Started by Eamonnca1, October 25, 2013, 09:11:55 PM
Quote from: tbrick18 on March 14, 2023, 12:42:31 PMThanks for all the messages chaps, it does help tbh.I've mentioned the Van Gogh exhibit and he'd love to go to that so must get it planned in.He also likes the idea of a tour down the west. We have friend who hires out a camper, I suggested we take it for a long weekend and just head off. Mixed response but I think it would be a good option myself.Covid lockdown definitely affected my kids. During lockdown one of my kids was coming to the end of P7, this wee lad was in 1st year and our oldest was in 4th year. This is when they form relationships and friend groups and that was all missed. We also suspect our lad might be struggling with his sexuality - but no real evidence to this other than that his friends are almost all girls. Its one of those ones where that could be because he has so much anxiety he can't relate to typical teen boy behaviour, or it could be because he might think he's gay. We would always make sure all of our kids know we'd have no issues with anything like that (and in fact one of his mums Sister's is gay and lives with her partner), but I don't think it would help him if we confronted him about it either.He used to play football at under age, was a decent wee player but that has all gone now.I managed to get him to start going to golf lessons with a wee lad who he went to primary with (now at a different school). He actually played at a school tournament last week. I know the teacher in the school who runs it and I explained the craic to him and he persuaded him to go. Think he was awful, but he actually enjoyed it. So perhaps that's an outside interest to keep the head clear. He loves getting to the Derry matches (even the odd Tyrone match), but the night we found him cutting was after the mckenna cup final. He was in really good form that night on the way home, then he went to his room and cut himself. All we can do is be there for him, try to get him all the help we can and hope we can get him through it what ever way we can.
Quote from: Eamonnca1 on March 15, 2023, 07:42:49 AMTrying something new has always helped me. There's something about learning a new skill that I find liberating. Making new connections in your brain must have some physical effect. I once took up violin lessons just for the hell of it, and I always fancied giving it a go. Absolutely loved it. Helped to take my mind off more stressful matters since it requires a bit of concentration. Any music-related activity will do that. Dance is another. When I'm in a dance lesson I'm laser-focused on the activity. Gives my mind a break from all the other stuff going on.
Quote from: tbrick18 on March 12, 2023, 10:45:39 AMMy eldest daugther is away at the moment on a ski trip from school and he'd love to do it. I told him he could go next year when he's eligible but he doesnt want to go away with the school. Says he'd want to do it as a family holiday. So I'm looking into taking him somewhere for a few days, just the two of us as we already have a family holiday booked for the north coast come summer.
Quote from: paddyjohn on June 27, 2023, 10:12:15 PMThings have taken a turn for the worst here. Work, home life and the illness of a close friend has really knocked me back on my heels totally. Things will get better but at the minute it's hard to see that happening.