Depression

Started by Eamonnca1, October 25, 2013, 09:11:55 PM

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muppet

Dunno if it counts for anything, but you wold have the goodwill of everyone here. If you haven't already done it you should read the thread from the start. Some great honest posts to go along with your own.
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Red Hand Man

Thank you muppet, and everyone else.

seafoid

Quote from: Red Hand Man on October 01, 2016, 01:35:10 PM
I seem to have no coping mechanism for when things go wrong.

I can trundle along for weeks feeling as though I'm approaching "normality".  Then something adverse happens, and it completely floors me.

When most people get out of work on a Friday evening, they are walking with a spring in their step.

I spent 90 minutes driving aimlessly, before finding myself at the side of some deep water.  In my heart of hearts I knew I wasn't going to kill myself there and then.  However, the fact that I sat there and thought about it, actually consciously mulled over the affect it would have in people, scared the life out of me.

Someone mentioned to abstain from alcohol.  Without a bottle of red wine last night I wouldn't have slept.

Truth be told I'm in a f**king mess.
The depression will get better.
Could you maybe talk with a professional when you are feeling better about what stuff needs to be worked on so you don't fall back into the situation ?
"f**k it, just score"- Donaghy   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IbxG2WwVRjU

Main Street

Thanks for that repost Fionn of your experiences.

One part of what's written is about a commonly held belief,  about "being too cowardly to try it (suicide) with any expectation of success."
Of course, cowardice or bravery has nothing to do with serious  attempts  or non attempts to do the deed, but I suppose what matters is the perception that it has.
On the other hand there are the rebukes by the misinformed that suicide is the coward's way out.

Red Hand Man

The greatest dichotomy in this world in my opinion is the thought process of a suicidal person.

To kill yourself is running away. Cowardly some might say.

But to end it takes balls, no?

Mickey Linden

Red hand, please talk to someone. Posting on here is a positive step. I've no clue about anything really and just flicked on this page by acciden but I felt
The need to say something. Hope it all gets better for u soon. Seems to be seriously good advice on previous pages here.

muppet

Quote from: Red Hand Man on October 01, 2016, 10:19:10 PM
The greatest dichotomy in this world in my opinion is the thought process of a suicidal person.

To kill yourself is running away. Cowardly some might say.

But to end it takes balls, no?

I don't like language like 'cowardly' and 'balls' etc in this conversation.

All I know is that if I ever did 'end it' in the past, when I couldn't figure things out, I would have missed the best days of my life, most of which I never saw coming.


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Jell 0 Biafra

Quote from: Red Hand Man on October 01, 2016, 10:19:10 PM
The greatest dichotomy in this world in my opinion is the thought process of a suicidal person.

To kill yourself is running away. Cowardly some might say.

But to end it takes balls, no?

Get help.  As soon as you can. 

I'm speaking from my own personal experience, and that of family members, when I say it helps. If you're having as hard a time as you describe,  little else other than professional help will help you through. 

Itchy

Quote from: Red Hand Man on October 01, 2016, 10:19:10 PM
The greatest dichotomy in this world in my opinion is the thought process of a suicidal person.

To kill yourself is running away. Cowardly some might say.

But to end it takes balls, no?

I know nothing about being depressed or whether someone who commits suicide is brave or is a coward. I do however know what's left behind when someone does commit suicide. More than one life is ended in many cases. Don't look for answers here, get professional help now.

johnneycool

Quote from: Red Hand Man on October 01, 2016, 01:44:26 PM
Thank you muppet, and everyone else.

I know SFA about depression other than my Da having the odd bout of it, but what I do know is that you're mentally much stronger than you give yourself credit for.
I know I couldn't open up like you have but do seek professional help as you and your inner circle of friends and family have too much to lose otherwise.

Denn Forever

I have more respect for a man
that says what he means and
means what he says...

Walter Cronc

Lost a good friend to suicide whilst at university. Absolutely floored myself and the other flatmates. Took me years to get over it really. The impact on the immediate and wider family circle is huge Red Hand Man. Have a word with someone fella, you are not alone!

seafoid

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DL7-CKirWZE
But when the night is falling
And you cannot find the light
If you feel your dream is dying
Hold tight
You've got the music in you
Don't let go

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DS0hSP-3U14
If there's something inside that you wanna say
Say it alright it'll be okay
I will be your light, I will be your light

Depression is a bitch but no pain is forever
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s2LYuRzF-c8
"f**k it, just score"- Donaghy   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IbxG2WwVRjU

seafoid

Suicidal thoughts are a symptom of depression. Reality is switched off and something else takes its place.  I don't think suicide is rational . Depression tells people it is.
"f**k it, just score"- Donaghy   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IbxG2WwVRjU

seafoid

"f**k it, just score"- Donaghy   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IbxG2WwVRjU