weddings in a short space of time, then just go to the ones most important to you... ::)
Why should you? You are already making the effort of (probably) getting a day off work, buying a new suit and / or shirt and tie, maybe new shoes, the woman spending on a new outfit, possibly having to book into a hotel if its far enough away, then giving a cash present as well, not to mention the stag / hen do you probably have been on. Tell me why anyone should feel guilty at not giving "£150 as the minimum"? I think enough of an effort has already been made simply going to the wedding. £100 is more than enough. I stand by that.
As for picking and choosing the weddings you go to, silly comment, you're bound to know its not as black and white as that.
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 11:25:05 AM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:23:16 AM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:21:06 AM
people know about weddings months in advance, weeks at the very least, if things are tight, then stick £10/£20 away each week for it and when it eventually arrives then you should have enough to cover it. If there are too many weddings in a short space of time, then just go to the ones most important to you... ::)
Why the f**k should you be sticking away 10 or 20 quid for weeks because someone else wants a top of the range wedding?
God help anyone that would invite you to a wedding.
Why's that?
I think the comment that £100 is miserable as heck for wedding present is just ridiculous. I think £100 is an ample present, always did until i was informed of otherwise this week. As stated before im far from miserable but gona cost me the guts of £500 for this wedding and spent in round £400 on the hen party! All well and good if its one wedding once in 2 years or whatever but pissing me off when i have 3 or 4 in close proximity!!!
Im giving £120 but thats more cos i just go with the flow and wat everyone else is doing but personally my own feelings are that £100 is more than enough :-\
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:26:53 AM
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Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:23:16 AM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:21:06 AM
people know about weddings months in advance, weeks at the very least, if things are tight, then stick £10/£20 away each week for it and when it eventually arrives then you should have enough to cover it. If there are too many weddings in a short space of time, then just go to the ones most important to you... ::)
Why the f**k should you be sticking away 10 or 20 quid for weeks because someone else wants a top of the range wedding?
God help anyone that would invite you to a wedding.
Why's that?
You seem like a miserable person.
I always thought that when (if) i get married i would like my mates around me, i wouldnt be doing a bank check on each one and i sure a f**k wouldnt expect them to to fork out 100's for the prividledge of going to MY wedding. If someone have lost th erun of themselves and paid 1000's for flowers/band/honeymoon then that is there own choice they should not be expecting their guests to stump the bill.
As for this shite of paying for the food and the drink and enterainment, the fact is you are generally getting substandard food, no choice ( except whether or not to eat it) , you have to listen to a shite wedding band and/or a shite DJ.
The day should be about you, your partner and your friends and family, not about balancing the books at the ends of the night
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 11:31:36 AM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:26:53 AM
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 11:25:05 AM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:23:16 AM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:21:06 AM
people know about weddings months in advance, weeks at the very least, if things are tight, then stick £10/£20 away each week for it and when it eventually arrives then you should have enough to cover it. If there are too many weddings in a short space of time, then just go to the ones most important to you... ::)
Why the f**k should you be sticking away 10 or 20 quid for weeks because someone else wants a top of the range wedding?
God help anyone that would invite you to a wedding.
Why's that?
You seem like a miserable person.
Becuase I dont think you should pay for someone else's wedding? and weddings is all about what you get from your guests?
Id give 100 stg as a wedding present, I dont think there's anything miserable about that.
Good post ludermor
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:23:16 AM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:21:06 AM
people know about weddings months in advance, weeks at the very least, if things are tight, then stick £10/£20 away each week for it and when it eventually arrives then you should have enough to cover it. If there are too many weddings in a short space of time, then just go to the ones most important to you... ::)
Why the f**k should you be sticking away 10 or 20 quid for weeks because someone else wants a top of the range wedding?
I don't think Sammy is supporting everyone else paying for a persons over the top wedding. He is merely saying that foir 150 you are getting value for money and if you compare it to an evening out with a meal and a dance you'd end up paying roughly the same. Plus the fact that normally it is a really good day with friends and family.
I'd agree with him to a certain extent, I normally throw 150 into the card. Not because I feel that I'm paying for the day for the couple or hoping that they'll have white doves flying up the aisle with the rings but because it is a gift to them from us. Some weddings I've been at the bride/groom have put on really lavish affairs, not because they want bigger gifts but they want people to enjoy the day and give them something in return for thei gifts. This has included the basic champagne/hot whiskey/mulled wine receptions to music before and during the meal to free bars.
If the couple want to go down that line more power to them but I'll not be spending them on another cheque to make up the difference. I've rarely not enjoyed a wedding from big 500 affairs to small ones with only 40 people.
I don;t like this anti-wedding buzz. Some people seem to not want to give any gift and are pissed off getting invits. Very easy solution, stay away.
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:34:57 AM
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Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:26:53 AM
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Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:23:16 AM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:21:06 AM
people know about weddings months in advance, weeks at the very least, if things are tight, then stick £10/£20 away each week for it and when it eventually arrives then you should have enough to cover it. If there are too many weddings in a short space of time, then just go to the ones most important to you... ::)
Why the f**k should you be sticking away 10 or 20 quid for weeks because someone else wants a top of the range wedding?
God help anyone that would invite you to a wedding.
Why's that?
You seem like a miserable person.
Becuase I dont think you should pay for someone else's wedding? and weddings is all about what you get from your guests?
Id give 100 stg as a wedding present, I dont think there's anything miserable about that.
Good post ludermor
Nothing wrong with 100 stg.
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:26:53 AM
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 11:25:05 AM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:23:16 AM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:21:06 AM
people know about weddings months in advance, weeks at the very least, if things are tight, then stick £10/£20 away each week for it and when it eventually arrives then you should have enough to cover it. If there are too many weddings in a short space of time, then just go to the ones most important to you... ::)
Why the f**k should you be sticking away 10 or 20 quid for weeks because someone else wants a top of the range wedding?
God help anyone that would invite you to a wedding.
Why's that?
because you are coming across as a mean b*stard thats why. You, as a guest of the happy couple are not the one handing over a cheque to a hotel/photographer/band/travel agent/musicians/florists... etc for £/€??k look, my opinion is £/€150 per couple is bare minimum to
cover yourself on the day, others believe something else, its just my opinion (I am speaking from experience). Its simple good manners not to go along for the freebie day out by giving any less and like it or lump it, the couple will notice who gives what, high and low :-[
I DON'T expect to pay for the lavish affair, I sometimes don't know what to expect, some couples stick to the bare minimum required, others get carried away so £75 per head is a fair amount to me all taken into consideration. I did not think this was so controversial
as for buying shirts, shoes, dresses, make up, hair, hens/stags, these should be seen as part of the craic, if you spend the money begrudgingly then you really should not be going, it spoils the fun for everyone else
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:42:03 AM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:26:53 AM
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 11:25:05 AM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 11:23:16 AM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:21:06 AM
people know about weddings months in advance, weeks at the very least, if things are tight, then stick £10/£20 away each week for it and when it eventually arrives then you should have enough to cover it. If there are too many weddings in a short space of time, then just go to the ones most important to you... ::)
Why the f**k should you be sticking away 10 or 20 quid for weeks because someone else wants a top of the range wedding?
God help anyone that would invite you to a wedding.
Why's that?
because you are coming across as a mean b*stard thats why. You, as a guest of the happy couple are not the one handing over a cheque to a hotel/photographer/band/travel agent/musicians/florists... etc for £/€??k look, my opinion is £/€150 per couple is bare minimum to cover yourself on the day, others believe something else, its just my opinion (I am speaking from experience). Its simple good manners not to go along for the freebie day out by giving any less and like it or lump it, the couple will notice who gives what, high and low :-[
I DON'T expect to pay for the lavish affair, I sometimes don't know what to expect, some couples stick to the bare minimum required, others get carried away so £75 per head is a fair amount to me all taken into consideration. I did not think this was so controversial
as for buying shirts, shoes, dresses, make up, hair, hens/stags, these should be seen as part of the craic, if you spend the money begrudgingly then you really should not be going, it spoils the fun for everyone else
:o
I'm a mean bastard because I dont want to pay for someone else's wedding and would only give 100 stg (thats for 2 of us)? Close friends or family would get more, but I think it's more than enough when you consider the other expenses.
If couples want to go done that road....lets see...
one of the last weddings me and herself were at was on a monday - two days off work for both of us
I bought a shirt and tie
Herself had to get an outfit, the hair done, shoes etc
Present was £150 stg (it was a close friend)
Then there was the drinks at the wedding, the stag/hen parties.
We got a meal and some music (poor music)
Considering everything I think they owe us money.
ahhh f*ck away aff, sure half the ones at the wedding dont really wanna be there, you dont really want the half of them there either and the whole thing is just a sham, materialistic loada shite!!..its only about money money money..ye wanna have a lavish affair and invite half the country thats your business but dont be expecting everyone else to be as excited or dying to fork out for it. To think of it as a money making exercise is just wrong wrong wrong.
some boyos on here could do with a reality check if ye ask me.
I'm with Pints on this one. £100stg is far from miserable. If you can afford 500stg, well that's great, off with you. If you can only afford 20 quid, will that's fine too. Again, the point is the bride and groom are supposed to be honoured by YOUR attendance, not the other way around.
As I said before, what should matter is how close you are to the couple and what you can afford. It's not about "getting value" for your gift compared to what a night out would cost etc.
Quote from: Brick Tamlin on August 19, 2009, 11:54:34 AM
ahhh f*ck away aff, sure half the ones at the wedding dont really wanna be there, you dont really want the half of them there either and the whole thing is just a sham, materialistic loada shite!!..its only about money money money..ye wanna have a lavish affair and invite half the country thats your business but dont be expecting everyone else to be as excited or dying to fork out for it. To think of it as a money making exercise is just wrong wrong wrong.
some boyos on here could do with a reality check if ye ask me.
I dont understand why someone would go to a wedding they dont want to go to, or people invite people they dont want, unless they are relations that they cant avoid asking.
Its prob these people that dont want to go to weddings that do all the whinging.
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 12:00:52 PM
Quote from: Brick Tamlin on August 19, 2009, 11:54:34 AM
ahhh f*ck away aff, sure half the ones at the wedding dont really wanna be there, you dont really want the half of them there either and the whole thing is just a sham, materialistic loada shite!!..its only about money money money..ye wanna have a lavish affair and invite half the country thats your business but dont be expecting everyone else to be as excited or dying to fork out for it. To think of it as a money making exercise is just wrong wrong wrong.
some boyos on here could do with a reality check if ye ask me.
I dont understand why someone would go to a wedding they dont want to go to, or people invite people they dont want, unless they are relations that they cant avoid asking.
Its prob these people that dont want to go to weddings that do all the whinging.
Get your head out of the sand man! Weddings are full of people who dont want to be there and who arent wanted. They're generally invited because the bride's mother and father was at their sons wedding or some shite. Most people feel they have to go to a wedding their invited too.
we all have our own opinions and cut our cloth accordingly. £50 per person :-\ sure why bother give anything at all? go to Argos and but an £8 toaster :D and spend the rest of your £92 on you and your missus looking great on the day and getting pissed!! look there is a Cavan man here going on saying that £50 per person is a touch too little :P
this thread is sooo Irish ::)
So ur saying £50 per person ie £100 per couple is laughable and ridiculous. I think u need to get ur head out of ur ass cos that comment is the laughable part!!!!
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:42:03 AM
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Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 11:21:06 AM
people know about weddings months in advance, weeks at the very least, if things are tight, then stick £10/£20 away each week for it and when it eventually arrives then you should have enough to cover it. If there are too many weddings in a short space of time, then just go to the ones most important to you... ::)
Why the f**k should you be sticking away 10 or 20 quid for weeks because someone else wants a top of the range wedding?
God help anyone that would invite you to a wedding.
Why's that?
because you are coming across as a mean b*stard thats why. You, as a guest of the happy couple are not the one handing over a cheque to a hotel/photographer/band/travel agent/musicians/florists... etc for £/€??k look, my opinion is £/€150 per couple is bare minimum to cover yourself on the day, others believe something else, its just my opinion (I am speaking from experience). Its simple good manners not to go along for the freebie day out by giving any less and like it or lump it, the couple will notice who gives what, high and low :-[
I DON'T expect to pay for the lavish affair, I sometimes don't know what to expect, some couples stick to the bare minimum required, others get carried away so £75 per head is a fair amount to me all taken into consideration. I did not think this was so controversial
as for buying shirts, shoes, dresses, make up, hair, hens/stags, these should be seen as part of the craic, if you spend the money begrudgingly then you really should not be going, it spoils the fun for everyone else
Sammy you are coming across as being very arrogant here. Thats all well and good saying that if you're wallet is busting with £20 notes, but lets say you have 2 weddings in one year, you're talking a grand a pop. If £2000 is nothing to you (in one year, with nothing to show for it) then fair play to you. But perhaps sammy you could raise your gold crown above your eyes so you can see us peasants ;)
so is giving nothing at all the same as giving £50, am i missing something here.
its all about what the done thing is, keeping up with the joneses and all that shite.
ye give what ye feel is appropriate and whatever your comfortable with, end of.
one question, how is it sooooo irish, and whats wrong with being irish.
if ye were on the dole, strugglin to pay a mortgage and had a plethora of other worries i tell ye that fedelma & paudi's wedding present would be the east of yer feckin worries...they can either like it or lump it whatever gift ye give them.
You lot have the same attuitde as the English.
Stick £20 in a card.
In fairness to Sammy he has loads of disposable income, just look at how much he fritters away to the bookies.
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 12:06:22 PM
we all have our own opinions and cut our cloth accordingly. £50 per person :-\ sure why bother give anything at all? go to Argos and but an £8 toaster :D and spend the rest of your £92 on you and your missus looking great on the day and getting pissed!! look there is a Cavan man here going on saying that £50 per person is a touch too little :P
this thread is sooo Irish ::)
What an arrogant thing to say. Fine if you're pretty flush then 50 is on the tight side. But believe it or not 50 quid is still a considerable sum to quite a number of people. People live on things like widow's pensions and so on you know.
How do we have the same attitude as the english????????
Just because we feel £100 per couple isnt miserable. Catch yourself on
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 12:06:22 PM
we all have our own opinions and cut our cloth accordingly. £50 per person :-\ sure why bother give anything at all? go to Argos and but an £8 toaster :D and spend the rest of your £92 on you and your missus looking great on the day and getting pissed!! look there is a Cavan man here going on saying that £50 per person is a touch too little :P
this thread is sooo Irish ::)
If it was up to me I wouldnt be at the wedding at all as we could easily go on a weeks holiday on what you have to generally spend on them. As I said, I think 100 stg is more than enough especially when you factor in what it costs to go. If it was my wedding I'd just be delighted and grateful that people made the effort (as it does cost a lot to go) and where there and I'd be over the moon with 100 quid in a card but horrified if I thought someone felt there was a minimum they had to give or horrified to receive a 100 quid from someone I know can't afford it.
But that's just me.
Just remembered a story about a lad that got married in Blayney in the year after the Euro game in. He was heard complaining that he was getting €100 in the cards rather than £100 punt and was losing out on it ;D ;D
It should also be noted that the ejit booked his wedding on 1st April cause it was cheaper as no one else wanted that date. ;D
im with pints on this one (probably the 2st time iv agreed with an applemuncher).
Some shocking views on here, and i think it speaks volumes for some peoples attitude toward money.
Dose of reality needed.
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 12:00:52 PM
I dont understand why someone would go to a wedding they dont want to go to, or people invite people they dont want, unless they are relations that they cant avoid asking.
Its prob these people that dont want to go to weddings that do all the whinging.
for the same reason that the couple getting married feel the need to have their wedding in a fancy hotel, have four bridesmaids and groomsmen, spend money on wedding albums and flowers etc etc.
I have an idea - why don't the bride and groom sell tickets and do away with presents altogether, if it's all about how much a guest contributes to the cost of the day and nothing about what it means to the guests to wish them well with a gift.
If some of the opinions on here are typically "irish", then it makes me quite sad.
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Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 12:06:22 PM
we all have our own opinions and cut our cloth accordingly. £50 per person :-\ sure why bother give anything at all? go to Argos and but an £8 toaster :D and spend the rest of your £92 on you and your missus looking great on the day and getting pissed!! look there is a Cavan man here going on saying that £50 per person is a touch too little :P
this thread is sooo Irish ::)
What an arrogant thing to say. Fine if you're pretty flush then 50 is on the tight side. But believe it or not 50 quid is still a considerable sum to quite a number of people. People live on things like widow's pensions and so on you know.
Treas, there's a generation there now that need the shock of their lives - and it looks like it's well on the way.
Quote from: tyrone girl on August 19, 2009, 12:15:06 PM
How do we have the same attitude as the english????????
Just because we feel £100 per couple isnt miserable. Catch yourself on
Its more english than irish to give crap wedding presents.
Well i wont be asking people that give crap presents or nothing atall i have already sussed that out from other friends realations etc.
Some big shots around this board today :D
so what if they are more english than irish...why is it an english/irish thing now..
are you saying ye wont be inviting them cuz of the standard or lack of it of their present.
:o :o :o
Crap wedding presents and wat the feck is crap about £100??? Duno about u but £100 is plenty to me at the minute with the amount of other things i have on!!
As for that last comment u made i presume ur taking the piss, if ur not u need knocked out
Quote from: Brick Tamlin on August 19, 2009, 12:22:03 PM
so what if they are more english than irish...why is it an english/irish thing now..
are you saying ye wont be inviting them cuz of the standard or lack of it of their present.
:o :o :o
Exaclty cos there the ones who just stand at the bar all night complaining.
ok calm down everyone, £50 is fine. End of matter. I will accept that although it is not my opinion. I am starting to sound like I am on a six-figure salary now ;) people get so hot under the collar on a subject which should not be deemed as so touchy
take a look at ANY recognised hotel venue in any part of Ireland and see the average cost per meal, thats all I am saying, I feel the moral obligation to at least cover the cost of the feed, anything after that is up to the couple themselves... I just think pintsofguinness has a major gripe on "paying for someone else's wedding" simple as that and that the invitation is seen as a summons
cavan4ever is right, the english are notorious for giving crap wedding presents... I lived there
I could just imagine my mate giving me £20 as a present :D
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 12:23:32 PM
cavan4ever is right, the english are notorious for giving crap wedding presents... I lived there
Did you get married there?
Quote from: DennistheMenace on August 19, 2009, 12:24:34 PM
I could just imagine my mate giving me £20 as a present :D
A bowl of soup would do that f**ker :D
Quote from: tyrone girl on August 19, 2009, 12:22:22 PM
Crap wedding presents and wat the feck is crap about £100??? Duno about u but £100 is plenty to me at the minute with the amount of other things i have on!!
As for that last comment u made i presume ur taking the piss, if ur not u need knocked out
Need a deposit for a house dont want any wasters who give nothing going.
Quote from: Brick Tamlin on August 19, 2009, 12:18:01 PM
im with pints on this one (probably the 2st time iv agreed with an applemuncher).
Some shocking views on here, and i think it speaks volumes for some peoples attitude toward money.
Dose of reality needed.
The reality is that people have different outlooks on life and all things inbetween. Shocking really ::)
For instance, Pints is sitting at a wedding thinking of how much it cost him and of the holiday he could be on. If thats his attitude I don't think he should have went as he isn't doing himself any favours and is been two faced to the bride and groom.
I think some people think that all bride/grooms are out to make money and spend money. Totally wrong is majority of cases.
When I got married, money was never an issue. And I don;t mean that in an arrogant way, we priced everything and took the best value. Paid big money for a top band but didn't have lavish seat covers, extra cars for wedding party, extra flowers etc. We went very light with trimmings and shopped round to get best deals. It wasn't an issue in that we didn't look at what we expected to "earn" from the day. We spent on what we thought was going to make it a great day and it was.
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Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 12:23:32 PM
cavan4ever is right, the english are notorious for giving crap wedding presents... I lived there
Did you get married there?
no, I got married in Ireland and it seems as though bingobus and I are the only ones on the same level here
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 12:20:17 PM
Quote from: tyrone girl on August 19, 2009, 12:15:06 PM
How do we have the same attitude as the english????????
Just because we feel £100 per couple isnt miserable. Catch yourself on
Its more english than irish to give crap wedding presents.
Well i wont be asking people that give crap presents or nothing atall i have already sussed that out from other friends realations etc.
What are basing that wild generalisation on, this thread? ::)
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 12:27:35 PM
Quote from: tyrone girl on August 19, 2009, 12:22:22 PM
Crap wedding presents and wat the feck is crap about £100??? Duno about u but £100 is plenty to me at the minute with the amount of other things i have on!!
As for that last comment u made i presume ur taking the piss, if ur not u need knocked out
Need a deposit for a house dont want any wasters who give nothing going.
U are taking the piss arent u and im rising to it like a fool
Quote from: thebigfella on August 19, 2009, 12:20:56 PM
Some big shots around this board today :D
yes but I'm with Billy, a shock is on the way, I'm surprised it hasnt hit them already.
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I just think pintsofguinness has a major gripe on "paying for someone else's wedding" simple as that and that the invitation is seen as a summons
Id rather receive a summons than an invitation, especially when it takes me five minutes to think of who the invitation is from and how they know me and then it dawns on me I haven't seen them since school ffs. But no, I'd say they're inviting me for my company!
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For instance, Pints is sitting at a wedding thinking of how much it cost him and of the holiday he could be on. If thats his attitude I don't think he should have went as he isn't doing himself any favours and is been two faced to the bride and groom.
I generally only go to family weddings and close friends, I ignore the rest of the invitations.
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Quote from: tyrone girl on August 19, 2009, 12:22:22 PM
Crap wedding presents and wat the feck is crap about £100??? Duno about u but £100 is plenty to me at the minute with the amount of other things i have on!!
As for that last comment u made i presume ur taking the piss, if ur not u need knocked out
Need a deposit for a house dont want any wasters who give nothing going.
Have a small private wedding then and what you save would probably cover a deposit.
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 12:23:32 PM
ok calm down everyone, £50 is fine. End of matter. I will accept that although it is not my opinion. I am starting to sound like I am on a six-figure salary now ;) people get so hot under the collar on a subject which should not be deemed as so touchy
take a look at ANY recognised hotel venue in any part of Ireland and see the average cost per meal, thats all I am saying, I feel the moral obligation to at least cover the cost of the feed, anything after that is up to the couple themselves... I just think pintsofguinness has a major gripe on "paying for someone else's wedding" simple as that and that the invitation is seen as a summons
cavan4ever is right, the english are notorious for giving crap wedding presents... I lived there
By that logic, a couple who go for a low key buffet in the local hall should get a smaller present than the couple who go for string quartets, ice sculptures, doves and god knows what else, irrespective of my relationship/closeness to them. What nonsense.
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For instance, Pints is sitting at a wedding thinking of how much it cost him and of the holiday he could be on. If thats his attitude I don't think he should have went as he isn't doing himself any favours and is been two faced to the bride and groom.
I generally only go to family weddings and close friends, I ignore the rest of the invitations.
You are probably right ;)
Send them a postcard from the beach wishing them well ;D
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 12:32:30 PM
Quote from: thebigfella on August 19, 2009, 12:20:56 PM
Some big shots around this board today :D
yes but I'm with Billy, a shock is on the way, I'm surprised it hasnt hit them already.
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I just think pintsofguinness has a major gripe on "paying for someone else's wedding" simple as that and that the invitation is seen as a summons
Id rather receive a summons than an invitation, especially when it takes me five minutes to think of who the invitation is from and how they know me and then it dawns on me I haven't seen them since school ffs. But no, I'd say they're inviting me for my company!
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For instance, Pints is sitting at a wedding thinking of how much it cost him and of the holiday he could be on. If thats his attitude I don't think he should have went as he isn't doing himself any favours and is been two faced to the bride and groom.
I generally only go to family weddings and close friends, I ignore the rest of the invitations.
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 12:27:35 PM
Quote from: tyrone girl on August 19, 2009, 12:22:22 PM
Crap wedding presents and wat the feck is crap about £100??? Duno about u but £100 is plenty to me at the minute with the amount of other things i have on!!
As for that last comment u made i presume ur taking the piss, if ur not u need knocked out
Need a deposit for a house dont want any wasters who give nothing going.
Have a small private wedding then and what you save would probably cover a deposit.
Thats boring
its all relative..what exactly constitutes a crap wedding present then.
i cant believe that some people would consider not inviting someone to a wedding cuz there present isnt up to their standards, and even worse they have them sussed out beforehand..bunch of judgemental farquars on here.
Yep thats absolutely ridiculous, to be sussing out who gives what and then deciding not to invite them based on that. What a load of shyte
Reminds me of the time Del Boy was at Trig's niece's wedding at a very plush country hotel and he had a crap present badly wrapped, he switched the tags around with Boycie's fancy Royal Doulton dinner set :D
Must do the same if I am ever at a wedding with some of the nouveau riche on here.
I love weddings and always seem to be invited to 4/5 every year (this past 5/6 years anyway), I seldom have a bad time as invariably you are in the company of family and friends.
Quote from: Brick Tamlin on August 19, 2009, 12:35:25 PM
its all relative..what exactly constitutes a crap wedding present then.
i cant believe that some people would consider not inviting someone to a wedding cuz there present isnt up to their standards, and even worse they have them sussed out beforehand..bunch of judgemental farquars on here.
and I've been wondering why I've got no wedding invitations lately...
Quote from: Brick Tamlin on August 19, 2009, 12:35:25 PM
its all relative..what exactly constitutes a crap wedding present then.
i cant believe that some people would consider not inviting someone to a wedding cuz there present isnt up to their standards, and even worse they have them sussed out beforehand..bunch of judgemental farquars on here.
Quote from: tyrone girl on August 19, 2009, 12:36:22 PM
Yep thats absolutely ridiculous, to be sussing out who gives what and then deciding not to invite them based on that. What a load of shyte
A mate told me to do it, he reckons it was the best thing he could have done. His uncle didnt give a present and him and his father went to the house and dropped hints till he was shamed into putting the hand in the pocket.
The pisstake is too obvious now cavan, nice try though.
A mate told me to do it, he reckons it was the best thing he could have done. His uncle didnt give a present and him and his father went to the house and dropped hints till he was shamed into putting the hand in the pocket.
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what are you, 16 yrs old?
Quote from: Treasurer on August 19, 2009, 12:33:38 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 12:23:32 PM
ok calm down everyone, £50 is fine. End of matter. I will accept that although it is not my opinion. I am starting to sound like I am on a six-figure salary now ;) people get so hot under the collar on a subject which should not be deemed as so touchy
take a look at ANY recognised hotel venue in any part of Ireland and see the average cost per meal, thats all I am saying, I feel the moral obligation to at least cover the cost of the feed, anything after that is up to the couple themselves... I just think pintsofguinness has a major gripe on "paying for someone else's wedding" simple as that and that the invitation is seen as a summons
cavan4ever is right, the english are notorious for giving crap wedding presents... I lived there
By that logic, a couple who go for a low key buffet in the local hall should get a smaller present than the couple who go for string quartets, ice sculptures, doves and god knows what else, irrespective of my relationship/closeness to them. What nonsense.
do you know what is going to happen on the day of a wedding before you get there and thus decide what the day was worth at the end? NO? thought not. read properly.
Look, just give what you want, I really don't care at this stage, I was only passing on my original opinion in the first place that £50 per person was on the mean side. I can't believe I got dragged into this bloody thread
Dear Bridezilla
Thank you for your kind invitation to your wedding. I hope you won't think I'm being rude in writing this letter, but as you included "Cash presents only please" on your invitations, I think I can safely assume that good old fashioned manners and etiquette are off the table and that you won't be insulted.
You see, my dilemma is that I cannot decide what would be an appropriate gift, as I have no idea what kind of celebration you have planned and so I'd appreciate if you would let me know if you are planning to include any of the following, so that I can calculate the value of my gift:
• Doves
• String quartets
• Gilt edged marriage booklets
• Champagne on arrival
• Waterford crystal keepsakes
• Diamond pins on the seat covers
• Ice sculptures
• Animals of any kind (I hear camels are all the rage)
• Free bar
• Fire eaters
• Comedians
If you are including more than three of the above, then I'm afraid I might have to go home early so as not to outstay the value of my contribution. Indeed if you are planning to include ALL of the above, then I'm sorry to say your invitation must have got lost in the post.
Your friend always,
PS Thank you for the 2 year's advance notice and the details of the savings club
PPS Are you the girl who used to sit behind me in English class?
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 12:40:18 PM
The pisstake is too obvious now cavan, nice try though.
aw well
Quote from: Brick Tamlin on August 19, 2009, 12:40:45 PM
A mate told me to do it, he reckons it was the best thing he could have done. His uncle didnt give a present and him and his father went to the house and dropped hints till he was shamed into putting the hand in the pocket.
what are you, 16 yrs old?
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U never get advise of someone Brick.
Quote from: Brick Tamlin on August 19, 2009, 12:40:45 PM
A mate told me to do it, he reckons it was the best thing he could have done. His uncle didnt give a present and him and his father went to the house and dropped hints till he was shamed into putting the hand in the pocket.
what are you, 16 yrs old?
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I think he might be, he clearly has no bills to pay or worry about, he's got lives with parents all over him.
Quote from: Brick Tamlin on August 19, 2009, 12:35:25 PM
its all relative..what exactly constitutes a crap wedding present then.
i cant believe that some people would consider not inviting someone to a wedding cuz there present isnt up to their standards, and even worse they have them sussed out beforehand..bunch of judgemental farquars on here.
I don't see where anyone is suggesting that ???
Quote from: bingobus on August 19, 2009, 12:43:50 PM
Quote from: Brick Tamlin on August 19, 2009, 12:35:25 PM
its all relative..what exactly constitutes a crap wedding present then.
i cant believe that some people would consider not inviting someone to a wedding cuz there present isnt up to their standards, and even worse they have them sussed out beforehand..bunch of judgemental farquars on here.
I don't see where anyone is suggesting that ???
In fairness i did.
Love it Treasurer
:D
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 12:44:43 PM
Quote from: bingobus on August 19, 2009, 12:43:50 PM
Quote from: Brick Tamlin on August 19, 2009, 12:35:25 PM
its all relative..what exactly constitutes a crap wedding present then.
i cant believe that some people would consider not inviting someone to a wedding cuz there present isnt up to their standards, and even worse they have them sussed out beforehand..bunch of judgemental farquars on here.
I don't see where anyone is suggesting that ???
In fairness i did.
Surely no-one actually believed you
Quote from: bingobus on August 19, 2009, 12:48:43 PM
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 12:44:43 PM
Quote from: bingobus on August 19, 2009, 12:43:50 PM
Quote from: Brick Tamlin on August 19, 2009, 12:35:25 PM
its all relative..what exactly constitutes a crap wedding present then.
i cant believe that some people would consider not inviting someone to a wedding cuz there present isnt up to their standards, and even worse they have them sussed out beforehand..bunch of judgemental farquars on here.
I don't see where anyone is suggesting that ???
In fairness i did.
Surely no-one actually believed you
He must have.
Anyway here is what most people seem to be giving down here €150-€200 for a friend and then what ever for a family member.
Quote from: Dinny Breen on August 18, 2009, 10:21:04 AM
Billy,
Thanks, We had thought of that, well I did but I'm glad I went down the road we did as my parents have never had a wedding at home (USA and England) and the wife's family the same (Scotland and Cyprus) but we've been living together 10 years and could afford it although if I hadn't been getting married there is no way we'd have 25K if you know what I mean.
Hardy,
Thanks as well, yea the price of flowers for the church shocked me as well but some people spend over 2k on that alone, or 600 euro on a cake, 500 on invitations etc but I married a chartered accountant and she was very conscious of cost so much she is now getting ready to sell her dress.
The cost broke down very roughly
Music, reception, alcohol 12K
Accommodation 2k (We were there for a week before hand)
Honeymoon and wedding rings 5k
Dresses, suits, priest, church, weeding fees, photographer 6K
Even the price of a photographer would break your heart, average 1500 to 2000 euro, ours was a lot less but you have to negotiate on everything, we reckon we cut the costs by 20% because we haggled on everything, if they wouldn't budge on price we just went somewhere else, in fact the bride located her dress 15% cheaper in Galway and got the local lady she was dealing with to reduce her price to that or else she'd just buy it in Galway.
It can be a rip-off but at 25K I think we did very well for the day we had but I would think that :)
Congrats Dinny. Getting the chop myself after Christmas and are going down a similar route of haggling. The church will have their Christmas flowers still up so that is one cost saved thank fcuk. Getting a mate to take photographs and will be looking to others for lifts to the church, etc. Can't believe I'll still be looking at 25K though...
Gerry if I was you I'd get back onto the blower to your man and say you are going to write about your experiences with him on every wedding discussion forum out there unless he sends you on the photos.
Rois, if she's that good a friend she'll be only too happy to let you off. Was in Mullingar for a league game the day after the sisters wedding last year (although I didn't have half the country to cover to get back for the session the night after).
Want to do something different to "favours" and buying a round after the meal, thinking of a shot of sambouca or something similar to help digestion, any other suggestions??? Have the fecking pre marriage course tonight, hitting the drink shortly...
Back to the topic heading, would usually give €200 for a couple, €250 if it had a free bar...
Just remembered the one thing that I was pissed off paying before the wedding - the priest. Think the local rate was something like €300 for him. I was raging before the day!
But he played a stormer after the meal. The old boy and him hit the red wine and by time he got to spoke he had the place in uproar. Best speach of the day!!
Quote from: Croí na hÉireann on August 19, 2009, 12:59:40 PM
Quote from: Dinny Breen on August 18, 2009, 10:21:04 AM
Billy,
Thanks, We had thought of that, well I did but I'm glad I went down the road we did as my parents have never had a wedding at home (USA and England) and the wife's family the same (Scotland and Cyprus) but we've been living together 10 years and could afford it although if I hadn't been getting married there is no way we'd have 25K if you know what I mean.
Hardy,
Thanks as well, yea the price of flowers for the church shocked me as well but some people spend over 2k on that alone, or 600 euro on a cake, 500 on invitations etc but I married a chartered accountant and she was very conscious of cost so much she is now getting ready to sell her dress.
The cost broke down very roughly
Music, reception, alcohol 12K
Accommodation 2k (We were there for a week before hand)
Honeymoon and wedding rings 5k
Dresses, suits, priest, church, weeding fees, photographer 6K
Even the price of a photographer would break your heart, average 1500 to 2000 euro, ours was a lot less but you have to negotiate on everything, we reckon we cut the costs by 20% because we haggled on everything, if they wouldn't budge on price we just went somewhere else, in fact the bride located her dress 15% cheaper in Galway and got the local lady she was dealing with to reduce her price to that or else she'd just buy it in Galway.
It can be a rip-off but at 25K I think we did very well for the day we had but I would think that :)
Congrats Dinny. Getting the chop myself after Christmas and are going down a similar route of haggling. The church will have their Christmas flowers still up so that is one cost saved thank fcuk. Getting a mate to take photographs and will be looking to others for lifts to the church, etc. Can't believe I'll still be looking at 25K though...
Gerry if I was you I'd get back onto the blower to your man and say you are going to write about your experiences with him on every wedding discussion forum out there unless he sends you on the photos.
Rois, if she's that good a friend she'll be only too happy to let you off. Was in Mullingar for a league game the day after the sisters wedding last year (although I didn't have half the country to cover to get back for the session the night after).
Want to do something different to "favours" and buying a round after the meal, thinking of a shot of sambouca or something similar to help digestion, any other suggestions??? Have the fecking pre marriage course tonight, hitting the drink shortly...
Back to the topic heading, would usually give €200 for a couple, €250 if it had a free bar...
It's not a free bar then if you are paying for it ;)
I'm fully behind Pints etc. on this - guests at a wedding should not have to pay the bills for hosting the wedding. If the groom decides he wants to arrive in a helicopter (it happens!) then don't be expecting me to foot the bill.
As for someone comparing the Irish and English - it's extremely Irish to invite as many people as possible to wedding so you can tell everyone how big your wedding was, rather than inviting people you really want to be there. That's sad.
I disagree with that last statement Tony. I had a medium sized wedding back in 2003, I think 180 people 'sat down'. But the overriding factor for us was the size of the place we booked.
What most people struggle with when inviting people to their wedding is how to cut the list, I think. It's a nightmare. If I invite them, sure I have to invite them as well. Pressure comes on from the parents, or you feel yourselve that they'd like it, to invite neighbours of their vintage, cousins etc etc.
I think most people struggle with cutting the numbers, and large weddings are because people don't want to do that. I think that's the Irish thing, not wanting to offend people.
Quote from: Tony Baloney on August 19, 2009, 01:14:57 PM
Quote from: Croí na hÉireann on August 19, 2009, 12:59:40 PM
Quote from: Dinny Breen on August 18, 2009, 10:21:04 AM
Billy,
Thanks, We had thought of that, well I did but I'm glad I went down the road we did as my parents have never had a wedding at home (USA and England) and the wife's family the same (Scotland and Cyprus) but we've been living together 10 years and could afford it although if I hadn't been getting married there is no way we'd have 25K if you know what I mean.
Hardy,
Thanks as well, yea the price of flowers for the church shocked me as well but some people spend over 2k on that alone, or 600 euro on a cake, 500 on invitations etc but I married a chartered accountant and she was very conscious of cost so much she is now getting ready to sell her dress.
The cost broke down very roughly
Music, reception, alcohol 12K
Accommodation 2k (We were there for a week before hand)
Honeymoon and wedding rings 5k
Dresses, suits, priest, church, weeding fees, photographer 6K
Even the price of a photographer would break your heart, average 1500 to 2000 euro, ours was a lot less but you have to negotiate on everything, we reckon we cut the costs by 20% because we haggled on everything, if they wouldn't budge on price we just went somewhere else, in fact the bride located her dress 15% cheaper in Galway and got the local lady she was dealing with to reduce her price to that or else she'd just buy it in Galway.
It can be a rip-off but at 25K I think we did very well for the day we had but I would think that :)
Congrats Dinny. Getting the chop myself after Christmas and are going down a similar route of haggling. The church will have their Christmas flowers still up so that is one cost saved thank fcuk. Getting a mate to take photographs and will be looking to others for lifts to the church, etc. Can't believe I'll still be looking at 25K though...
Gerry if I was you I'd get back onto the blower to your man and say you are going to write about your experiences with him on every wedding discussion forum out there unless he sends you on the photos.
Rois, if she's that good a friend she'll be only too happy to let you off. Was in Mullingar for a league game the day after the sisters wedding last year (although I didn't have half the country to cover to get back for the session the night after).
Want to do something different to "favours" and buying a round after the meal, thinking of a shot of sambouca or something similar to help digestion, any other suggestions??? Have the fecking pre marriage course tonight, hitting the drink shortly...
Back to the topic heading, would usually give €200 for a couple, €250 if it had a free bar...
It's not a free bar then if you are paying for it ;)
I'm fully behind Pints etc. on this - guests at a wedding should not have to pay the bills for hosting the wedding. If the groom decides he wants to arrive in a helicopter (it happens!) then don't be expecting me to foot the bill.
As for someone comparing the Irish and English - it's extremely Irish to invite as many people as possible to wedding so you can tell everyone how big your wedding was, rather than inviting people you really want to be there. That's sad.
It's also sad that some people think that people only get married because others are paying for it .
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 12:23:32 PM
ok calm down everyone, £50 is fine. End of matter. I will accept that although it is not my opinion. I am starting to sound like I am on a six-figure salary now ;) people get so hot under the collar on a subject which should not be deemed as so touchy
take a look at ANY recognised hotel venue in any part of Ireland and see the average cost per meal, thats all I am saying, I feel the moral obligation to at least cover the cost of the feed, anything after that is up to the couple themselves... I just think pintsofguinness has a major gripe on "paying for someone else's wedding" simple as that and that the invitation is seen as a summons
cavan4ever is right, the english are notorious for giving crap wedding presents... I lived there
The average cost of a meal is probably about £35
example:
http://www.canalcourthotel.com/weddings.jsp?c=/Weddings/menus.jsp - the wedding menu starts from £28.90, plus £5 - £10 for the evening buffet
Quote from: Croí na hÉireann on August 19, 2009, 12:59:40 PM
Quote from: Dinny Breen on August 18, 2009, 10:21:04 AM
Billy,
Thanks, We had thought of that, well I did but I'm glad I went down the road we did as my parents have never had a wedding at home (USA and England) and the wife's family the same (Scotland and Cyprus) but we've been living together 10 years and could afford it although if I hadn't been getting married there is no way we'd have 25K if you know what I mean.
Hardy,
Thanks as well, yea the price of flowers for the church shocked me as well but some people spend over 2k on that alone, or 600 euro on a cake, 500 on invitations etc but I married a chartered accountant and she was very conscious of cost so much she is now getting ready to sell her dress.
The cost broke down very roughly
Music, reception, alcohol 12K
Accommodation 2k (We were there for a week before hand)
Honeymoon and wedding rings 5k
Dresses, suits, priest, church, weeding fees, photographer 6K
Even the price of a photographer would break your heart, average 1500 to 2000 euro, ours was a lot less but you have to negotiate on everything, we reckon we cut the costs by 20% because we haggled on everything, if they wouldn't budge on price we just went somewhere else, in fact the bride located her dress 15% cheaper in Galway and got the local lady she was dealing with to reduce her price to that or else she'd just buy it in Galway.
It can be a rip-off but at 25K I think we did very well for the day we had but I would think that :)
Congrats Dinny. Getting the chop myself after Christmas and are going down a similar route of haggling. The church will have their Christmas flowers still up so that is one cost saved thank fcuk. Getting a mate to take photographs and will be looking to others for lifts to the church, etc. Can't believe I'll still be looking at 25K though...
Gerry if I was you I'd get back onto the blower to your man and say you are going to write about your experiences with him on every wedding discussion forum out there unless he sends you on the photos.
Rois, if she's that good a friend she'll be only too happy to let you off. Was in Mullingar for a league game the day after the sisters wedding last year (although I didn't have half the country to cover to get back for the session the night after).
Want to do something different to "favours" and buying a round after the meal, thinking of a shot of sambouca or something similar to help digestion, any other suggestions??? Have the fecking pre marriage course tonight, hitting the drink shortly...
Back to the topic heading, would usually give €200 for a couple, €250 if it had a free bar...
Croi
Where is the wedding? Are you marrying a girl from the county. I got stuck with a Dirty Dub!
Quote from: Lazer on August 19, 2009, 01:23:30 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 12:23:32 PM
ok calm down everyone, £50 is fine. End of matter. I will accept that although it is not my opinion. I am starting to sound like I am on a six-figure salary now ;) people get so hot under the collar on a subject which should not be deemed as so touchy
take a look at ANY recognised hotel venue in any part of Ireland and see the average cost per meal, thats all I am saying, I feel the moral obligation to at least cover the cost of the feed, anything after that is up to the couple themselves... I just think pintsofguinness has a major gripe on "paying for someone else's wedding" simple as that and that the invitation is seen as a summons
cavan4ever is right, the english are notorious for giving crap wedding presents... I lived there
The average cost of a meal is probably about £35
example:
http://www.canalcourthotel.com/weddings.jsp?c=/Weddings/menus.jsp - the wedding menu starts from £28.90, plus £5 - £10 for the evening buffet
thats one, here are 4 more
http://www.loughernegolfresort.com/ENG/static_files/files/wedding_packages_22_04_09.pdf - £56-£80 per meal
http://www.manor-house-hotel.com/UpLoads/Documents/WEDDING%20PACKAGE%202009.pdf - can't be arsed reading it all but somewhere around £50-£60 per meal looks about right
http://www.ballymascanlon.com/html/weddingmenu.htm - €50+ for meal, not inc. the extras
http://www.galgorm.com/filestore/documents/Wedding_Menu%5C%27s_2010.pdf - £37-£100 for food only.
And I think most people will agree that most couples won't want to go for the "basic" package on their big day
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 01:36:44 PM
Quote from: Lazer on August 19, 2009, 01:23:30 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 12:23:32 PM
ok calm down everyone, £50 is fine. End of matter. I will accept that although it is not my opinion. I am starting to sound like I am on a six-figure salary now ;) people get so hot under the collar on a subject which should not be deemed as so touchy
take a look at ANY recognised hotel venue in any part of Ireland and see the average cost per meal, thats all I am saying, I feel the moral obligation to at least cover the cost of the feed, anything after that is up to the couple themselves... I just think pintsofguinness has a major gripe on "paying for someone else's wedding" simple as that and that the invitation is seen as a summons
cavan4ever is right, the english are notorious for giving crap wedding presents... I lived there
The average cost of a meal is probably about £35
example:
http://www.canalcourthotel.com/weddings.jsp?c=/Weddings/menus.jsp - the wedding menu starts from £28.90, plus £5 - £10 for the evening buffet
thats one, here are 4 more
http://www.loughernegolfresort.com/ENG/static_files/files/wedding_packages_22_04_09.pdf - £56-£80 per meal
http://www.manor-house-hotel.com/UpLoads/Documents/WEDDING%20PACKAGE%202009.pdf - can't be arsed reading it all but somewhere around £50-£60 per meal looks about right
http://www.ballymascanlon.com/html/weddingmenu.htm - €50+ for meal, not inc. the extras
http://www.galgorm.com/filestore/documents/Wedding_Menu%5C%27s_2010.pdf - £37-£100 for food only.
And I think most people will agree that most couples won't want to go for the "basic" package on their big day
Why should i have to give a bigger present because couples want a fancy meal that they can tell everyone about ;)
surely. There is always one :D
QuoteWhy should i have to give a bigger present because couples want a fancy meal that they can tell everyone about
Good, you're getting the point at last.
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 01:43:26 PM
QuoteWhy should i have to give a bigger present because couples want a fancy meal that they can tell everyone about
Good, you're getting the point at last.
Coming around to the english way of thinking :D
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 01:45:08 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 01:43:26 PM
QuoteWhy should i have to give a bigger present because couples want a fancy meal that they can tell everyone about
Good, you're getting the point at last.
Coming around to the english way of thinking :D
Dont see much wrong with the english way on thinking on weddings.
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 01:36:44 PM
Quote from: Lazer on August 19, 2009, 01:23:30 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 12:23:32 PM
ok calm down everyone, £50 is fine. End of matter. I will accept that although it is not my opinion. I am starting to sound like I am on a six-figure salary now ;) people get so hot under the collar on a subject which should not be deemed as so touchy
take a look at ANY recognised hotel venue in any part of Ireland and see the average cost per meal, thats all I am saying, I feel the moral obligation to at least cover the cost of the feed, anything after that is up to the couple themselves... I just think pintsofguinness has a major gripe on "paying for someone else's wedding" simple as that and that the invitation is seen as a summons
cavan4ever is right, the english are notorious for giving crap wedding presents... I lived there
The average cost of a meal is probably about £35
example:
http://www.canalcourthotel.com/weddings.jsp?c=/Weddings/menus.jsp - the wedding menu starts from £28.90, plus £5 - £10 for the evening buffet
thats one, here are 4 more
http://www.loughernegolfresort.com/ENG/static_files/files/wedding_packages_22_04_09.pdf - £56-£80 per meal
http://www.manor-house-hotel.com/UpLoads/Documents/WEDDING%20PACKAGE%202009.pdf - can't be arsed reading it all but somewhere around £50-£60 per meal looks about right
http://www.ballymascanlon.com/html/weddingmenu.htm - €50+ for meal, not inc. the extras
http://www.galgorm.com/filestore/documents/Wedding_Menu%5C%27s_2010.pdf - £37-£100 for food only.
And I think most people will agree that most couples won't want to go for the "basic" package on their big day
Comments on the above:
Lougherne - yeah its expensive ok
Manorhouse hotel - the most meal inc buffet and drinks on arrival is £45
Ballymacscanlon - There is 6 menu selections - 4 are below €50 and only 2 above with the most expensive at €53
Galgorm - There is 6 of 12 options under £40
Basically my point is in most venues £50 will easily cover the cost of a meal!
Anyway I agree with what others have said - why should you have to pay for someone elses choice of wedding? People don't invite you to their wedding for the money (or at least they shouldn't).
£100 per couple is perfectly reasonable
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 01:46:30 PM
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 01:45:08 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 01:43:26 PM
QuoteWhy should i have to give a bigger present because couples want a fancy meal that they can tell everyone about
Good, you're getting the point at last.
Coming around to the english way of thinking :D
Dont see much wrong with the english way on thinking on weddings.
Nothing wrong with it that is in their culture and is the way they do things.
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 01:54:09 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 01:46:30 PM
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 01:45:08 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 01:43:26 PM
QuoteWhy should i have to give a bigger present because couples want a fancy meal that they can tell everyone about
Good, you're getting the point at last.
Coming around to the english way of thinking :D
Dont see much wrong with the english way on thinking on weddings.
Nothing wrong with it that is in their culture and is the way they do things.
I dont think Irish culture was ever about spending ridiculous amounts of money for show and to keep up with the Jones. Is it any wonder the 26 counties is in the state it is?
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 01:59:27 PM
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 01:54:09 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 01:46:30 PM
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 01:45:08 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 01:43:26 PM
QuoteWhy should i have to give a bigger present because couples want a fancy meal that they can tell everyone about
Good, you're getting the point at last.
Coming around to the english way of thinking :D
Dont see much wrong with the english way on thinking on weddings.
Nothing wrong with it that is in their culture and is the way they do things.
I dont think Irish culture was ever about spending ridiculous amounts of money for show and to keep up with the Jones. Is it any wonder the 26 counties is in the state it is?
Are you saying everyone does that on weddings ?
QuoteAre you saying everyone does that on weddings ?
No, but I think it's common.
I think, as AZ pointed out, a lot of couples just cave in to inviting everyone in the hope they dont offend anyone, it's wrong in my eyes and if your neighbour gets offended because you've only invited close friends and family and doesnt understand that then they arent really worth bothering about. I've big family, on both sides and cousins are completely left out in a lot of the weddgins, no ones got offended because we understand why.
Lazer, will you get much on here for £50? http://gifts.kudosnetwork.co.uk/56292 £50 won't get you that much these days will it? I think 12 red roses for the wife on Valentine's Day or her birthday or on the birth of your first child could be in excess of £50.
my straightforward point is the present (which is normally cash/cheque) is meant to be a GIFT, so apart from the gift of your attendance on that day, which will always be remembered and greatly appreciated, after the £50 (which helps the couple cover the cost of the meal, nothing else so it is not a money making exercise) the couple are left to pay for everything else (their choice as they are the ones getting married)
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 02:06:30 PM
QuoteAre you saying everyone does that on weddings ?
No, but I think it's common.
I think, as AZ pointed out, a lot of couples just cave in to inviting everyone in the hope they dont offend anyone, it's wrong in my eyes and if your neighbour gets offended because you've only invited close friends and family and doesnt understand that then they arent really worth bothering about. I've big family, on both sides and cousins are completely left out in a lot of the weddgins, no ones got offended because we understand why.
I know some people go way over the top and ask half the country which is madness.
QuotePoG I dont know if you are taking the piss or are just a grumpy shite, but I feel sorry for your friends who actually do invite you to their weddings if your opinions on here are really your real true life opinions.
I dont understand why?
Quote from: Mac Eoghain on August 19, 2009, 02:17:56 PM
Rois & Treasurer - there may have been a few items considered 'extravagant' but as true to my calling in life I priced the life out of everything to make it as affordable as possible
Ach I don't care if the couple want to spend their life savings on releasing a diamond collared dove for every day they've known each other (might think it was daft, but it's their business), my objection is to the notion that the guests should be giving according the to expected cost - and in fairness I don't think that mentality is all that common.
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 02:12:59 PM
Lazer, will you get much on here for £50? http://gifts.kudosnetwork.co.uk/56292 £50 won't get you that much these days will it? I think 12 red roses for the wife on Valentine's Day or her birthday or on the birth of your first child could be in excess of £50.
my straightforward point is the present (which is normally cash/cheque) is meant to be a GIFT, so apart from the gift of your attendance on that day, which will always be remembered and greatly appreciated, after the £50 (which helps the couple cover the cost of the meal, nothing else so it is not a money making exercise) the couple are left to pay for everything else (their choice as they are the ones getting married)
Thats why i'm trying to get them for free!
£50 can still get you a lot these days.
If can't say i was ever (or at least very rarely) spend £50 on meal.
£50 could feed a family for a week and has to for a lot of low income families - so for these families giving £100 as a wedding present is a lot of money!
Quote from: Mac Eoghain on August 19, 2009, 02:25:55 PM
QuoteId rather receive a summons than an invitation, especially when it takes me five minutes to think of who the invitation is from and how they know me and then it dawns on me I haven't seen them since school ffs. But no, I'd say they're inviting me for my company!
...need I say more...
They're not friends who are inviting me and I dont go to those types of weddings so I still dont understand your comment.
Quote from: Mac Eoghain on August 19, 2009, 02:25:55 PM
QuoteId rather receive a summons than an invitation, especially when it takes me five minutes to think of who the invitation is from and how they know me and then it dawns on me I haven't seen them since school ffs. But no, I'd say they're inviting me for my company!
...need I say more...
Some people hate weddings, ANY weddings, that's their entitlement.
Weddings can be great days, but I've been to a few where I'd rather have spent the day picking stones. That doesn't make me a bad person.
I love weddings. A lot of begrudgary in here. A great days craic ;D
Quote from: Mac Eoghain on August 19, 2009, 02:30:25 PM
I thought that was what you were saying about all weddings...
Well it is, I hate weddings, it not my type of day, but if it's a friend or family I'll go and put a smile on my face. I've only ever been to one or two weddings I've enjoyed.
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 02:31:56 PM
Quote from: Mac Eoghain on August 19, 2009, 02:30:25 PM
I thought that was what you were saying about all weddings...
Well it is, I hate weddings, it not my type of day, but if it's a friend or family I'll go and put a smile on my face. I've only ever been to one or two weddings I've enjoyed.
I think the only time that you would be happy is when your complaining. Thats just impression i get from you and apologies if im wrong.
Quote from: ziggysego on August 19, 2009, 02:30:17 PM
I love weddings. A lot of begrudgary in here. A great days craic ;D
I agree. Good food and lots of drink ;D
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 02:37:41 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 02:31:56 PM
Quote from: Mac Eoghain on August 19, 2009, 02:30:25 PM
I thought that was what you were saying about all weddings...
Well it is, I hate weddings, it not my type of day, but if it's a friend or family I'll go and put a smile on my face. I've only ever been to one or two weddings I've enjoyed.
I think the only time that you would be happy is when your complaining. Thats just impression i get from you and apologies if im wrong.
now he could not have nearly 10,000 posts and them all whinging, its just weddings in general he does not enjoy, furry muff as they say... maybe a few few quite pints of the black stuff in the local with the lads whatching the football is more in his line of enjoyment. good on him (although its nice to be multi-dimensional)
Quote from: gerrykeegan on August 19, 2009, 01:36:32 PM
Croi
Where is the wedding? Are you marrying a girl from the county. I got stuck with a Dirty Dub!
Wexford woman, having the shindig down there so it might as well be a Dub :P
I'd serious look into getting either the money back or your photos on a disc off that chancer. Have a look on these forums that, em, a, em, friend, told me about to see if he/she gets a mention/has their details on there
http://www.southeastbrides.ie/index.php/Forum/ (http://www.southeastbrides.ie/index.php/Forum/)
http://www.weddingsireland.com/forums/ (http://www.weddingsireland.com/forums/)
http://www.weddingsonline.ie/discussion/ (http://www.weddingsonline.ie/discussion/)
http://www.simplyweddings.com/ (http://www.simplyweddings.com/)
Then give the chancer a ring, tell them what you saw (make stuff up like that's where you got their details, complementary reports, etc) & if you don't get either your money back or your photos you'll detail your experience with them on every wedding forum out there to the last detail. Hopefully they'll see sense, if not, do as promised, at least it'll help you sleep easier at night...
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 02:39:01 PM
Quote from: ziggysego on August 19, 2009, 02:30:17 PM
I love weddings. A lot of begrudgary in here. A great days craic ;D
I agree. Good food and lots of drink ;D
+1
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 02:37:41 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 02:31:56 PM
Quote from: Mac Eoghain on August 19, 2009, 02:30:25 PM
I thought that was what you were saying about all weddings...
Well it is, I hate weddings, it not my type of day, but if it's a friend or family I'll go and put a smile on my face. I've only ever been to one or two weddings I've enjoyed.
I think the only time that you would be happy is when your complaining. Thats just impression i get from you and apologies if im wrong.
and you know a lot about me?
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 02:41:57 PM
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 02:37:41 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 02:31:56 PM
Quote from: Mac Eoghain on August 19, 2009, 02:30:25 PM
I thought that was what you were saying about all weddings...
Well it is, I hate weddings, it not my type of day, but if it's a friend or family I'll go and put a smile on my face. I've only ever been to one or two weddings I've enjoyed.
I think the only time that you would be happy is when your complaining. Thats just impression i get from you and apologies if im wrong.
and you know a lot about me?
Thats just from this board, as i said apologies if im wrong.
While we're at it - why do Irish women feel they need to be tangoed to go to a wedding. Also are people still getting married in those f**king crushed velvet jackets (cream or purple)? Jesus!
Quote from: Tony Baloney on August 19, 2009, 02:51:23 PM
While we're at it - why do Irish women feel they need to be tangoed to go to a wedding. Also are people still getting married in those f**king crushed velvet jackets (cream or purple)? Jesus!
Thats one for TG to answer.
Quote from: Treasurer on August 19, 2009, 12:42:12 PM
Dear Bridezilla
Thank you for your kind invitation to your wedding. I hope you won't think I'm being rude in writing this letter, but as you included "Cash presents only please" on your invitations, I think I can safely assume that good old fashioned manners and etiquette are off the table and that you won't be insulted.
You see, my dilemma is that I cannot decide what would be an appropriate gift, as I have no idea what kind of celebration you have planned and so I'd appreciate if you would let me know if you are planning to include any of the following, so that I can calculate the value of my gift:
• Doves
• String quartets
• Gilt edged marriage booklets
• Champagne on arrival
• Waterford crystal keepsakes
• Diamond pins on the seat covers
• Ice sculptures
• Animals of any kind (I hear camels are all the rage)
• Free bar
• Fire eaters
• Comedians
If you are including more than three of the above, then I'm afraid I might have to go home early so as not to outstay the value of my contribution. Indeed if you are planning to include ALL of the above, then I'm sorry to say your invitation must have got lost in the post.
Your friend always,
PS Thank you for the 2 year's advance notice and the details of the savings club
PPS Are you the girl who used to sit behind me in English class?
That's very good, Treasurer.
how do u post pics on this thing
A lot of people I invited to my wedding were very up front and simply said they couldn't afford to attend other people simply had holidays booked but we were very grateful for anyone that attended and we certainly didn't cover our cost or expect to. No couple should expect that but for the record Treasurer we had a champagne reception and a free bar, thanks for pointing out to me that supplying your friends and family with something for free is an extravagance and not a reward for travelling and attending our wedding and our way of helping people reduce the costs. The attitude of some people here beggars belief, our wedding was a celebration of 14years of knowing each other, of becoming a family and making that commitment of a life time together it certainly wasn't about making money and if some people find weddings a burden then don't fu*cking go I doubt you would be missed.
Quote from: Dinny Breen on August 19, 2009, 03:04:53 PM
A lot of people I invited to my wedding were very up front and simply said they couldn't afford to attend other people simply had holidays booked but we were very grateful for anyone that attended and we certainly didn't cover our cost or expect to. No couple should expect that but for the record Treasurer we had a champagne reception and a free bar, thanks for pointing out to me that supplying your friends and family with something for free is an extravagance and not a reward for travelling and attending our wedding and our way of helping people reduce the costs. The attitude of some people here beggars belief, our wedding was a celebration of 14years of knowing each other, of becoming a family and making that commitment of a life time together it certainly wasn't about making money and if some people find weddings a burden then don't f**cking go I doubt you would be missed.
Dinny I dont think anyone would have an issue if that's your attitude. People can have whatever they want, it's only an issue when guests are expected to pay for it but you've made it clear you didnt.
no civilised couple getting married nowadays expect their guest to pay for the wedding... please POG stop winding will ya.
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 03:10:09 PM
Quote from: Dinny Breen on August 19, 2009, 03:04:53 PM
A lot of people I invited to my wedding were very up front and simply said they couldn't afford to attend other people simply had holidays booked but we were very grateful for anyone that attended and we certainly didn't cover our cost or expect to. No couple should expect that but for the record Treasurer we had a champagne reception and a free bar, thanks for pointing out to me that supplying your friends and family with something for free is an extravagance and not a reward for travelling and attending our wedding and our way of helping people reduce the costs. The attitude of some people here beggars belief, our wedding was a celebration of 14years of knowing each other, of becoming a family and making that commitment of a life time together it certainly wasn't about making money and if some people find weddings a burden then don't f**cking go I doubt you would be missed.
Dinny I dont think anyone would have an issue if that's your attitude. People can have whatever they want, it's only an issue when guests are expected to pay for it but you've made it clear you didnt.
Where has this come from that they are expected to pay for it ?
Quote from: Dinny Breen on August 19, 2009, 03:04:53 PM
A lot of people I invited to my wedding were very up front and simply said they couldn't afford to attend other people simply had holidays booked but we were very grateful for anyone that attended and we certainly didn't cover our cost or expect to. No couple should expect that but for the record Treasurer we had a champagne reception and a free bar, thanks for pointing out to me that supplying your friends and family with something for free is an extravagance and not a reward for travelling and attending our wedding and our way of helping people reduce the costs. The attitude of some people here beggars belief, our wedding was a celebration of 14years of knowing each other, of becoming a family and making that commitment of a life time together it certainly wasn't about making money and if some people find weddings a burden then don't f**cking go I doubt you would be missed.
Have you any comment about the people who reckon the cost of the big day should be covered?
cavan, sammy - You two are the ones saying £50 per person is on the mean side as it wuoldnt cover the cost of you being there.
so , the next natural question is if you get invited and can't go ....do you still send a present or some cash ...remember they went to the trouble of inviting you to thier special day . They want you there , you are a friend or a relation etc .surely you need to send them something for the big day???
Lets say the came to your wedding and gave you a gift ?
or
They can't afford to attend ?
or
Your wedding is clashing with their plans...holidays etc
but in any case they won't be going .... do you still expect a present ?
Quote from: Dinny Breen on August 19, 2009, 03:04:53 PM
for the record Treasurer we had a champagne reception and a free bar, thanks for pointing out to me that supplying your friends and family with something for free is an extravagance
Dinny, Dinny, Dinny, didn't I just say that I don't care what couples spend their money on and I enjoy a champagne reception as much as the next person!! I was merely poking fun at the suggestion that a present should cover the cost of having the individual at the reception. Sorry for any offence caused.
Quote from: Barna Bee on August 19, 2009, 03:16:53 PM
so , the next natural question is if you get invited and can't go ....do you still send a present or some cash ...remember they went to the trouble of inviting you to thier special day . They want you there , you are a friend or a relation etc .surely you need to send them something for the big day???
Lets say the came to your wedding and gave you a gift ?
or
They can't afford to attend ?
or
Your wedding is clashing with their plans...holidays etc
but in any case they won't be going .... do you still expect a present ?
My policy is still to give the same gift regardless if I attend or not.
If one of my best mates were getting married tomorrow would I think £50 in either cash or a present at the same price was cheap ? Certainly.
If I was going to say the a cousins who i'm not that friendly with or an old friend I hadn't seen in a whole, I would think £50 from me would be suffice and certainly not cheap.
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 03:14:33 PM
cavan, sammy - You two are the ones saying £50 per person is on the mean side as it wuoldnt cover the cost of you being there.
POG - your point is what exactly? Treasurer (one who looks after the money) you give on the basis of "whats the least we can get away with without too much embarrassment??"
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 03:14:33 PM
cavan, sammy - You two are the ones saying £50 per person is on the mean side as it wuoldnt cover the cost of you being there.
I never said no such thing. Its the whinging about having to give it and maybe giving to much that i have issue with here.
Quote from: Barna Bee on August 19, 2009, 03:16:53 PM
so , the next natural question is if you get invited and can't go ....do you still send a present or some cash ...remember they went to the trouble of inviting you to thier special day . They want you there , you are a friend or a relation etc .surely you need to send them something for the big day???
Lets say the came to your wedding and gave you a gift ?
or
They can't afford to attend ?
or
Your wedding is clashing with their plans...holidays etc
but in any case they won't be going .... do you still expect a present ?
I'd most likely give a gift, the size of it again would depend on how well I knew the couple, how flush I happen to be at the time and the reason I'm not going.
If I'm not going because it clashes with some great event (like an AI final, but it's been a while :)) I'd probably give the same as if I was attending.
But if I'm not going because frankly I don't even know why I'm invited in the first place, I'd probably give a smaller token.
I know where you are coming from Treasurer I wasn't offended more annoyed because no-one knew it was a free bar so it was a nice surprise for people plus we laid on tea/coffee/minerals for non-drinkers as well anyhow apology accepted.
Barna Bee,
As Treasurer said.
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 03:20:10 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 03:14:33 PM
cavan, sammy - You two are the ones saying £50 per person is on the mean side as it wuoldnt cover the cost of you being there.
POG - your point is what exactly? Treasurer (one who looks after the money) you give on the basis of "whats the least we can get away with without too much embarrassment??"
Actually Sammy I usually end up more along the lines of "what's the most I can give and still have lunch money next week"
Quote from: Treasurer on August 19, 2009, 03:27:51 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 03:20:10 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 03:14:33 PM
cavan, sammy - You two are the ones saying £50 per person is on the mean side as it wuoldnt cover the cost of you being there.
POG - your point is what exactly? Treasurer (one who looks after the money) you give on the basis of "whats the least we can get away with without too much embarrassment??"
Actually Sammy I usually end up more along the lines of "what's the most I can give and still have lunch money next week"
If thing were that bad would you not be better off staying at home and saving your money for your lunch. Weddings are expensive apart from the gift.
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 03:30:05 PM
Quote from: Treasurer on August 19, 2009, 03:27:51 PM
Actually Sammy I usually end up more along the lines of "what's the most I can give and still have lunch money next week"
If thing were that bad would you not be better off staying at home and saving your money for your lunch. Weddings are expensive apart from the gift.
Well you know what Cavan4ever, sometimes it IS that bad for some people you know. And yes I have turned down invitations because I just couldn't afford to go!
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 03:11:50 PM
no civilised couple getting married nowadays expect their guest to pay for the wedding... please POG stop winding will ya.
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 03:22:09 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 03:14:33 PM
cavan, sammy - You two are the ones saying £50 per person is on the mean side as it wuoldnt cover the cost of you being there.
I never said no such thing. Its the whinging about having to give it and maybe giving to much that i have issue with here.
I'm sorry have I you two big shots mixed up with someone else or was it not yous who were saying that I was mean because £50.00 wouldnt cover the cost of me being there?
Quote from: Treasurer on August 19, 2009, 03:32:00 PM
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 03:30:05 PM
Quote from: Treasurer on August 19, 2009, 03:27:51 PM
Actually Sammy I usually end up more along the lines of "what's the most I can give and still have lunch money next week"
If thing were that bad would you not be better off staying at home and saving your money for your lunch. Weddings are expensive apart from the gift.
Well you know what Cavan4ever, sometimes it IS that bad for some people you know. And yes I have turned down invitations because I just couldn't afford to go!
Im not being smart with you, if i couldnt afford it there is no way i would go.
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 03:32:31 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 03:11:50 PM
no civilised couple getting married nowadays expect their guest to pay for the wedding... please POG stop winding will ya.
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 03:22:09 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 03:14:33 PM
cavan, sammy - You two are the ones saying £50 per person is on the mean side as it wuoldnt cover the cost of you being there.
I never said no such thing. Its the whinging about having to give it and maybe giving to much that i have issue with here.
I'm sorry have I you two big shots mixed up with someone else or was it not yous who were saying that I was mean because £50.00 wouldnt cover the cost of me being there?
I never said that.
Quote from: Barna Bee on August 19, 2009, 03:16:53 PM
so , the next natural question is if you get invited and can't go ....do you still send a present or some cash ...remember they went to the trouble of inviting you to thier special day . They want you there , you are a friend or a relation etc .surely you need to send them something for the big day???
Lets say the came to your wedding and gave you a gift ?
or
They can't afford to attend ?
or
Your wedding is clashing with their plans...holidays etc
but in any case they won't be going .... do you still expect a present ?
I send the same as if I would attend. Done it recently actually.
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 03:32:31 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 03:11:50 PM
no civilised couple getting married nowadays expect their guest to pay for the wedding... please POG stop winding will ya.
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 03:22:09 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 03:14:33 PM
cavan, sammy - You two are the ones saying £50 per person is on the mean side as it wuoldnt cover the cost of you being there.
I never said no such thing. Its the whinging about having to give it and maybe giving to much that i have issue with here.
I'm sorry have I you two big shots mixed up with someone else or was it not yous who were saying that I was mean because £50.00 wouldnt cover the cost of me being there?
yeah, ok I hold my hands up, I drive a fat Merc, go to work in a Gucci suit every day, have an exclusive pair of Prada shoes for work, Kurt Geigers for socialising in, nice Tiffany cuff links for double cuff Paul Smith shirts, blah blah blah.... I'm the
big shot :D who thinks that £/€50 per person is a little on the tight/mean side for a wedding present - wise up. I say £75, you say £50, no big deal.
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 03:41:53 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 03:32:31 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on August 19, 2009, 03:11:50 PM
no civilised couple getting married nowadays expect their guest to pay for the wedding... please POG stop winding will ya.
Quote from: cavan4ever on August 19, 2009, 03:22:09 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on August 19, 2009, 03:14:33 PM
cavan, sammy - You two are the ones saying £50 per person is on the mean side as it wuoldnt cover the cost of you being there.
I never said no such thing. Its the whinging about having to give it and maybe giving to much that i have issue with here.
I'm sorry have I you two big shots mixed up with someone else or was it not yous who were saying that I was mean because £50.00 wouldnt cover the cost of me being there?
yeah, ok I hold my hands up, I drive a fat Merc, go to work in a Gucci suit every day, have an exclusive pair of Prada shoes for work, Kurt Geigers for socialising in, nice Tiffany cuff links for double cuff Paul Smith shirts, blah blah blah.... I'm the big shot :D who thinks that £/€50 per person is a little on the tight/mean side for a wedding present - wise up. I say £75, you say £50, no big deal.
Apart from the merc i dont know waht the rest of those brands are ::)
Eh sammy werent u the one saying that if u "only" gave 50 per person ud be as well giving nothing
If any of you were invited to someone's 21st or 30th which seems to be the craze now what would you put in the card?
a little tongue in cheek that tyrone girl, I don't feel that strongly about the fact £50 is a little on the miserly side
;) right - back to closing another multi-million pound deal and taking off Friday for a nice Spa day in Kildare with the missus :D
catch you later wedding lovers
I'm beginning to think tyrone girl is getting married soon and she's just seeing who gives the most money / the some expensive presents, before she sends the invites out. You're a crafty wee hoor TG! ;)
Quote from: ziggysego on August 19, 2009, 03:47:46 PM
I'm beginning to think tyrone girl is getting married soon and she's just seeing who gives the most money / the some expensive presents, before she sends the invites out. You're a crafty wee hoor TG! ;)
Reported.
As regards covering costs, i'm happy to at least cover the additional cost of having me there, basically the meal. I don't give a fcuk about their ice scuptures and chocolate fountains, I didn't order them and would feel no obligation to pay anything towards any of that. As for trying to make money out of your wedding, no chance, as i say, if you get back most of what you've spent on the meals, you're happy, the rest was your own call.
The english do give terrible presents, but, that's their culture and so you can't knock them, interestingly, I was at a spanish wedding there a couple of months ago, the standard gift there is at least €350!!! We gave €200, but, hey, as the english say "that's our culture"!!
What money would be normally given by a best man as a present?
Quote from: hardstation on August 19, 2009, 09:50:54 PM
Quote from: Mid Down Gael on August 19, 2009, 09:48:53 PM
What money would be normally given by a best man as a present?
Feck all. In fact, the best man gets money from the groom to keep stories under his hat.
He knows what he's talking about.
Quote from: Rois on August 17, 2009, 03:09:24 PM
One of my best friends is getting married on 19 Sep. She knows that the ultimate present I could give her would be to miss the AIF if Tyrone were in it the next day (it's a three day wedding affair). Half of me is hoping we get beaten by Cork on Sunday so the decision is made for me.
Can't believe I've just written that.
If ever there was a case of be careful what you wish for ....
Quote from: bcarrier on August 23, 2009, 08:37:18 PM
Quote from: Rois on August 17, 2009, 03:09:24 PM
One of my best friends is getting married on 19 Sep. She knows that the ultimate present I could give her would be to miss the AIF if Tyrone were in it the next day (it's a three day wedding affair). Half of me is hoping we get beaten by Cork on Sunday so the decision is made for me.
Can't believe I've just written that.
If ever there was a case of be careful what you wish for ....
Every cloud Rois.
Ah listen, I even said on Sat night that half of me hoped we'd lose but I take it all back.
Ah well, silver lining is right Tony.
I just heard of someone who got a wedding invitation in the form of a bar of chocolate. Printed on the bar was something along the lines of "open the wrapper and see if you're a winner", so you open the bar and hey presto you get a piece of paper congratulating you because you're invited to the wedding of..........
I swear I'm not making it up.
::)
Quote from: Treasurer on August 31, 2009, 12:44:01 PM
I just heard of someone who got a wedding invitation in the form of a bar of chocolate. Printed on the bar was something along the lines of "open the wrapper and see if you're a winner", so you open the bar and hey presto you get a piece of paper congratulating you because you're invited to the wedding of..........
I swear I'm not making it up.
::)
So Willie finally got a bird. Fair play to him.
Sorry for dragging this up again, I couldn't be bothered trawling through all the posts but thought I'd ask-
I've been invited to a team members wedding-full day. Went on his stag and had every intention of going to the wedding.
Booked a holiday and it means I am going to miss the wedding, I would have given £100 from me and her if I had been going-I would have been paying for it.
Now that I'm not going how much should I give- was thinking £40? That enough considering I'm not even going to be there?
Not a short answer but give whatever you're comfortable with.
This set standards for presents is ridiculous.
Quote from: mikasas on July 07, 2010, 06:28:37 PM
Sorry for dragging this up again, I couldn't be bothered trawling through all the posts but thought I'd ask-
I've been invited to a team members wedding-full day. Went on his stag and had every intention of going to the wedding.
Booked a holiday and it means I am going to miss the wedding, I would have given £100 from me and her if I had been going-I would have been paying for it.
Now that I'm not going how much should I give- was thinking £40? That enough considering I'm not even going to be there?
I'll sum the thread up for you.
Opinion A - 100 quid?! You're a miserable hoor, people expect you to cover their helicopters, string quartets and the like these days (and if possible turn a profit) so a tonne is shy of the mark. 40 quid?! etc. etc.
Opinion B - Give whatever you can comfortably afford. If the bride and groom want all the bells and whistles that's their lookout and shouldn't be expecting the guests to bankroll it.
I'm in Camp B.
Couples who do wedding present lists are the lowest form of gimps if you ask me.
reading through a few of those posts again - funny that one of the "big shots" was crying about having to get his car fixed a few weeks back :D
Quote from: pintsofguinness on July 07, 2010, 09:14:18 PM
reading through a few of those posts again - funny that one of the "big shots" was crying about having to get his car fixed a few weeks back :D
You knob jockey pints. It was not solely about the money with David prentice it was the principle you complete dick, something you would know little about as you clearly lack any. Grow up you little worm.
Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 09:31:40 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on July 07, 2010, 09:14:18 PM
reading through a few of those posts again - funny that one of the "big shots" was crying about having to get his car fixed a few weeks back :D
You knob jockey pints. It was not solely about the money with David prentice it was the principle you complete dick, something you would know little about as you clearly lack any. Grow up you little worm.
Special time of the month?!
Quote from: Tony Baloney on July 07, 2010, 09:36:56 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 09:31:40 PM
Quote from: pintsofguinness on July 07, 2010, 09:14:18 PM
reading through a few of those posts again - funny that one of the "big shots" was crying about having to get his car fixed a few weeks back :D
You knob jockey pints. It was not solely about the money with David prentice it was the principle you complete dick, something you would know little about as you clearly lack any. Grow up you little worm.
Special time of the month?!
No. Merely letting a total plank know what I think. I know what it costs to pay for a wedding meal per head (which I doubt a little jumped up gimp like pints would) and with all due respect to each individual pocket, £20-£30 per person does not go very far, never mind the string quartet, band, supper, cake, etc... on the day itself, now fcuk off you little w@nk pog
For telling someone in no uncertain terms what I think of them after bring goaded by them in the antagonistic fashion that they may think is acceptable? I won't stand for that crap from no-one especially brave keypad warriors hiding behind a silly name
Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 09:55:02 PM
For telling someone in no uncertain terms what I think of them after bring goaded by them in the antagonistic fashion that they may think is acceptable? I won't stand for that crap from no-one especially brave keypad warriors hiding behind a silly name
Do you fail to see the irony ?
Billyboots was right.
Should I send him my mobile via pm and ask him to give me a call to discuss his reasons for his silly goading?
Quote from: hardstation on July 07, 2010, 10:10:58 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 10:03:27 PM
Should I send him my mobile via pm and ask him to give me a call to discuss his reasons for his silly goading?
Why can't you just discuss it on the board or via pm. Why would you need to hear his voice?
It's good to talk. Quicker too and a chance to clear the airich more swiftly ;)
Quote from: hardstation on July 07, 2010, 10:17:41 PM
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Quote from: hardstation on July 07, 2010, 10:10:58 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 10:03:27 PM
Should I send him my mobile via pm and ask him to give me a call to discuss his reasons for his silly goading?
Why can't you just discuss it on the board or via pm. Why would you need to hear his voice?
It's good to talk. Quicker too and a chance to clear the airich more swiftly ;)
Fair point. PM me your mobile number and I'll phone you every Sunday night to discuss the matches.
And stop quoting your posts.
Are you trying to make sammymaguire your bitch?
Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 10:03:27 PM
Should I send him my mobile via pm and ask him to give me a call to discuss his reasons for his silly goading?
What am I goading you about? ???
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Quote from: Tony Baloney on July 07, 2010, 10:23:36 PM
Quote from: hardstation on July 07, 2010, 10:17:41 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 10:13:46 PM
Quote from: hardstation on July 07, 2010, 10:10:58 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 10:03:27 PM
Should I send him my mobile via pm and ask him to give me a call to discuss his reasons for his silly goading?
Why can't you just discuss it on the board or via pm. Why would you need to hear his voice?
It's good to talk. Quicker too and a chance to clear the airich more swiftly ;)
Fair point. PM me your mobile number and I'll phone you every Sunday night to discuss the matches.
And stop quoting your posts.
Are you trying to make sammymaguire your bitch?
Depends how his voice sounds.
He is a Nordie which = rotten accent
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Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 10:13:46 PM
Quote from: hardstation on July 07, 2010, 10:10:58 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 10:03:27 PM
Should I send him my mobile via pm and ask him to give me a call to discuss his reasons for his silly goading?
Why can't you just discuss it on the board or via pm. Why would you need to hear his voice?
It's good to talk. Quicker too and a chance to clear the airich more swiftly ;)
Fair point. PM me your mobile number and I'll phone you every Sunday night to discuss the matches.
And stop quoting your posts.
Are you trying to make sammymaguire your bitch?
Depends how his voice sounds.
He is a Nordie which = rotten accent
I have heard laoisgaa's accent......
There's nothing like a good flat midlands accent..(unless its a Offaly accent...*shudder*)
Quote from: hardstation on July 07, 2010, 10:25:27 PM
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Quote from: hardstation on July 07, 2010, 10:10:58 PM
Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 10:03:27 PM
Should I send him my mobile via pm and ask him to give me a call to discuss his reasons for his silly goading?
Why can't you just discuss it on the board or via pm. Why would you need to hear his voice?
It's good to talk. Quicker too and a chance to clear the airich more swiftly ;)
Fair point. PM me your mobile number and I'll phone you every Sunday night to discuss the matches.
And stop quoting your posts.
Are you trying to make sammymaguire your bitch?
Depends how his voice sounds.
Fermanagh, so you can imagine it won't be as sexy as Minder's north Antrim spake.
Quote from: hardstation on July 07, 2010, 10:25:27 PM
Quote from: Tony Baloney on July 07, 2010, 10:23:36 PM
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Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 10:03:27 PM
Should I send him my mobile via pm and ask him to give me a call to discuss his reasons for his silly goading?
Why can't you just discuss it on the board or via pm. Why would you need to hear his voice?
Dulcit Fermanagh tones from I :-*
It's good to talk. Quicker too and a chance to clear the airich more swiftly ;).
Fair point. PM me your mobile number and I'll phone you every Sunday night to discuss the matches.
And stop quoting your posts.
Are you trying to make sammymaguire your bitch?
Depends how his voice sounds.
Dulcit Fermanagh tones from I :-*
Quote from: hardstation on July 07, 2010, 09:58:52 PM
None as silly as yours, ardmachaabu.
I didn't comment on anyone's username you pedantic so-and-so :D
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Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 10:03:27 PM
Should I send him my mobile via pm and ask him to give me a call to discuss his reasons for his silly goading?
Why can't you just discuss it on the board or via pm. Why would you need to hear his voice?
It's good to talk. Quicker too and a chance to clear the airich more swiftly ;)
Fair point. PM me your mobile number and I'll phone you every Sunday night to discuss the matches.
And stop quoting your posts.
Are you trying to make sammymaguire your bitch?
Depends how his voice sounds.
Fermanagh, so you can imagine it won't be as sexy as Minder's north Antrim spake.
There do be boards singing in trees in Fermanagh, or so I am told
Hardly opened a can of worms there did I?
Any more actual help as to what I should do?
£50 just sounds so much more than £40 doesn't it?
Quote from: mikasas on July 07, 2010, 10:47:12 PM
Hardly opened a can of worms there did I?
Any more actual help as to what I should do?
£50 just sounds so much more than £40 doesn't it?
Yeah it sounds about a £10 more
How's you mikasa?? You from armagh too? If you can get your hands on a fifty quid note I am sure the happy couple would be delighted with that gift
Quote from: mikasas on July 07, 2010, 10:47:12 PM
Hardly opened a can of worms there did I?
Any more actual help as to what I should do?
£50 just sounds so much more than £40 doesn't it?
We're better at problems than solutions and questions than answers round these parts.
Any **** turning their nose up at 50 quid for a wedding you didn't go to isn't worth the bother imo. They can just cancel the meal.
I was supposed to go to a wedding last Sat but had to cancel as the youngest was sick so I'll pay the full whack.
The whole wedding racket does my head in. Though it does stimulate the imagination in trying to figure out ways of getting in on the action where people are so willing to lash out huge wodges of moolah for no perceptible benefit.
I reckon if I were to package a bit of software we do for network management as a "wedding special" in a white cover with bells and stuff and send out brochures to those wedding shows they have with stuff like "your wedding won't be complete without it " and "don't be the bridesmaid" and "you don't want your guests to be disappointed on your big day" I could sell it for a couple of grand a wedding and they wouldn't even ask what it was. Just suggest they have to put a CD on every plate - it's the hot new wedding thing.
Anyway, about payments presents - if you're worried about the perceived value of your "present" (aren't presents supposed to be spontaneous tokens of regard?) give them something they won't know and can't calculate the value of.
If you hold the couple in genuine esteem and would like to make a slight sacrifice to express your regard for them, but wouldn't want it to be defiled with a price label, commission a piece of art for as much as you can afford.
If, as in your case, you just want to get away with as little as possible, but don't want them to know that, buy a painting for 20 quid on Stephens Green on a Sunday morning. If you really want them to be impressed, and get maximum gratitude payoff for your investment, leave the price label on it but add a zero to it.
Quote from: sammymaguire on July 07, 2010, 10:52:17 PM
How's you mikasa?? You from armagh too? If you can get your hands on a fifty quid note I am sure the happy couple would be delighted with that gift
Think the £50 note would be something I hold onto myself! Not an Armagh man but have plenty of connections there.
what would be standard for an evening do? have a couple coming up over the next few days
Quote from: charlie stubbs on December 29, 2010, 03:14:46 PM
what would be standard for an evening do? have a couple coming up over the next few days
About a grand if you're sammymaguire, 30-50 if you're anyone else.
Quote from: charlie stubbs on December 29, 2010, 03:14:46 PM
what would be standard for an evening do? have a couple coming up over the next few days
Standard for an evening do?
If you're a male, get blocked and horse as many cocktail sausages as you can into ya.
If you're a female, spend the evening investigating those who got invited to the full day and figuring out why they got preference ahead of you.
Going to an evening do on New Year's Day and going to give £50.
ok, this topic hasn't come up in 9 years when £50 seemed to be the rate! What would be the story nowdays: cash wise , both attending and NOT going to the wedding?
Or even value of gift? Cheers
If you're invited to the whole Wedding whether you're going to the ceremony or not we give £200.
Evening do - £50 and I don't go to it.
Depending on who it is £150/£200 for full day if going and £50 if not going.
Evening reception £50 if going and a toaster/bundle of towels/bed sheets if not going
Quote from: Taylor on August 08, 2019, 10:31:50 AM
Depending on who it is £150/£200 for full day if going and £50 if not going.
Evening reception £50 if going and a toaster/bundle of towels/bed sheets if not going
Have never went to an evening reception, never had one at mine either, they are just an excuse for a few more quid.
Anyone invited? Maybe for the WTF thread
https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/weird-news/outraged-bride-calls-wedding-slams-13141996
Made up.
Quote from: t_mac on August 08, 2019, 10:47:50 AM
Quote from: Taylor on August 08, 2019, 10:31:50 AM
Depending on who it is £150/£200 for full day if going and £50 if not going.
Evening reception £50 if going and a toaster/bundle of towels/bed sheets if not going
Have never went to an evening reception, never had one at mine either, they are just an excuse for a few more quid.
Exactly anyone who has an evening reception or invites you to one isn't someone you want to know. £50 and tell them to delete your number.
Quote from: trailer on August 08, 2019, 10:57:20 AM
Quote from: t_mac on August 08, 2019, 10:47:50 AM
Quote from: Taylor on August 08, 2019, 10:31:50 AM
Depending on who it is £150/£200 for full day if going and £50 if not going.
Evening reception £50 if going and a toaster/bundle of towels/bed sheets if not going
Have never went to an evening reception, never had one at mine either, they are just an excuse for a few more quid.
Exactly anyone who has an evening reception or invites you to one isn't someone you want to know. £50 and tell them to delete your number.
Some chance, I wouldn't even reply.
Quote from: t_mac on August 08, 2019, 11:25:20 AM
Quote from: trailer on August 08, 2019, 10:57:20 AM
Quote from: t_mac on August 08, 2019, 10:47:50 AM
Quote from: Taylor on August 08, 2019, 10:31:50 AM
Depending on who it is £150/£200 for full day if going and £50 if not going.
Evening reception £50 if going and a toaster/bundle of towels/bed sheets if not going
Have never went to an evening reception, never had one at mine either, they are just an excuse for a few more quid.
Exactly anyone who has an evening reception or invites you to one isn't someone you want to know. £50 and tell them to delete your number.
Some chance, I wouldn't even reply.
who in their right mind would give money to something they don't attend ::) madness
Quote from: Mikhail Prokhorov on August 08, 2019, 12:36:46 PM
Quote from: t_mac on August 08, 2019, 11:25:20 AM
Quote from: trailer on August 08, 2019, 10:57:20 AM
Quote from: t_mac on August 08, 2019, 10:47:50 AM
Quote from: Taylor on August 08, 2019, 10:31:50 AM
Depending on who it is £150/£200 for full day if going and £50 if not going.
Evening reception £50 if going and a toaster/bundle of towels/bed sheets if not going
Have never went to an evening reception, never had one at mine either, they are just an excuse for a few more quid.
Exactly anyone who has an evening reception or invites you to one isn't someone you want to know. £50 and tell them to delete your number.
Some chance, I wouldn't even reply.
who in their right mind would give money to something they don't attend ::) madness
Tight hole
Quote from: trailer on August 08, 2019, 12:37:43 PM
Quote from: Mikhail Prokhorov on August 08, 2019, 12:36:46 PM
Quote from: t_mac on August 08, 2019, 11:25:20 AM
Quote from: trailer on August 08, 2019, 10:57:20 AM
Quote from: t_mac on August 08, 2019, 10:47:50 AM
Quote from: Taylor on August 08, 2019, 10:31:50 AM
Depending on who it is £150/£200 for full day if going and £50 if not going.
Evening reception £50 if going and a toaster/bundle of towels/bed sheets if not going
Have never went to an evening reception, never had one at mine either, they are just an excuse for a few more quid.
Exactly anyone who has an evening reception or invites you to one isn't someone you want to know. £50 and tell them to delete your number.
Some chance, I wouldn't even reply.
who in their right mind would give money to something they don't attend ::) madness
Tight hole
not tight, just poor :'(
The cost of wedding presents is pure madness these days.
Most couples live together and have a fully furnished house, unlike years ago.
Then some last a few years together, and then they marry again and you're out another fortune.