The Official Daddies Club

Avondhu star · February 10, 2018, 10:54:18 PM

Quote from: Jell 0 Biafra on February 10, 2018, 08:45:36 PM
Quote from: Dougal Maguire on February 10, 2018, 08:34:51 PM
Welcome on board. Enjoy every minute of it. They grow up so quickly

Everyone always says this. Not true. Takes them ages.

Time passes at the same rate for everyone.

Dougal Maguire · February 11, 2018, 01:12:07 AM

Have either of you got children?

Jell 0 Biafra · February 11, 2018, 01:17:12 AM

Indeed I do. Have you?

Dougal Maguire · February 11, 2018, 01:25:01 AM

Yup and a grandson who's just 10 weeks old and staying with us for a few days while his parents take a well earned break. Seems like his dad was born only yesterday. What age are your kids?

Jell 0 Biafra · February 11, 2018, 01:34:45 AM

Officially, he's two. But he's been around for at least ten years as far as I can tell.

Dougal Maguire · February 11, 2018, 01:40:23 AM

Indeed. Come back when he's 22 and tell me how long it seems he's been around then.

Jell 0 Biafra · February 11, 2018, 01:42:50 AM

Frankly, I don't think I'll make it till then. But if I do, I'll let you know.

Dougal Maguire · February 11, 2018, 01:55:15 AM

It gets easier I promise you. Look forward to hearing from you in 2028. Me, I'm looking forward to my grandson representing our Club in the 2031 Feile. I'll be 71 then

JimStynes · February 12, 2018, 01:21:11 PM

Lads in clinging to hope and praying for a miracle. Has anyone heard anything like this before and if there is a chance for the baby to live. I'm copying and pasting from a text message so it might not make sense:

We were seen by the consultant again this morning and scanned again. Both twins still had heartbeats. Top twin is still fine, bottom twin still surviving but with all of it's amniotic fluid gone from the sac (PROM) it's getting squashed, no room to develop so will be abnormal and will die. Cervix was slightly open the other day but hasn't changed since then and not bleeding much at all.

Just home, we'll be back in every other day for check ups. We just have to wait it out for now but the odds aren't in our favour. We have no idea how long this could take, hours days weeks.

If the wife starts to cramp and heavy bleed, it's game over. The healthy twin will miscarry along with the poorly twin as it's too little to survive the miscarriage process. For now we just wait and see. The wait and unknown is a horrible. By the end of the week I'll have a better idea but it's like a living nightmare at the minute and I don't even know if I could face work this next while. I'm not a religious person but I'm praying for a miracle.

Rois · February 12, 2018, 01:30:12 PM

Sounds like a living nightmare Jim.

How far along are the twins? Have they given your wife the growth hormones?

I have not been through this personally but a good friend has faced the threat of early labour throughout her pregnancies (having miscarried a number of times) and she has thoroughly researched and found so many "miracles" that have come out of similar circumstances.

Keep positive and phone in sick and be there with your wife. Thoughts are with you.

JimStynes · February 12, 2018, 01:42:25 PM

We are at 13 weeks. There is no hope for one of the babies but I'm praying for a miracle that the second one lives. Im just trying and looking at everything that could possibly help. A total nightmare.

trueblue1234 · February 12, 2018, 01:46:41 PM

Quote from: JimStynes on February 12, 2018, 01:21:11 PM
Lads in clinging to hope and praying for a miracle. Has anyone heard anything like this before and if there is a chance for the baby to live. I'm copying and pasting from a text message so it might not make sense:

We were seen by the consultant again this morning and scanned again. Both twins still had heartbeats. Top twin is still fine, bottom twin still surviving but with all of it's amniotic fluid gone from the sac (PROM) it's getting squashed, no room to develop so will be abnormal and will die. Cervix was slightly open the other day but hasn't changed since then and not bleeding much at all.

Just home, we'll be back in every other day for check ups. We just have to wait it out for now but the odds aren't in our favour. We have no idea how long this could take, hours days weeks.

If the wife starts to cramp and heavy bleed, it's game over. The healthy twin will miscarry along with the poorly twin as it's too little to survive the miscarriage process. For now we just wait and see. The wait and unknown is a horrible. By the end of the week I'll have a better idea but it's like a living nightmare at the minute and I don't even know if I could face work this next while. I'm not a religious person but I'm praying for a miracle.

Very Tough Jim. Nothing you can do other than be there and hope (Or pray).

Sometimes hope is all we have, but while you have it, try and be positive.

Best wishes.

grounded · February 12, 2018, 02:58:09 PM

Thoughts and prayers for you Jim

The Iceman · February 12, 2018, 04:35:13 PM

praying for you all -exhaust every avenue and see every specialist you can to find a solution - can't imagine the anguish you are going through

laceer · February 12, 2018, 09:01:16 PM

Good luck JimStynes.