Evening all.
I've been single for about 6 months now, 35 years old and I'm ready to move on. I've always found it difficult to meet the right type of girl in a pub/club so seriously considering the world of online dating.
Has anyone got any tips on the below topics and beyond these? Any help would be brilliant!
* Photos. Obviously vital but what type of photos? How many?
* Bio. Blank? Short but sweet? Deep and meaningful? Pure humour? If anyone has written a good bio don't be shy on posting it here lol
* Which apps/sites are best in Ireland? I assume paying monthly will give better results.
* Opening line advice for matches. Presumably most ladies are not going to want a generic "Hey, how are you?"
This world is completely new to me and a bit daunting tbh
Personally wouldn't go near them...
Gym
Work
Club
Friends
Surely these places automatically get you aquatinted and you'll know they ain't lying in their online set ups?
That you Nikki
If you say you like GAA, the website algorithm will work it's magic. There may be a dislike Armagh/Tyrone option inbuilt.
Quote from: Emmett on June 28, 2022, 11:01:18 PM
Evening all.
I've been single for about 6 months now, 35 years old and I'm ready to move on. I've always found it difficult to meet the right type of girl in a pub/club so seriously considering the world of online dating.
Has anyone got any tips on the below topics and beyond these? Any help would be brilliant!
* Photos. Obviously vital but what type of photos? How many?
* Bio. Blank? Short but sweet? Deep and meaningful? Pure humour? If anyone has written a good bio don't be shy on posting it here lol
* Which apps/sites are best in Ireland? I assume paying monthly will give better results.
* Opening line advice for matches. Presumably most ladies are not going to want a generic "Hey, how are you?"
This world is completely new to me and a bit daunting tbh
I don't know what kind of ladies you've been frequenting but that's the tried and trusted start to a conversation, it's the follow up questions that matter.
Be interested in her, listen to what she has to say about herself and it's not about you trying to make an impression. I haven't a scooby about online dating though, a friend was doing a yoga class and let me enroll, 12 women plus me and they're all open and friendly. That would be a good place to start ;D ,
The new "How u doing " line is now replaced by sending a Dick pic. That's how tinder works
Quote from: Emmett on June 28, 2022, 11:01:18 PM
Evening all.
I've been single for about 6 months now, 35 years old and I'm ready to move on. I've always found it difficult to meet the right type of girl in a pub/club so seriously considering the world of online dating.
Has anyone got any tips on the below topics and beyond these? Any help would be brilliant!
* Photos. Obviously vital but what type of photos? How many?
* Bio. Blank? Short but sweet? Deep and meaningful? Pure humour? If anyone has written a good bio don't be shy on posting it here lol
* Which apps/sites are best in Ireland? I assume paying monthly will give better results.
* Opening line advice for matches. Presumably most ladies are not going to want a generic "Hey, how are you?"
This world is completely new to me and a bit daunting tbh
My only advice is to be yourself. Good luck.
I forgot to add.... Being in a relationship is overrated ;D
Get yourself the best companion, a dog
Have used them before. Came out of a relationship a while ago and just back on them myself. They suck
Tinder and Bumble are the two main apps - Bumble probably the better of the two for the authentic profiles
At the end of the day using the apps is another alternative to potentially meeting someone. There used to be a stigma attached with these things years ago but nowadays anyone who has been single at some point has used them (they are a necessary evil almost lol) Just try to find a few decent pics of yourself in a group or looking smart in a suit and make the effort to write abit of a bio - very easy to tell who is on the apps for genuine reasons and who is only on for the self esteem boost.
You'll soon realise that plenty of people you know are using them!
Tinder is a whole riding match. Bumble probably more geared towards people more serious about a relationship.
Like someone has already said, just be yourself. No point using 10 year old pictures, lying about your interests or trying to make yourself out to be something you're not.
Another bit of advice is stay clear of women who only show photos from the neck up.
Quote from: general_lee on June 29, 2022, 10:38:34 AM
Tinder is a whole riding match. Bumble probably more geared towards people more serious about a relationship.
Like someone has already said, just be yourself. No point using 10 year old pictures, lying about your interests or trying to make yourself out to be something you're not.
Another bit of advice is stay clear of women who only show photos from the neck up.
Would they pose a challenge to the suspension on the General Lee?
Quote from: general_lee on June 29, 2022, 10:38:34 AM
Tinder is a whole riding match. Bumble probably more geared towards people more serious about a relationship.
Like someone has already said, just be yourself. No point using 10 year old pictures, lying about your interests or trying to make yourself out to be something you're not.
Another bit of advice is stay clear of women who only show photos from the neck up.
And people who have more than one person in their pic. That's a game of Russian roulette you don't want to risk.
Wild hard on the online.
I came out of 15 year marriage about 7 years ago now. It was scary for a late 30's man staring into the dating world with completely different ways than I had before. I dipped in and out, had a few short relationships/acquaintances, tried the 'traditional' way, and then went properly at it about this time 4 years ago. I got my profile pictures recent, didn't take myself too serious, was honest, and respectful. If you have a nice dog that worked wonders for me....
Bumble was very good and I met a number of lovely women on it but Tinder is only a riding fest if that's what you want. You can tell from early on what the attitude of the other person is and can cut through the bullshit quickly. Ironically I matched with someone who I admired from a far but never had the balls to approach. It's pretty well known and we are pretty open about the fact that we met online. As she is a public figure it's something she has talked about openly. We are getting married next year so it works. Just be yourself and don't be an asshole. There's plenty of deadly women out there who simply don't have the time and also want to cut through the BS
Quote from: brokencrossbar1 on June 29, 2022, 11:39:26 AM
Wild hard on the online.
I came out of 15 year marriage about 7 years ago now. It was scary for a late 30's man staring into the dating world with completely different ways than I had before. I dipped in and out, had a few short relationships/acquaintances, tried the 'traditional' way, and then went properly at it about this time 4 years ago. I got my profile pictures recent, didn't take myself too serious, was honest, and respectful. If you have a nice dog that worked wonders for me....
Bumble was very good and I met a number of lovely women on it but Tinder is only a riding fest if that's what you want. You can tell from early on what the attitude of the other person is and can cut through the bullshit quickly. Ironically I matched with someone who I admired from a far but never had the balls to approach. It's pretty well known and we are pretty open about the fact that we met online. As she is a public figure it's something she has talked about openly. We are getting married next year so it works. Just be yourself and don't be an asshole. There's plenty of deadly women out there who simply don't have the time and also want to cut through the BS
Quote from: Milltown Row2 on June 29, 2022, 08:37:23 AM
I forgot to add.... Being in a relationship is overrated ;D
Get yourself the best companion, a dog
Sorry I didn't get this information to you sooner lol!!
I know this thread isnt going the way OP intended to but we need to know who this public figure is Bcb1 😉😉
Once we do then we can get back to the original query 😎
Quote from: quit yo jibbajabba on June 29, 2022, 12:46:28 PM
I know this thread isnt going the way OP intended to but we need to know who this public figure is Bcb1 😉😉
Once we do then we can get back to the original query 😎
@quit yo jibbajabba, quit yo jibbajabba 8)
Quote from: brokencrossbar1 on June 29, 2022, 12:57:06 PM
Quote from: quit yo jibbajabba on June 29, 2022, 12:46:28 PM
I know this thread isnt going the way OP intended to but we need to know who this public figure is Bcb1 😉😉
Once we do then we can get back to the original query 😎
@quit yo jibbajabba, quit yo jibbajabba 8)
GAABOARD guess who coming!. I'll start for 10. Does she wear glasses?
Quote from: Jeepers Creepers on June 29, 2022, 01:01:42 PM
Quote from: brokencrossbar1 on June 29, 2022, 12:57:06 PM
Quote from: quit yo jibbajabba on June 29, 2022, 12:46:28 PM
I know this thread isnt going the way OP intended to but we need to know who this public figure is Bcb1 😉😉
Once we do then we can get back to the original query 😎
@quit yo jibbajabba, quit yo jibbajabba 8)
GAABOARD guess who coming!. I'll start for 10. Does she wear glasses?
Does she have dark hair?
Kids loved guess who
Im also more interested in seeing if we are invited to the wedding 😉
But until he gives more info we'll just say its Pamela Ballentine, aiite
(Apols to OP again)
None of you f**kers are going to the wedding....
May McFettridge?
Quote from: quit yo jibbajabba on June 29, 2022, 01:08:27 PM
Im also more interested in seeing if we are invited to the wedding 😉
But until he gives more info we'll just say its Pamela Ballentine, aiite
(Apols to OP again)
That's a thread on its own!
How has everyone missed this? I'm sure a fair few of us on here know.
Rois youre not helping! 😉😃
Unless your secrecy has been bought by a wedding invite?
Rose Neill? Julian Simmons?
Without knowing the other party ill still say bcb1 is punching 😃
Quote from: Rois on June 29, 2022, 01:17:37 PM
How has everyone missed this? I'm sure a fair few of us on here know.
Some people are playing the fool Rois!!!
Quote from: quit yo jibbajabba on June 29, 2022, 01:21:40 PM
Rois youre not helping! 😉😃
Unless your secrecy has been bought by a wedding invite?
Rose Neill? Julian Simmons?
Without knowing the other party ill still say bcb1 is punching 😃
Goes without saying that I'm punching!!!
"Leading NI solicitor punching on and off the pitch these days"
Ill google the Corrs just on the off chance.
May make a visit to me dentists, leaf through some Ulster Tatlers
Quote from: quit yo jibbajabba on June 29, 2022, 01:28:01 PM
"Leading NI solicitor punching on and off the pitch these days"
Ill google the Corrs just on the off chance.
May make a visit to me dentists, leaf through some Ulster Tatlers
You'd be better off leading through the Irish News!!!
Got there 😎
Just to confirm, he is punchin. And hes a soppy shite 😉
Congrats chap 😃
Now, lets get the OP sorted 😊
Quote from: brokencrossbar1 on June 29, 2022, 01:31:28 PM
Quote from: quit yo jibbajabba on June 29, 2022, 01:28:01 PM
"Leading NI solicitor punching on and off the pitch these days"
Ill google the Corrs just on the off chance.
May make a visit to me dentists, leaf through some Ulster Tatlers
You'd be better off leading through the Irish News!!!
Had her down as a Tyrone Woman, but sure we all have our faults...
Gloria Hunniford?
Not that would but it would have to be a serious operator to get me down the aisle...
Donna Traynor?
Quote from: Rois on June 29, 2022, 01:17:37 PM
How has everyone missed this? I'm sure a fair few of us on here know.
Sure you couldn't have missed him looking lovingly into <insert name's> eyes! ;D
It was the naked photo of BC with the Andy Merrigan replica covering his modesty that sealed the deal.
Quote from: Emmett on June 28, 2022, 11:01:18 PM
Evening all.
I've been single for about 6 months now, 35 years old and I'm ready to move on. I've always found it difficult to meet the right type of girl in a pub/club so seriously considering the world of online dating.
Has anyone got any tips on the below topics and beyond these? Any help would be brilliant!
* Photos. Obviously vital but what type of photos? How many?
* Bio. Blank? Short but sweet? Deep and meaningful? Pure humour? If anyone has written a good bio don't be shy on posting it here lol
* Which apps/sites are best in Ireland? I assume paying monthly will give better results.
* Opening line advice for matches. Presumably most ladies are not going to want a generic "Hey, how are you?"
This world is completely new to me and a bit daunting tbh
I know a few people who have been successful with online dating resulting in marriage etc.
As others have said there is no point putting up a photo from years ago and pretending you are something you aren't as it all backfires when you meet up. Just be honest.
If you google how to create best online dating bio there will no doubt be plenty of articles on how to market yourself. I'd send you a link but I'm afraid of the missus checking my google searches :D
Quote from: Tony Baloney on June 29, 2022, 01:58:21 PM
Quote from: Rois on June 29, 2022, 01:17:37 PM
How has everyone missed this? I'm sure a fair few of us on here know.
Sure you couldn't have missed him looking lovingly into <insert name's> eyes! ;D
It was the naked photo of BC with the Andy Merrigan replica covering his modesty that sealed the deal.
;D
Best advice is don't get too bogged down in messaging! Few txts, if going well meet for a coffee/ drink. You don't need pen friends.
Quote from: brokencrossbar1 on June 29, 2022, 02:19:25 PM
Quote from: Tony Baloney on June 29, 2022, 01:58:21 PM
Quote from: Rois on June 29, 2022, 01:17:37 PM
How has everyone missed this? I'm sure a fair few of us on here know.
Sure you couldn't have missed him looking lovingly into <insert name's> eyes! ;D
It was the naked photo of BC with the Andy Merrigan replica covering his modesty that sealed the deal.
;D
I heard it was the medal he got for winning it rather than a replica of the trophy tbh
Quote from: quit yo jibbajabba on June 29, 2022, 02:34:13 PM
Quote from: brokencrossbar1 on June 29, 2022, 02:19:25 PM
Quote from: Tony Baloney on June 29, 2022, 01:58:21 PM
Quote from: Rois on June 29, 2022, 01:17:37 PM
How has everyone missed this? I'm sure a fair few of us on here know.
Sure you couldn't have missed him looking lovingly into <insert name's> eyes! ;D
It was the naked photo of BC with the Andy Merrigan replica covering his modesty that sealed the deal.
;D
I heard it was the medal he got for winning it rather than a replica of the trophy tbh
;D
I was at a wedding about eight years ago where they met on world of Warcraft online. Married with two or three kids now.
Quote from: brokencrossbar1 on June 29, 2022, 11:39:26 AM
There's plenty of deadly women out there who simply don't have the time and also want to cut through the BS
Very true
Know a few boring individuals that have castigated people for meeting their +1 online, not easy being perfect I'd say
Quote from: imtommygunn on June 29, 2022, 03:17:23 PM
I was at a wedding about eight years ago where they met on world of Warcraft online. Married with two or three kids now.
Warcraft!! Christ I'm sure it wasn't your typical wedding attire
Quote from: Rois on June 29, 2022, 01:17:37 PM
How has everyone missed this? I'm sure a fair few of us on here know.
Is is someone from Strabane ?
Quote from: Milltown Row2 on June 29, 2022, 03:36:26 PM
Quote from: imtommygunn on June 29, 2022, 03:17:23 PM
I was at a wedding about eight years ago where they met on world of Warcraft online. Married with two or three kids now.
Warcraft!! Christ I'm sure it wasn't your typical wedding attire
I wasn't sure what I was in for (wife's friends) but they were two down to earth decent people. None of that dressing up or I'd have had something else on that day lol.
Used to be a stigma with the online but standard enough now which is good. I do wonder how online dating worked during lockdown...
Met a woman on POF one time who was using her daughter's pic as her profile. The Da must have been a good looking fella is all I'm saying.
Quote from: imtommygunn on June 29, 2022, 03:56:36 PM
Quote from: Milltown Row2 on June 29, 2022, 03:36:26 PM
Quote from: imtommygunn on June 29, 2022, 03:17:23 PM
I was at a wedding about eight years ago where they met on world of Warcraft online. Married with two or three kids now.
Warcraft!! Christ I'm sure it wasn't your typical wedding attire
I wasn't sure what I was in for (wife's friends) but they were two down to earth decent people. None of that dressing up or I'd have had something else on that day lol.
Used to be a stigma with the online but standard enough now which is good. I do wonder how online dating worked during lockdown...
I'd a few friends on Match.com, would have thought that looked more sensible that Plenty of fish and Tinder!?
Quote from: trueblue1234 on June 29, 2022, 02:24:02 PM
Best advice is don't get too bogged down in messaging! Few txts, if going well meet for a coffee/ drink. You don't need pen friends.
Agree with this. If you're getting a good vibe after a few messages then just ask them out for a coffee or whatever. In my experience if a woman is flaky about meeting or giving it the whole 'I'd rather chat for abit first' then they have really no intention in meeting at all - they're just on the apps for the wee ego boost or they're still pining after an ex who dumped them 5 years ago lol (works both ways too I'm sure).
If you can also hold a conversation then you're already doing a helluva lot better than 90% of the blokes on the app.
Just don't say you went to the 'school of hard knocks' lol
Quote from: tintin25 on June 29, 2022, 04:44:33 PM
Quote from: trueblue1234 on June 29, 2022, 02:24:02 PM
Best advice is don't get too bogged down in messaging! Few txts, if going well meet for a coffee/ drink. You don't need pen friends.
Agree with this. If you're getting a good vibe after a few messages then just ask them out for a coffee or whatever. In my experience if a woman is flaky about meeting or giving it the whole 'I'd rather chat for abit first' then they have really no intention in meeting at all - they're just on the apps for the wee ego boost or they're still pining after an ex who dumped them 5 years ago lol (works both ways too I'm sure).
If you can also hold a conversation then you're already doing a helluva lot better than 90% of the blokes on the app.
Just don't say you went to the 'school of hard knocks' lol
Or the University of life!
Quote from: brokencrossbar1 on June 29, 2022, 04:46:43 PM
Quote from: tintin25 on June 29, 2022, 04:44:33 PM
Quote from: trueblue1234 on June 29, 2022, 02:24:02 PM
Best advice is don't get too bogged down in messaging! Few txts, if going well meet for a coffee/ drink. You don't need pen friends.
Agree with this. If you're getting a good vibe after a few messages then just ask them out for a coffee or whatever. In my experience if a woman is flaky about meeting or giving it the whole 'I'd rather chat for abit first' then they have really no intention in meeting at all - they're just on the apps for the wee ego boost or they're still pining after an ex who dumped them 5 years ago lol (works both ways too I'm sure).
If you can also hold a conversation then you're already doing a helluva lot better than 90% of the blokes on the app.
Just don't say you went to the 'school of hard knocks' lol
Or the University of life!
That too!
I am an 'incel' (Involuntary celibate aka life long bachelor in Irish terms). You may have heard about people like me from the radical left media, I was actually banned from Reddit Ireland for trying to start a discussion on Irish incels so that shows you how we are treated. Reddit have banned all our forums at this stage.
Anyway, in the worldwide incel forum I occasionally use there are countless "Tinder experiments" when ugly men use a fake photo of a tall handsome man and the way these men get treated is unbearable to watch. These men can get away with anything, they can get away with being racist, being misogynistic, being unemployed,etc and women will still fawn over them. This isn't just in USA, there have been experiments carried out everywhere. I carried out an experiment on Tinder in 2019 with a photo of a chizeled jawed hunk and the matches came rolling in. They were a bit more reserved than the American and English women to be fair but I still managed to find a few wild girls who would have met up with this fake hunk. I don't do experiments any more as is it bad for your mental health seeing what some men's lives are like on easy mode.
For any aging bachelor's I would recommend the MGTOW community (Men going their own way). If you Google it there are a lot of groups for men who have given up on women because of divorce settlements and bad experiences with them cheating. This is an ever growing group around the world. The radical left still hate them but not as much as they hate incels. Incels only get a bad name because there have been a few shootings attached to the community but realistically incels are peaceful. There are very very few incels in prison which sums up my point, we are not the bad guys, the normal people are the ones to watch.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VPaaIqSi-pE
Quote from: Loughshore2022 on June 29, 2022, 05:41:32 PM
I am an 'incel' (Involuntary celibate aka life long bachelor in Irish terms). You may have heard about people like me from the radical left media, I was actually banned from Reddit Ireland for trying to start a discussion on Irish incels so that shows you how we are treated. Reddit have banned all our forums at this stage.
Anyway, in the worldwide incel forum I occasionally use there are countless "Tinder experiments" when ugly men use a fake photo of a tall handsome man and the way these men get treated is unbearable to watch. These men can get away with anything, they can get away with being racist, being misogynistic, being unemployed,etc and women will still fawn over them. This isn't just in USA, there have been experiments carried out everywhere. I carried out an experiment on Tinder in 2019 with a photo of a chizeled jawed hunk and the matches came rolling in. They were a bit more reserved than the American and English women to be fair but I still managed to find a few wild girls who would have met up with this fake hunk. I don't do experiments any more as is it bad for your mental health seeing what some men's lives are like on easy mode.
For any aging bachelor's I would recommend the MGTOW community (Men going their own way). If you Google it there are a lot of groups for men who have given up on women because of divorce settlements and bad experiences with them cheating. This is an ever growing group around the world. The radical left still hate them but not as much as they hate incels. Incels only get a bad name because there have been a few shootings attached to the community but realistically incels are peaceful. There are very very few incels in prison which sums up my point, we are not the bad guys, the normal people are the ones to watch.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VPaaIqSi-pE
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
Just keep it simple
Homeowner
Six figure salary
Exercise most days
Love animals
Non smoker
Love eating out
Travels a lot
Generous nature
Enjoys a good night in watching Love Actually
Hung like a donkey
That should spark some interest
Quote from: Loughshore2022 on June 29, 2022, 05:41:32 PM
I am an 'incel' (Involuntary celibate aka life long bachelor in Irish terms). You may have heard about people like me from the radical left media, I was actually banned from Reddit Ireland for trying to start a discussion on Irish incels so that shows you how we are treated. Reddit have banned all our forums at this stage.
Anyway, in the worldwide incel forum I occasionally use there are countless "Tinder experiments" when ugly men use a fake photo of a tall handsome man and the way these men get treated is unbearable to watch. These men can get away with anything, they can get away with being racist, being misogynistic, being unemployed,etc and women will still fawn over them. This isn't just in USA, there have been experiments carried out everywhere. I carried out an experiment on Tinder in 2019 with a photo of a chizeled jawed hunk and the matches came rolling in. They were a bit more reserved than the American and English women to be fair but I still managed to find a few wild girls who would have met up with this fake hunk. I don't do experiments any more as is it bad for your mental health seeing what some men's lives are like on easy mode.
For any aging bachelor's I would recommend the MGTOW community (Men going their own way). If you Google it there are a lot of groups for men who have given up on women because of divorce settlements and bad experiences with them cheating. This is an ever growing group around the world. The radical left still hate them but not as much as they hate incels. Incels only get a bad name because there have been a few shootings attached to the community but realistically incels are peaceful. There are very very few incels in prison which sums up my point, we are not the bad guys, the normal people are the ones to watch.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VPaaIqSi-pE
Welcome back Angelo
Someone I know matched with a girl on tinder recently who we all knew was too perfect. Not going to say any names incase she actually is real but she claimed to be from the south Derry area. Her story was that she was a dentist and that her friends had her on tinder "to get bucked". She had arranged to meet him one night in a forest park then went cold.
A few of us done some research and found nobody with her name on the dentist register. Reverse Google image of her photos showed nothing either.
So the moral of the story is don't get too excited if you match with a worldie. ;D
Quote from: RedHand88 on June 29, 2022, 06:13:33 PM
Someone I know matched with a girl on tinder recently who we all knew was too perfect. Not going to say any names incase she actually is real but she claimed to be from the south Derry area. Her story was that she was a dentist and that her friends had her on tinder "to get bucked". She had arranged to meet him one night in a forest park then went cold.
A few of us done some research and found nobody with her name on the dentist register. Reverse Google image of her photos showed nothing either.
So the moral of the story is don't get too excited if you match with a worldie. ;D
Was he an intercounty footballer?
Quote from: Loughshore2022 on June 29, 2022, 05:41:32 PM
I am an 'incel' (Involuntary celibate aka life long bachelor in Irish terms). You may have heard about people like me from the radical left media, I was actually banned from Reddit Ireland for trying to start a discussion on Irish incels so that shows you how we are treated. Reddit have banned all our forums at this stage.
Anyway, in the worldwide incel forum I occasionally use there are countless "Tinder experiments" when ugly men use a fake photo of a tall handsome man and the way these men get treated is unbearable to watch. These men can get away with anything, they can get away with being racist, being misogynistic, being unemployed,etc and women will still fawn over them. This isn't just in USA, there have been experiments carried out everywhere. I carried out an experiment on Tinder in 2019 with a photo of a chizeled jawed hunk and the matches came rolling in. They were a bit more reserved than the American and English women to be fair but I still managed to find a few wild girls who would have met up with this fake hunk. I don't do experiments any more as is it bad for your mental health seeing what some men's lives are like on easy mode.
For any aging bachelor's I would recommend the MGTOW community (Men going their own way). If you Google it there are a lot of groups for men who have given up on women because of divorce settlements and bad experiences with them cheating. This is an ever growing group around the world. The radical left still hate them but not as much as they hate incels. Incels only get a bad name because there have been a few shootings attached to the community but realistically incels are peaceful. There are very very few incels in prison which sums up my point, we are not the bad guys, the normal people are the ones to watch.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VPaaIqSi-pE
When I went on tinder first and used my own profile picture I had women breaking their pelvis's to ride me. It was shocking. I'm so handsome even some men dressed up as women to try ride me. It's was out of control. I went onto an incel group and stole the picture of the ugliest one to put on my page. However due to the fact I'm unbelievably charming my ride rate only dropped by 20%. I think I'll join that group you suggested to see will that be any help. Cheers.
Quote from: Emmett on June 28, 2022, 11:01:18 PM
* Photos. Obviously vital but what type of photos? How many?
About 7 photos. One where they can get a good look at you, others where you're doing something interesting, like playing an instrument, playing a sport, putting up a shelf, or otherwise making yourself useful. I think it's good if other people are in some of your photos too, so you don't look like a hermit or couch potato. Your main pic should be one where you're doing something useful. Gulping down a pint is not a good look, and I'd keep alcohol out of the picture, but at least look like you're a bit of craic.
Think about your target audience too. If you're going for women on the mature side of their 20s then the party animal schtick isn't going to land very well compared to if you're going for early 20s. Girls in their early 30s might be looking for someone a bit more sensible, especially if they've already had a marriage under their belts.
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* Bio. Blank? Short but sweet? Deep and meaningful? Pure humour? If anyone has written a good bio don't be shy on posting it here lol
Humourous, short, and sweet. I used "Looking for hot Swedish chicks (preferably twins) for a bit of fun and games." It was a great way to weed out all the hypersensitive ones with no sense of humour.
Comb through other fellas' profiles and make a note of stuff that repeats so you can avoid it. I used to see a lot of women posting "x but not y" cliché stuff. "Confident but not cocky, healthy but not a hardcore athlete, likes a drink but not a drunkard" etc.. Big long shopping lists. Awful to read. "Comfortable staying but also going out" was another frequent flyer, and its cousin "comfortable in heels and a dress but also in a pair of jeans." You'd think they'd been copying each others' work.
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* Which apps/sites are best in Ireland? I assume paying monthly will give better results.
I'll defer to others for Ireland. Match.com was a scam - you've no way of knowing how many of the email recipients have a paid membership and can actually read your messages. I got a lot of dates out of OK Cupid, but I ultimately met my wife through Tinder.
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* Opening line advice for matches. Presumably most ladies are not going to want a generic "Hey, how are you?"
A quick greeting, and a question about something she's doing in her photos, preferably something you might have in common. Or an opinion question about something in her photos.
"I see you're from Cavan. Is it true what they say...?"
"Is that the train you take to work? How annoying was yer man beside you?"
"How did you like your trip to ______?"
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This world is completely new to me and a bit daunting tbh
Understandable.
Try not to take it too seriously. Treat it like a science experiment where you just see what works and what doesn't. Your own mentality and mental state going into it is going to be key. If you're ready to move on, but not completely desperate either, then you'll be all right. Girls can smell desperation, so the more relaxed you are the better.
Good luck!
I copied the bio i used to sell my car and got a great interest.
Good body
One previous owner
All parts in good working order
Good to ride with the top down.
Quote from: general_lee on June 29, 2022, 10:38:34 AM
Tinder is a whole riding match. Bumble probably more geared towards people more serious about a relationship.
Like someone has already said, just be yourself. No point using 10 year old pictures, lying about your interests or trying to make yourself out to be something you're not.
Another bit of advice is stay clear of women who only show photos from the neck up.
Ah yes, the old "iceberg photos," that's what I called them. Especially the ones that were taken from above, looking down on the chest. That was always hiding something. Sometimes I'd fall for it and end up meeting her only to think "Oh FFS. She's getting 20 minutes of polite conversation and then I'm away."
Quote from: Eamonnca1 on June 29, 2022, 07:12:52 PM
Quote from: general_lee on June 29, 2022, 10:38:34 AM
Tinder is a whole riding match. Bumble probably more geared towards people more serious about a relationship.
Like someone has already said, just be yourself. No point using 10 year old pictures, lying about your interests or trying to make yourself out to be something you're not.
Another bit of advice is stay clear of women who only show photos from the neck up.
Ah yes, the old "iceberg photos," that's what I called them. Especially the ones that were taken from above, looking down on the chest. That was always hiding something. Sometimes I'd fall for it and end up meeting her only to think "Oh FFS. She's getting 20 minutes of polite conversation and then I'm away."
A quick ask of the name and subsequent facebook check was always a good way to see if she was a porker or not! lol. Honestly though, if you're only getting pictures of the face and the photos are all filtered then it should ring alarm bells.
Quote from: trueblue1234 on June 29, 2022, 02:24:02 PM
Best advice is don't get too bogged down in messaging! Few txts, if going well meet for a coffee/ drink. You don't need pen friends.
Agreed. After a few message exchanges, and you've both expressed a bit of an interest, it should be enough to initiate the "we should meet" procedure.
I didn't get married until my early 40s, so I was out there in the trenches for a long time and I picked up a bit of experience that I'm happy to share.
Date venues to avoid:
- Afternoon coffee date. They end up like job interviews, they always have somewhere to go afterwards, and they get boring and hard to recall which candidate was which if you book too many of them.
- Cinema. Sitting in awkward silence beside each other with no interaction. Doesn't work on the first date, better to save it for about 3rd.
Date venues / times to try:
- Keep it later in the day, so there's less chance they have somewhere to go afterwards and you can keep it open-ended.
- Somewhere ordinary like a pub for a bit of a feed. Don't do expensive restaurants, that only attracts gold diggers or puts off ordinary women. I always found it best sitting at the bar so you could sit side by side rather than facing each other, it was more relaxed and you can comment on what's going on around you. Or if you're at a table/booth, see if you can sit at a 90 degree angle to each other.
- If you're hitting it off, suggest you go to a different venue for dessert. If you get Ice Cream then you can take it somewhere else to eat it.
- Or go to a different venue just to take a walk. You can effectively put 4 dates into one, it seems more interesting when you pack in more venues into the same evening and have a bit of walking in between them all.
- Partner dance lessons (better if this is 2nd or 3rd date and you're definitely interested). I signed my now wife up for a month-long Brazilian Zouk course after we first met. I already knew the dance, and she was happy to try it.
- If you can incorporate things into the evening like bowling, pool / snooker, or archery or whatever, it'll give you some activity you can both focus on without the pressure of having to make conversation every second, helps you both relax. Something you both haven't done before can make it a good shared experience.
- Get her up high. If there's a tall building open to the public or a hill somewhere where there's a decent view, that always makes a good impression.
Finally, I used to get dressed up all fancy like it was a job interview, all except the suit and tie. I wore a nice jacket, trousers, shirt and dress shoes. It was overkill. It's very easy to make a girl feel underdressed, which may or may not work in your favour. Better to tone it down a bit and dress the way I normally dress. Jeans and a decent shirt. I wore a red fedora just for a splash of color too. No point in trying too hard.
Was never great with the small talk in pubs in clubs, always felt it was never just her but her mates you had to impress too...
so I found what worked for me was a quick chat, id then say I'm out with mates so better get back to them but if she was free during the next week or two we could get a food/drink and ask for her number..... I was always a better communicator 1 on 1 and sober and not shouting over music... very low failure rate for me anyway and I'm no prize!!
would agree with eamonna1 first 4 bullet points on the venues... I went the same places for first 3/4 dates every time... it worked in getting to know them so why change...
I tried online but it was very different around 07/08... match.com!!!
Never used online and unless herself up and leaves me, never will. But my experience is if a girl likes you they will let you know. Ditch any type of corny chat up lines. Also if you chase too much, they will lose interest. You need to maintain an air of mystery and confidence. If they text, don't be breaking your neck to answer it. Never be a yes man either. That totally turns a woman off. You start doing that stuff you will end being a friend, not a boyfriend.
Quote from: Loughshore2022 on June 29, 2022, 05:41:32 PM
I am an 'incel' (Involuntary celibate aka life long bachelor in Irish terms). You may have heard about people like me from the radical left media, I was actually banned from Reddit Ireland for trying to start a discussion on Irish incels so that shows you how we are treated. Reddit have banned all our forums at this stage.
Anyway, in the worldwide incel forum I occasionally use there are countless "Tinder experiments" when ugly men use a fake photo of a tall handsome man and the way these men get treated is unbearable to watch. These men can get away with anything, they can get away with being racist, being misogynistic, being unemployed,etc and women will still fawn over them. This isn't just in USA, there have been experiments carried out everywhere. I carried out an experiment on Tinder in 2019 with a photo of a chizeled jawed hunk and the matches came rolling in. They were a bit more reserved than the American and English women to be fair but I still managed to find a few wild girls who would have met up with this fake hunk. I don't do experiments any more as is it bad for your mental health seeing what some men's lives are like on easy mode.
For any aging bachelor's I would recommend the MGTOW community (Men going their own way). If you Google it there are a lot of groups for men who have given up on women because of divorce settlements and bad experiences with them cheating. This is an ever growing group around the world. The radical left still hate them but not as much as they hate incels. Incels only get a bad name because there have been a few shootings attached to the community but realistically incels are peaceful. There are very very few incels in prison which sums up my point, we are not the bad guys, the normal people are the ones to watch.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VPaaIqSi-pE
Your Online dating advice is to join a group of men who cry about not being able to talk to women?
Quote from: 03,05,08 on June 30, 2022, 11:33:36 AM
Quote from: Loughshore2022 on June 29, 2022, 05:41:32 PM
I am an 'incel' (Involuntary celibate aka life long bachelor in Irish terms). You may have heard about people like me from the radical left media, I was actually banned from Reddit Ireland for trying to start a discussion on Irish incels so that shows you how we are treated. Reddit have banned all our forums at this stage.
Anyway, in the worldwide incel forum I occasionally use there are countless "Tinder experiments" when ugly men use a fake photo of a tall handsome man and the way these men get treated is unbearable to watch. These men can get away with anything, they can get away with being racist, being misogynistic, being unemployed,etc and women will still fawn over them. This isn't just in USA, there have been experiments carried out everywhere. I carried out an experiment on Tinder in 2019 with a photo of a chizeled jawed hunk and the matches came rolling in. They were a bit more reserved than the American and English women to be fair but I still managed to find a few wild girls who would have met up with this fake hunk. I don't do experiments any more as is it bad for your mental health seeing what some men's lives are like on easy mode.
For any aging bachelor's I would recommend the MGTOW community (Men going their own way). If you Google it there are a lot of groups for men who have given up on women because of divorce settlements and bad experiences with them cheating. This is an ever growing group around the world. The radical left still hate them but not as much as they hate incels. Incels only get a bad name because there have been a few shootings attached to the community but realistically incels are peaceful. There are very very few incels in prison which sums up my point, we are not the bad guys, the normal people are the ones to watch.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VPaaIqSi-pE
Your Online dating advice is to join a group of men who cry about not being able to talk to women?
has to be a wind up. tinder experiments ;D
Unknowingly dated 2 best friends on consecutive nights, had a moment of clarity and realisation on the second night when I got told about the same summer holiday and plans for new year, good oul craic. Both first dates and unceremoniously unmatched by both the next day when they must have compared weekend notes.
Made a profile called Rasputin with one pic of the Russian mystic a comedy blurb and the rest pics of myself, that was very much filtering by sense of humour, with the best part being messaged in native Russian by a Russki.
Met a few great women on the apps. If you want a serious relationship maybe try being more selective/swiping less and setting the bar (appropriately) high, otherwise you'll find yourself wasting an awful lot of time on small talk/pen pals.
Quote from: Mikhail Prokhorov on June 30, 2022, 12:05:01 PM
Quote from: 03,05,08 on June 30, 2022, 11:33:36 AM
Quote from: Loughshore2022 on June 29, 2022, 05:41:32 PM
I am an 'incel' (Involuntary celibate aka life long bachelor in Irish terms). You may have heard about people like me from the radical left media, I was actually banned from Reddit Ireland for trying to start a discussion on Irish incels so that shows you how we are treated. Reddit have banned all our forums at this stage.
Anyway, in the worldwide incel forum I occasionally use there are countless "Tinder experiments" when ugly men use a fake photo of a tall handsome man and the way these men get treated is unbearable to watch. These men can get away with anything, they can get away with being racist, being misogynistic, being unemployed,etc and women will still fawn over them. This isn't just in USA, there have been experiments carried out everywhere. I carried out an experiment on Tinder in 2019 with a photo of a chizeled jawed hunk and the matches came rolling in. They were a bit more reserved than the American and English women to be fair but I still managed to find a few wild girls who would have met up with this fake hunk. I don't do experiments any more as is it bad for your mental health seeing what some men's lives are like on easy mode.
For any aging bachelor's I would recommend the MGTOW community (Men going their own way). If you Google it there are a lot of groups for men who have given up on women because of divorce settlements and bad experiences with them cheating. This is an ever growing group around the world. The radical left still hate them but not as much as they hate incels. Incels only get a bad name because there have been a few shootings attached to the community but realistically incels are peaceful. There are very very few incels in prison which sums up my point, we are not the bad guys, the normal people are the ones to watch.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VPaaIqSi-pE
Your Online dating advice is to join a group of men who cry about not being able to talk to women?
has to be a wind up. tinder experiments ;D
Yup. Can disregard everything that person says. That's going to a dark place, where he's talking about.
Quote from: RedHand88 on June 29, 2022, 06:13:33 PM
Someone I know matched with a girl on tinder recently who we all knew was too perfect. Not going to say any names incase she actually is real but she claimed to be from the south Derry area. Her story was that she was a dentist and that her friends had her on tinder "to get bucked". She had arranged to meet him one night in a forest park then went cold.
A few of us done some research and found nobody with her name on the dentist register. Reverse Google image of her photos showed nothing either.
So the moral of the story is don't get too excited if you match with a worldie. ;D
That's sinister. Best to meet in a public place with plenty of people about. Safer for her and safer for you.
Hinge has a good few users in Ireland and is better than Tinder I'd say. Few friends had success on there. Tinder is by far the most popular though a lot of non serious users on it.
"Get some m*nge at hinge*
If thats not their slogan it should be
I used a social media dating messaging device and met a girl from Cushendall on it. We went out for a few pints after having messaged for about 29 weeks. It went well but I sort of antagonised her eventually and he threatened to have me shot. Apart from that it was a great experience and people shouldn't be hung up on dating devices. I would bring a friend though when meeting up and get them to sit adjacent from you reading a paper etc but have a weapon concealed.
Quote from: Olly on July 02, 2022, 08:49:21 AM
I used a social media dating messaging device and met a girl from Cushendall on it. We went out for a few pints after having messaged for about 29 weeks. It went well but I sort of antagonised her eventually and he threatened to have me shot. Apart from that it was a great experience and people shouldn't be hung up on dating devices. I would bring a friend though when meeting up and get them to sit adjacent from you reading a paper etc but have a weapon concealed.
Transvestite or transgender? Wouldn't be into that but good luck to you.